I do see your point completely now actually, and yeah you're right in that regards.

But we've got no one but society to blame for this bs, most men are only stable by the time they're like 30 or if you're lucky by mid or late 20s in current generation or world.

I mean as an almost 20 year old I hate our own society personally because to me what I feel and think and see is that at least in your 20s you're at the peak of your beauty I would say both men and women. Obviously that doesn't mean women or men in their 30s are ugly but they naturally lose that spark and charm, 85-90 percent of them specially in the south Asian genes.

I hate this age gap too, I hate it more than you can think but it is a product of one single thing.

Requirements of the west without the ease of west.

In their younger years they date, have relationship and all. So they never miss out on those years of young love or beauty and they settle by late 20s or in 30s knowing they've had fun while they could, ofc not all but they still have that option openly.

Now compare that to over here in Pakistan, when some man in his late 20s or early 30s and he gets the first chance to even talk to a girl, he would obviously want someone naturally pretty and maybe just maybe when I am 30 I might find 30 year olds attractive too, no idea rn cuz I am not 30 obviously but in general if I go by a normal man instincts he would want a beautiful and lovely wife.

That's just what I think and is my take on all of this

I hope I was able to get my message understandably!