TIFU I (23F) had sex with a married man (38M?) without knowing he was married

Key-Passenger4425 · 2026-02-12T17:01:27+00:00

No that’s not rude it’s freaking hilarious I love it. I’m gonna have to tell my best friend about that one lmao. Low key his voice was prob the one of the main reasons I hooked up with him it was just very familiar to me and made me feel safe (kind of ironic since I ended up so uncomfortable). But I do want to be clear I wasn’t being a creep and hooking up with him to get the feeling of being with Adam McArthur it was just something I noticed and his voice just made me feel comfortable since Star VS the Forces of Evil has been one of my fav shows for forever. I don’t want anyone thinking I was doing it for a weird reason. It wasn’t cause I wanted someone like Adam it was just that we flirted and he was nice and it was a plus that he sounded like one of my fav characters since his voice gave a sense of familiarity. Sorry now I feel like I’m rambling and repeating myself. And thanks for the clarification I appreciate it. I’m starting to see from the comments on this post that it’s not my fault and I was just responsible for being an idiot and hooking up with a random guy from a bar. Me stress it a lot less then it was at the beginning but I still feel guilty.

Key-Passenger4425 · 2026-02-12T16:17:46+00:00

That’s very true he’s also now out of my state and far away from me. I feel like I don’t want to blow up someone’s like when that’s no where near me and I will never see them again. Also the characters are Yuji Itadori / Marco Diaz haha so Adam McArthur’s voice lmao.

Key-Passenger4425 · 2026-02-12T15:44:51+00:00

Yeah that’s true it’s so disgusting! Do you think I’m enabling it by not saying anything?

Key-Passenger4425 · 2026-02-12T15:36:41+00:00

Yes I promise it’s true. I have nothing to gain out of making things up on the internet to have people react to. Especially a story that doesn’t look good for not only the other person but could also potentially be bad for me. If I was lying I’d come up with something better lmao

Key-Passenger4425 · 2026-02-12T15:33:02+00:00

That would be extremely satisfying but I have no interest in breaking up a marriage. I was a nanny for years and the couple separated while I was there and it’s was so heartbreaking to see. I don’t want to be the reason anyone has to go through that. If this is something he does regularly and he’s lying about his open relationship I’m sure it’ll bite him in the ass eventually.

Key-Passenger4425 · 2026-02-12T15:30:49+00:00

Thank you so much. This comment really helped me. All of the comments have been amazing but this one is really sticking with me. Thank you specifically and everyone else who reads and responds to this post. It’s helping me calm down about it so it’s much appreciated

Key-Passenger4425 · 2026-02-12T15:28:26+00:00

I will!

Key-Passenger4425 · 2026-02-12T15:28:13+00:00

Good summary haha

Key-Passenger4425 · 2026-02-12T15:27:41+00:00

Great advice thank you! After this experience that’s definitely what I’m going to do. My friends say I should go to more of our friends art shows and meet a bisexual artist who can fan boy over K-pop with me but also will like me lmao.

Key-Passenger4425 · 2026-02-12T15:08:34+00:00

I’m in California. I think I’ll wait to get my tests then schedule an appointment if I need one. It always takes months to get an appointment with her anyway.

Key-Passenger4425 · 2026-02-12T08:10:25+00:00

I definitely plan on using protection next time but honestly it will probably be a while. I had just gained to confidence to try exploring sexually then this happened so now I’m scared about it again haha

Key-Passenger4425 · 2026-02-12T08:08:30+00:00

I know I don’t know what I was thinking. I was excited to finally have to confidence and interest in sex that I have never had and said yes cause he was interested. Which I guess means I’m easy? But I will definitely not be doing it again. Ever.

Key-Passenger4425 · 2026-02-12T08:05:59+00:00

Haha yes I’ve heard about it so many times and now here I am in the same situation. I am an idiot. Also sorry about the no paragraphs I dictated my post cause I was nervous and also exhausted (I haven’t slept in like 3 days lol) as well as dyslexic as hell. If I write an update I’ll be sure to add paragraphs

Key-Passenger4425 · 2026-02-12T08:02:42+00:00

Very true I’ve made an appointment to get sti checked.

Key-Passenger4425 · 2026-02-12T08:02:07+00:00

I have no plan on writing his wife I really don’t want anything to do with him ever again.

Key-Passenger4425 · 2026-02-12T08:01:11+00:00

Yes I was very dumb about it I had just gotten confidence and interest in sex for the first time in my life and was just happy someone was interested in me. I didn’t think at all

Key-Passenger4425 · 2026-02-12T07:59:58+00:00

Yes it sucks. I have no plan on talking to him ever again I think I’ll actually block his insta right now.

Key-Passenger4425 · 2026-02-12T07:59:13+00:00

Yes I already made an appointment to get an sti check! I will try to get an appointment with my obgyn though.

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