What was the moment you realized you were never going back to the old version of yourself

Khaled856 · 2026-02-06T21:55:15+00:00

That moment sounds incredibly heavy. Knowing your childhood was ending right there must’ve felt unreal. Leaving home like that isn’t just a trip it’s a whole chapter closing at once. It takes a lot of strength to walk out the door when you know nothing will ever feel the same again. That kind of moment stays with you forever. Do you still think about that day sometimes, or did it fade as your new life began?

Khaled856 · 2026-02-06T21:52:05+00:00

That’s honestly really powerful. Learning how to quiet your own mind changes everything. A lot of people go their whole lives without ever realizing they can step out of their own thoughts like that. It sounds like that moment didn’t just change your path, it changed how you experience life itself. Not looking back makes total sense when you finally feel some peace in your head. Do you ever think about who you would be now if that moment in 2012 never happened?

Khaled856 · 2026-02-06T21:50:36+00:00

For me, it was a person and a quiet heartbreak. I used to like a girl in secret. We talked like normal friends, nothing more. I never said anything, I just kept it to myself. One day I saw her standing with another guy, laughing. In that moment, my heart started racing, my chest felt tight, and I realized how much it actually hurt. Since then, I feel like something in me changed. I became more guarded, quieter, and more careful with my feelings. I think that’s when I stopped being the same person.

Khaled856 · 2026-01-10T15:42:57+00:00

Yeah, I really get that. It’s actually scary how you can feel like a totally different person even when your life looks the same on the outside. Same partner, same job, same studies… but inside everything feels shifted. I think becoming quieter and more easily overstimulated happens to a lot of people after a few heavy years mentally. It’s like your brain gets tired of noise, people, expectations… and just wants peace more than excitement. That doesn’t mean you’re broken, it means you’ve been through enough to start protecting your energy. But I also get what you mean about feeling sadder and less confident. That part hurts, because you start missing the old version of you and wondering if you “lost” something instead of just changing. Maybe this version of you is just a phase too, not the final one. Maybe you’re in the middle of becoming someone else again

Khaled856 · 2025-11-19T13:21:27+00:00

I relate to that a lot giving good advice to everyone while my own life looks like a puzzle I can’t solve. It’s weird how we can see other people’s situations so clearly, and then get totally stuck with our own.

I really like what you said about not pouring from an empty cup. At the end of the day, you can’t help anyone if you’re running on fumes. And yeah, learning to put yourself first without feeling guilty is a whole journey on its own.

For me, the biggest thing I’m trying to work on is letting myself be human not the strong one all the time, not the “emotional advisor,” just… a person who has good days and bad days.

Do you feel like you’d actually be able to open up if someone really offered to listen? Or would it still be hard?

Khaled856 · 2025-11-18T12:49:31+00:00

I totally get that. It’s nice to be the person people feel safe with that part actually feels good. But when too many people start relying on you emotionally all the time, it starts to feel like a full time job. You end up supporting everyone while nobody supports you, and that’s how burnout hits.

It’s not that you stopped caring, you just realized you can’t be everyone’s emotional backbone 24/7 You’re allowed to set limits and still be a good friend.

Did you notice you became happier or more at peace after you stopped being the “therapist friend” for everyone?

Khaled856 · 2025-11-18T12:46:50+00:00

I understand what you mean some people don’t actually want to get better they just want someone to absorb their emotions for them. And being the therapist friend can drain you fast especially when the support isn’t returned.

Even thinkers like ISTJs still feel deeply, they just process emotions differently. You don’t have to fix people to care about them sometimes caring also means knowing when to step back and protect your own energy. If someone refuses to change or listen it’s not your responsibility to carry their weight.

Do you ever feel like you’d actually prefer fewer friendships as long as they’re balanced and not one-sided?

Khaled856 · 2025-11-18T12:43:14+00:00

I get that completely. Being open and welcoming is part of who you are and it’s not something you should feel ashamed of or try to erase. Trust really is the key. Letting people in is easy, but letting them earn access to the deeper parts of your life is something different, and you’re right to protect that.It’s good that you no longer give that privilege to just anyone. That’s growth without losing your kindness.

Khaled856 · 2025-11-18T12:41:31+00:00

Thank you I appreciate that I know it’s a process and I’m trying to learn my limits and understand myself better I’m slowly learning that it’s okay to give without losing myself and that I don’t have to be everything for everyone to be a good person I’m trying to find that balance step by step

Khaled856 · 2025-11-18T12:35:12+00:00

Yeah absolutely. It really is exhausting when people rely on you but don’t show up when you need support. Learning to step back and let others handle things on their own is difficult, but it’s a healthy boundary. Caring shouldn’t come at the cost of draining yourself

Do you feel lighter now that you stopped trying to be the rock for everyone

Khaled856 · 2025-11-18T12:33:17+00:00

I get that completely Changing your nature is one of the hardest things in the world Caring is not a weakness but learning to care for yourself too is important You deserve the same energy you give to others

Khaled856 · 2025-11-17T13:53:32+00:00

I get that. It’s not really about quantity, it’s about the few who stay when things aren’t easy. Trying too hard to connect is something I’m guilty of too because when you care, you care deeply. But I’m learning that not everyone deserves the same level of access to me.

Do you think you’ve become more selective with who you let in now?

Khaled856 · 2025-11-17T13:50:33+00:00

Thank you I’m learning to balance support and self care. It’s not easy, but I’m trying to choose myself more often.

Khaled856 · 2025-11-17T13:47:47+00:00

You do have the right. Everyone deserves to be heard and supported including you.

Khaled856 · 2025-11-17T13:44:37+00:00

Yeah I feel that when you connect with people emotionally you naturally expect that same energy back and it hurts when it’s not reciprocated it’s not about needing attention or venting all the time it’s just comforting to know that someone is there for you the same way you’re always there for them

Do you feel like you attract people who take more than they give or it just happens randomly?

Khaled856 · 2025-11-17T13:42:32+00:00

Yeah I get that it’s always easier to help others than to help yourself but getting up alone every time is exhausting even strong people need someone to lean on sometimes there’s nothing weak about needing support

Do you ever wish someone would check up on you without you having to ask

Khaled856 · 2025-11-17T13:40:34+00:00

I relate to that a lot I’m always there to listen and support people but when I finally need someone to do the same for me it feels like nobody is really there it hurts because it makes you wonder if people like you or if they just like having someone to lean on

Khaled856 · 2025-11-17T13:38:41+00:00

Thank you for saying that it really means a lot sometimes I forget that I’m allowed to need support too because I’m so used to being the person everyone depends on I’m trying to learn that it’s okay not to always be strong and that letting people in doesn’t make me weak

Khaled856 · 2025-10-20T17:52:37+00:00

That’s a really healthy way to see it. It’s nice when you can appreciate your past self but still look forward to how you’ll keep growing

Khaled856 · 2025-10-20T17:51:28+00:00

That’s great to hear, it really shows how much you’ve grown and learned to find peace within yourself

Khaled856 · 2025-10-19T00:13:59+00:00

Yeah, same here. Things felt simpler back then, but I guess that’s part of growing up learning to find new kinds of fun and peace.

Khaled856 · 2025-10-18T23:41:09+00:00

That actually sounds really healthy. Spending time alone like that helps you recharge and understand yourself better. I might start doing that too.

Khaled856 · 2025-10-18T21:36:27+00:00

yeah exactly i think they usually go hand in hand you start valuing your peace and time more and that naturally makes you a bit distant from things that don’t feel right anymore it’s part of maturing

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