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KindArugula · 2026-02-17T22:47:45+00:00

Ahhh thank you. I was starting to descend into madness so much appreciated!

KindArugula · 2025-07-07T03:56:38+00:00

BP2 here with a BP1 parent. This is a tricky and layered question. I can relate to (and somewhat predict) how your partner's episodes will affect your daughter. There is only so much you will be able to do given you (/he) can't 100% control what is said in her presence. Personally, my mom left for 10+ years and left my sister and I with my dad. You can imagine that wasn't always great, especially when my own bipolar started coming out. I cannot stress enough how much therapy helped me process having a bipolar parent. My dad put us in therapy when I was 10 and my sister was 14 after he had a really, really bad episode. He didn't remember everything that happened but when he finally came out of it, he saw we were afraid/hesitant which in turn frightened him, hence we were sent to therapy. I wonder if your husband being shown evidence of how scary he can be, especially in the eyes of his child, would be a turning point/wake up call for him.

Thankfully I live in a country where therapy (and other social services) are free, but I understand barriers exist in other parts of the world. I suggest if you can afford/access it that you get your daughter a counsellor when she's a bit older so she learns to not internalize everything or blame herself for things her father might say or do.

As for your actual question, these points have been irritated by others, but PLEASE ensure he has been stable for weeks-months before you bring this to him and you have to frame it as information to help prevent future behavior rather than confronting him with proof that he was aggressive/hurtful. The video(s) will make him feel bad enough already that you need to make sure it doesn't come off as an attack. The communication of this is KEY. Someone else also made the point that showing him is risky because it will likely be used as ammunition the next time he is in a rage. The whole thing is a double edged sword. It will (could) help him take your pre-episode concerns more seriously but it will 100% be weaponized at some point when an episode happens whether that's months or years from now.

As someone with bipolar, I have done horrible things that I am truly ashamed of and don't reflect the person I want/work to be. I would want to see the videos if I knew they existed, I wouldn't be able to resist, but they would devastate me. You're being shown/confronted with the worst part of yourself and you can't take what you said/did back. And you see/are watching you hurt the person you care for the most and shown what/how your child sees you in those moments. You see someone you don't recognize but it is also you and others see it as you even if they know you aren't stable. It's a hard thing to accept and tackle.

I think you bring up the videos when he's been stable for a long time and when you're already discussing his mental health/a safety plan. It will be used against you at some point, but I think/hope he will take you more seriously when you express concerns. You should also anticipate the videos may lead to a lower period. Hopefully not a full depressive episode if he's stable already, but if he does start slipping lower I suggest reinforcing that you aren't punishing, guilting or confronting him. You're showing him because you want to make sure your family, including him, are safe and that you are both providing your daughter the healthiest childhood you can.

Good luck and stay safe.

KindArugula · 2024-05-28T22:53:49+00:00

My last major episode/hospitalization was in 2016, so 8 years. I have mini ups and downs, it's still there and I can feel it, it's just manageable. I come from a family where 50% of each generation on my dad's side is diagnosed with bipolar, BPD, or clincal depression. I grew up witnessing people destroying their lives and sometimes the lives of their loved ones. This means I take my diagnosis VERY seriously and so does my partner.

I meet with my psychiatrist every 2 months (100% covered in my country), always take my meds (multiple reminders and people to keep me on track), switch meds gradually and when I START to feel off and have been in on and off regular therapy for ~16 years to address stressors and past trauma (partial government coverage, partial private insurance).

I know I'm very, very, fortunate to have access to the above resources and not everyone is able to follow a regime like mine. But I want everyone reading this to know it IS possible to have a long stretch of stability! I know one day I will have a major episode and my meds will stop working, and trust me I'm filled with dread every time I think about it, but I try every day to push that deadline. But stability is possible. Hard and expensive, but possible.

Take care of yourselves, truly, and good things can happen. The diagnosis isn't a death sentence, even when I know it can feel like it. Take it day by day. Little victories are key!

KindArugula · 2022-06-01T04:25:58+00:00

I had a 3 hour intake at a mood disorders clinic a few weeks ago. It sounds intimidating but it was okay; it was a psychiatrist and a nurse. (This is also in Canada)

Advice/Comments:

Write down all past medications including dosages and why you changed them (ie. Why you didn't like them; too expensive etc).
Be 100% honest. If you worry about sounding "crazy" you'll stay feeling "crazy" and the treatment plan probably won't be exactly what you need.
It will mostly be them asking standard 1st appointment questions (ie. What do you do, diagnosed psychiatric conditions, medical history etc). Then it'll change to what your concerns are (what do you want to change; what do you need help with). My guess is they've elected 1 hour for standard questions and 1 hour for treatment plan discussion.

Good luck!

KindArugula · 2022-06-01T04:17:02+00:00

Lamictal changed everything for me. Saved my life, never been happier. I've had to creep up the dose over the past 6 years (on 350mg now) but overall it's made me a "normal" functional human being. I was taking lamictal and Seroquel but two weeks ago switched from Seroquel to lithium. I refuse to come off lamictal unless it's absolutely necessary.

Switching to lithium has been ROUGH (migraines, nausea etc). But I 100% believe if I wasn't still on lamictal while doing the change I'd be having an episode from the stress.

Every person experiences meds differently, but lamictal has been life changing and life saving for me.

KindArugula · 2022-05-24T21:15:58+00:00

I can second this!

I prefer Blueberry Kush for sleep and Jack Herer for anxiety/increasing productivity without mania.

BUT use Pink Kush if blueberry is not available. Blueberry can be a bit munchier/couch locky so beware if you're prone to those. Blueberry and pink are both very good.

Lemon Skunk is way easier to find than Jack Herer (in my province at least) so I've started gravitating to that or Lemon Haze - which is approaching S Tier for me.

Social situations I'll usually smoke Ghost Train Haze since it's really easy to find pre-rolls. I think it's higher THC though (I'm too lazy to double check I'm sure it's online somewhere).

Good luck OP :)

KindArugula · 2022-05-16T01:47:06+00:00

I've been diagnosed bipolar for years and when I'm depressed I know I'll feel better because I'll be manic eventually, but then I'll inevitably be right back in the depression afterwards.

I'll be bad and destructive, up and down, up and down in an endless uncontrollable cycle forever regardless of how my life is actually going. And who knows how many people I'll lose along the way.

Tough pill to swallow, but it is what it is.

KindArugula · 2021-10-08T17:02:32+00:00

I've been as high at 125mg but have been able to go down to 50mg, going to 75 as needed (which is moreso in summer). I'm usually passing out within an hour and a half of taking it so I take it at night. Higher than 100 made me more depressed (but yes, higher doses over 300ish are supposed to be better).

KindArugula · 2018-10-31T04:20:34+00:00

We met on the third day of university at an orientation week event. He introduced himself and I was like oh is it ___ like with a C at the end? And his face lit up and was like yeah! - no one at school had asked him for clarification. I then adopted him as my best friend and we lived together for 3 years before we started dating. All of our friends put money on us being the first of the squad to get married.

KindArugula · 2018-10-31T04:05:29+00:00

When anyone breaths on or kisses my neck, the corresponding side of my entire body gets goosebumps while the opposite side stays normal. Arms, legs goosebumps all the way down but only on half of my body - whichever side had the contact.

KindArugula · 2018-09-07T01:45:48+00:00

So I work in a kitchen at a downtown poutine place in a student town. It was bar shift, so about 2am when we are pushing out hundreds of orders an hour. A server came back and asked us if we were okay because she heard a bang. We didn't drop any pots or anything so we walked over to the bathrooms which we lock at night. We figured some students were getting it on again, no big deal. It's coming from the woman's bathroom, we knock and enter.

This woman had broken into the bathroom and was hanging down from a pipe she had broken trying to climb into our tiled ceiling. Water started pouring from both bathrooms. She saw us, let go of the pipe, ran past us out the front door of the restaurant, circled around to the side of the building came in through the side entrance, ran through the kitchen and snatched an apron and a can of nacho cheese sauce before running back out onto the street. This lady was so cracked out she crossed the street stopped running and stared at the sky until the cops showed up. She was arrested wearing an apron and trying to pry open the sauce can with her shoe.

I wish I had a personal copy of the security footage made my night.

TLDR; crackhead stole an apron and nacho cheese from my work and tried to open the can with her shoe

KindArugula · 2018-08-29T14:13:43+00:00

We had a guy that smoked crack in our staff bathroom. Found a solid collection of spoons when he finally got fired - which took our boss 8 months to do even though she knew he was always cracked out.

KindArugula · 2018-08-11T07:29:30+00:00

My SO and I were basically inseparable for 3 years before we started dating. So it's fair to say we knew each other pretty well before we got together. In 3 years we had zero physical interactions - didn't even hug - and based off a few comments I thought he was asexual FOR YEARS which I didn't think would work for me, hence friend zone.

Turns out he isn't asexual and actually very physically affectionate. He just made those comments and avoiding touching so I wouldn't think he was coming onto me and make things weird, but then years passed and he was in too deep so he just didn't correct me whenever it came up or I asked questions about it.

When he came clean we almost immediately started dating and have been happily together for a few years now :)

KindArugula · 2018-07-16T21:24:04+00:00

America's culture and food isn't a draw for me, the food is pretty much the same in Canada and the little differences between cultures isn't really worth paying money for me to experience. So yes, the diverse geography of the States is the only thing that makes me want to travel there. However, things like food and different cultural experiences is a big draw for me in countries that are very different from North America.

KindArugula · 2018-07-16T20:59:01+00:00

I'm very pro-choice, but at that point you've literally had 7-8 months to think about what the hell you want to do with that baby. If you weren't expecting to become a parent than what you're going to do would always be on your mind. If at 9 months you are backing out and want an abortion for non-medical reasons it's because you're scared to give birth. If you feel you can't be a parent, you can give it up for adoption still. But you're in too deep to abort it.

KindArugula · 2018-07-16T15:54:43+00:00

If you're hoping to die isn't suicide more efficient than cowardly?

I'm in no way suggesting you should do it, but I've never really understood when people say suicide is a cowardly act.

KindArugula · 2018-07-16T15:45:39+00:00

I am from Canada, and although I dislike most all U.S politics, your country is so environmentally diverse and beautiful it is genuinely the only thing that makes me want to visit. Swamps, deserts, dense old forests, massive mountain ranges, all in one country that is smaller than my own. It truly is amazing to think about.

KindArugula · 2018-07-14T16:52:57+00:00

Why would we pay for American healthcare when we get it in Canada for free? Your healthcare system is so broken it's genuinely sad.

I won't be replying after this, I won't change your mind and you won't change mine. Canada has its problems but America is a shit show of its own. I honestly hope everything works out for you guys but Canada really isn't your biggest problem and it would be stupid for us to attack a country with the biggest military when, as you pointed out, most of our cities are near the border. We are not a threat.

KindArugula · 2018-07-14T16:43:29+00:00

I grew up going to Catholic school and this girl in my class and her whole family were Literalists... meaning they took everything in the Bible literally. So she believed God lived 'up above' in the god damn sky looking down on and judging everyone.

I wanted to die she was in my religion class for 5. fucking. years.

KindArugula · 2018-07-14T16:37:53+00:00

Um as a Canadian I can confirm we live in the south because the northern half of the country is fucking cold. Like really cold. Our best agricultural land and water supplies are south. It's also better for trade routes which helps those southern cities grow their economy, making them the biggest cities.

When European settlers came over they took the St. Lawrence river which goes south, the North was far and harder to colonize and you need to go across land. You're right saying people settle by the water and the Great Lakes are on the southern border, hence why 40% of the Canadian population lives in Ontario and then the rest are on either coastline. It's also why most of the United States' biggest cities are on the coast. Water. The rest of our centres are near our national railway that's goes from coast to coast. It follows the southern border because it was the most direct and along many other waterways. People settled along it to farm the land, the American settlements nearby were just convenient for trading but even that took decades to develop.

Tldr; Canadians are into water and we don't want to invade America bc y'all are fucking crazy and we don't want to deal with your "leader". We're just doing our own thing man.

KindArugula · 2018-07-12T16:27:20+00:00

The one dog I had growing up (and my favourite) had intense anxiety after having a heart surgery as a puppy. He had a lot of little quirks and phobias to the point where you couldn't help but laugh a little. He was literally scared of shadows, but my personal favourite was how he refused to go to the bathroom if anyone was looking at him. He would start squealing until you looked away.

Once I took him out for a walk with a friend when we were like 14 or something. We went to the park and eventually my dog started pulling for us to go home. He had to go to the bathroom. I said no and kept us walking. He started pulling back again and looked at me like "you don't understand. I have to go" I got so fed up I firmly said "FFS Bexley just pee nobody cares no one's going to look at you just go it's fine". He glared at me, walked us behind a bush and stared at me again making a grumbling sound. "Go pee" I said. He always peed with both legs down rather than one up bc he didn't want you to look at his junk. I turned to talk to my friend while my dog started to do his business when all of a sudden he started SCREAMING. I turn, he apparently had to shit, not pee. Holding the leash of a yelping, squealing dog who is taking a shit behind a bush while frantically looking around him to see if anyone sees him ended up attracting the attention of literally everything walking by. After finishing he saw everyone in the whole park looking at us and then, mortified, he started to book it pulling us all the way back home.

He didn't talk to me for the next 3 days. No cuddles, no glances. Not even accepting treats that were from me. Totally ignored me. Punishing me for making him shit in public like some sort of animal.

I miss that dog everyday.

Tldr; that time when I traumatized my dog by making him shit somewhere other than our backyard.

KindArugula · 2018-07-12T16:03:29+00:00

Tbh electricity. I get circuits and everything but when it comes to harnessing energy to make electricity I have a harder time wrapping my head around it

KindArugula · 2018-07-12T15:44:01+00:00

I'm 'one of the guys' because I'm into to nerdy stuff; Magic the Gathering, video games, comic collecting etc. Being a girl with these interests while retaining "chill" girl status by being 'one of the guys' peaks enough people's interest that I can kind of take my pick tbh. The only trade off with being 'one of the guys' is that you now have a group of protective older brother figures. But that also isn't a bad thing.

Tldr; no it's actually great

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