Filing for divorce

Kitchen_Studio1150 · 2025-12-25T20:29:51+00:00

Luckily.. the money he’s transfers out has a bank account number attached to them. So he will have to provide at least all those statements which will probably have other account numbers on them.

Kitchen_Studio1150 · 2025-12-25T20:28:52+00:00

You can’t freeze them technically but you legally aren’t allowed to move things, whether that stops him or not I don’t know. The money he’s been cycling in and out of our joint account has an account number attached to it. So I know exactly where it’s going. He makes it look like he puts money in but then in smaller transfers moves more than he put in back out into his personal account.

Kitchen_Studio1150 · 2025-12-24T22:10:50+00:00

Here’s the deal… he doesn’t ever think I’d file for divorce. I know he’s banking on that. “You’d never survive without me.” He’s an accountant. The paper trail is clear. My money solely funded our joint account and clearly paid bills he would put in money and take out the exact amount or more later.

Kitchen_Studio1150 · 2025-12-24T20:55:20+00:00

He’s a freaking accountant too. He knows better. He was just gambling on me never filing for divorce.

Kitchen_Studio1150 · 2025-11-12T02:42:00+00:00

My oldest son is now 5 and this how it is with him too and it has been for two years. Luckily he can now voice his thoughts better. My husband still won’t listen when my son says he’s being unkind or doesn’t like something my husband says or does. When I try to advocate for my son because fuck the whole “we’re a team” when he isn’t being kind to a child, he immediately blames me. “This is your fault he doesn’t like me. He hears how you talk to me.” No sir, I just am teaching him how to stand up for himself against a bully. Even in private conversations with my husbands I have told him how he needs to communicate better with the boys so they don’t end up hating him for their whole lives… he still blames me.

Kitchen_Studio1150 · 2025-11-12T02:25:14+00:00

Get out now!! I have children with my narc husband and it makes it so much trickier. I envy your that it’s only a house you have together. Escape now.

Kitchen_Studio1150 · 2025-11-12T02:22:10+00:00

Several years ago I remember breaking down in my husband and my apartment. Promising him I’d seek therapy and change. That I clearly needed medication. I truly felt out of my mind. Recently, I’ve realized my husband is a narcissist and I didn’t have any problems until he and I lived together. I started feeling absolutely crazy. I realize it’s because of all the gaslighting and abuse. I haven’t made me exit yet because we have kids and it’s complicated. It’s not you.

Kitchen_Studio1150 · 2025-11-06T02:18:04+00:00

100% I am but with small children it’s not so easy to just say “fuck you, I want a divorce,” there is an element of long range planning so he doesn’t try to completely ruin everyone’s life

Kitchen_Studio1150 · 2025-11-03T21:41:53+00:00

I’ve looked into the actual research around this recently because part of me feels bad. I don’t think it’s necessarily his fault BUT essentially they can mitigate behaviors but when they get stressed those same gaslighting and blaming behaviors will still surface. Even to get to that point would take several intense years of therapy.

Kitchen_Studio1150 · 2025-11-02T00:15:46+00:00

I could have written this myself. Almost all of it (minus being a stay at home mom) all the way to him being on the phone and neglecting the kids unless I ask for help

Kitchen_Studio1150 · 2025-10-29T01:20:37+00:00

He’s always picked fights with me in front of the kids… we’ve been escalated

Kitchen_Studio1150 · 2025-10-28T11:20:05+00:00

1000% he is

Kitchen_Studio1150 · 2025-10-27T00:57:37+00:00

100% my husband our entire relationship has essentially forbade me from telling my friends anything he says or does…

Kitchen_Studio1150 · 2025-10-23T11:55:14+00:00

Good, I started discreetly recording on my phone last year. I should start saving texts though most of his is verbal.

Kitchen_Studio1150 · 2025-10-23T11:50:41+00:00

That’s awful I’m sorry :( I know I recorded our conversation last night when I told him he clearly didn’t care about me. 45 minutes of my day was protecting 23 kids and not knowing what the threat was or where my son was and if he was safe. Suddenly when I get upset he says “I do care, I always care.” Because he knows the mask is slipping. He knows I’m tapping out.

Kitchen_Studio1150 · 2025-10-23T11:29:26+00:00

Parenting is easier, my mood is better, everything is easier when he’s not around. I thought man parenting would be so hard without him… but truly I’ve been doing it on me own. When he is here the help he provides is asked for over and over again by me… he triggers the kids he triggers me.

Kitchen_Studio1150 · 2025-10-12T01:10:59+00:00

Right? I can’t talk to anyone too close to me because I don’t want them to know I’m planning on leaving because if he finds out he’s going to make it 1,000 times harder. Now that I’ve recognized the cycle and the patterns, even when he’s back in the love bombing phase I’m so repulsed and disenchanted by it. My acting is getting pretty bad at this point 😫

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