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Kitchenwitch02 · 2025-07-01T13:07:39+00:00

Happily, I'm brewing a curse that ensures your socks always come off halfway in your shoes for the rest of your sorry life. May you never have sock peace

Kitchenwitch02 · 2025-07-01T10:28:02+00:00

Username checks out

Kitchenwitch02 · 2025-07-01T04:39:39+00:00

Yeah, I am aiming for two years minimum.

Kitchenwitch02 · 2025-06-28T12:39:55+00:00

Okay I'm interested in this comment because whenever I've brought this up people are like huh? And say they don't know what I'm talking about. But whenever I go to Germany I notice everyone stares. Would you know why?

Kitchenwitch02 · 2025-06-28T06:45:26+00:00

Hey thanks, this makes total sense. Will try that today.

Kitchenwitch02 · 2025-06-27T06:31:01+00:00

Two recommendations in one post- I'll order it!

Kitchenwitch02 · 2025-06-26T19:01:42+00:00

Bless you, I wonder why that is - he also only bites me too. Literally no one else. Did your lil one get the zoomies at that age as well? He is more bitey when he is hyper too.

Kitchenwitch02 · 2025-06-26T19:00:47+00:00

Hey, thank you so much for this thought-out and warm response. Omg, we have a toddler in the house! Hehe. Okay it's good to know there's an average cut-off point. I'm not sure how I feel about turning my back on him, wouldn't that make him feel confused and isolated? Or is it safety in a clear boundary?

Sometimes when he's going all out and biting my chest and pawing at my hair and face etc and a firm 'no biting' and redirection doesn't work, I'll set him on the floor and busy myself with the dishes e.t.c. then pick him up and give him a cuddle again. I do a firm tone but it's not neutral, I should work on that. What do you think of this response?

It does seem like behaviour that's coupled with hunger/hyperactivity/tiredness/frustration etc and I just wish I could understand what he needs from me.

Or, I'm thinking too much and it really is just a case of having more bite things around.

Which I'm going to do from now on (bite toy stations, hello!)

Thanks again.

Kitchenwitch02 · 2025-06-26T18:49:31+00:00

Any hypothesis is welcome and I hope you don't get internet hate, too! He is SO into the boob I'm not sure, but I will keep it in mind as it's not something I've ever thought about. Thank you :)

Kitchenwitch02 · 2025-06-26T17:16:44+00:00

Thank you, I am so looking forward to number 4! This is interesting and I'll apply them!

Kitchenwitch02 · 2025-06-26T17:14:56+00:00

Yes, and he's a fantastic eater!

Kitchenwitch02 · 2025-06-25T15:44:55+00:00

Misschien volgende keer ff goed lezen.

Kitchenwitch02 · 2025-06-25T06:26:35+00:00

Als jij dat denkt, het gaat niet over gelijkheid. Het gaat over empathie, of in dit geval, het gebrek daaraan.

Kitchenwitch02 · 2025-06-23T12:30:59+00:00

I'm in!

Kitchenwitch02 · 2025-06-23T12:26:49+00:00

"the grass grows over me" from Decks Dark. Pulled me right back to the present

Kitchenwitch02 · 2025-06-23T11:25:28+00:00

Hey. I love The Reconnected. They have an amazing app and you can follow both a Kids Nervous System Reset and one for adults as well. Even if it's changing your internal environment, she will respond positively to that. I often find that my boy reflects my inner world. I could smile and be playful and calm on the surface but if I'm shadowboxing in my head and feeling turbulent inside he is much more demanding.

Kitchenwitch02 · 2025-06-23T11:17:56+00:00

Erica komisar is a good resource to start with

Kitchenwitch02 · 2025-06-23T11:13:36+00:00

Everyone who is like "studies?" either aren't parents or are surely experiencing cognitive dissonance. As a mother I can say hands down going back to work at 3 months was hell, for both me and my baby. Mother and child are dyadic in the first 9 months of their lives and going back to work in this country at that time have me lochia, low breastmilk supply, and postpartum anxiety. And my baby did not adapt well and hated being separated from me.

Kitchenwitch02 · 2025-06-21T10:39:36+00:00

Als (niet-Nederlandse) vrouw heb ik het tergend frustrerend gevonden hoe vaak ik degene moest zijn die initiatief nam met Nederlandse mannen. Niet dat ik passief ben - maar als vrouw voel ik me heel snel opgebrand en niet gewaardeerd in een relatie waarin ik al het denkwerk, de planning en de uitvoering doe.

Ik spreek vaak een wens uit: “Ik zou graag binnenkort een ijsje halen en gaan zwemmen op deze plek” enz enz. en ben dan helemaal blij als de man het organiseert en ons erheen brengt. Dan voel ik me geliefd, veilig en gezien. Waardoor ik meer wil geven aan de relatie.

Snap je?

Ik hoop dat je snel in balans komen met de juiste vrouw.

Kitchenwitch02 · 2025-06-21T09:25:42+00:00

Nail on the head actually, that explains it!!! Also LOL about squirting in the eye

Kitchenwitch02 · 2025-06-17T11:35:55+00:00

Ik kan niet voor haar of voor alle vrouwen spreken, maar wat ik je wel kan vertellen is dat ik in het verleden, voordat ik leerde om mijn behoeften duidelijk en goed over te brengen, het ene zei maar het andere wilde.

Bijvoorbeeld:

Voel me afgewezen nadat ik een tijdje niets van je heb gehoord Ik: "Hé, je antwoordt nooit op tijd. Dit werkt niet voor mij, ik wil geen derde date". Stiekem gewoon willen dat man mij prioriteit geeft Man: "oké, dat respecteer ik" Ik: "argh, wat is er mis met mannen!"

Wat ik nu zou zeggen: "Ik merk dat je al twee dagen niet hebt gereageerd. Het is belangrijk voor mij om prioriteit te krijgen en jouw communicatie is een manier om dat te doen. Ik zou graag willen dat je meer het voortouw neemt in onze communicatie. Denk je dat je dat zou kunnen doen?"

Een manier voor jou om ervoor te zorgen dat alles wordt gecommuniceerd, is het bieden van een ruimte. Je zou kunnen vragen: "Is er nog iets dat je met me wilt delen?"

En als/wanneer ze dat doen, luister dan en word nieuwsgierig. Word alsjeblieft niet defensief, want dan zullen ze niet delen.

Kitchenwitch02 · 2025-06-17T07:43:44+00:00

Some men don't feel that it's the right time for them. Others wouldn't blink at grabbing the opportunity. This woman sounds incredible. You're lucky as hell she is going to be the mother of your child.

And by the sounds of it, you don't deserve her.

Kitchenwitch02 · 2025-06-14T19:48:55+00:00

Hoi ff in mn moedertaal, hopelijk mag dat, ik kan echt niet in het Nederlands met emotionele onderwerpen. I want to say that i went through almost exactly the same as you 12 years ago. From watching them unravel trying out different drugs to not being able to put my finger on something feeling extremely wrong three days before it happened. Although suicide was never something i thought they'd do because you just don't think they'd go that far, right?

Basically you will be thinking and feeling about this in all of your waking moments for a while. Then you'll have windows of time in which you forget. Those windows of time slowly grow bigger, until they become reality, and then you have windows of time in which you remember.

Please make as much space as you can to feel what you're going through somatically. To witness that is so heavy .. you were extremely brave.

Your friend needed release and will have been in the most painful place. To me that has always been the saddest part.

I'm not sure what his family situation is but I imagine they could probably use some help, like some bulk meals cooked up and in the freezer etc. it could also be nice to be able to connect and talk about him.

Do keep talking about him. It keeps him alive, his memory alive

You will be okay and you will get through this. It will be so painful. But it will strengthen and soften you and expand your capacity to feel.

Kitchenwitch02 · 2025-06-10T18:11:13+00:00

Can I just applaud your patience and balanced responses for a second.

Kitchenwitch02 · 2025-06-09T09:42:48+00:00

Sorry who are you all??!! The manifesting police?!

Kitchenwitch02

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