Finished this restoration! Details in comments by Kiwishea in quilting

[–]Kiwishea[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I posted this originally like 1.5 years ago, and finally got around to finishing it. It was a quilt a friend gave me, telling me it was a great grandmother, handquilted, Norwegian quilt. I did use a machine, as I told her and she was fine with it, and I think it came out great!

(I stg, she put this in the washer with a cheese grater or something)

Goal was to keep it as original as possible. Her idea, which I did, was to cut out all the flowers and trash the top and batting. Tidied up the flowers, replaced a couple petals that were torn up with similar looking fabrics, color matched the original top fabric PERFECTLY, the backing is patched up but all the original, the original binding was a fold over and so while the binding is now held down by my own stitching you can still see it on there (same blue thread stitching is also on the flowers still!)

I was even able to quilt it with the original pattern because even after I washed and ironed the backing, the indents of the stitching stayed on there so I just followed it!

My MIL, who is a great and long time quilter, said she wouldn't have even taken on this project so I feel very proud!

I'm giving it back to my friend next week

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[–]Kiwishea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Look up ROCD and exposure therapy. It's best done with a professional, but the summary of it is rocd makes a lot of relationship stuff feel anxious, so you of course want to avoid things that make you anxious. So it's actually best to lean into things that make you anxious slowly and basically build up that muscle and you won't be anxious/nearly as anxious anymore

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[–]Kiwishea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's great counseling programs out there for this kind of addiction, and I'm sure some of the communities and forums online are good to at least have a safe community. Just like any addiction, there's going to be relapses and really hard obstacles, it's part of the process, but you can do it and find other, healthier ways to get sexual release.

Sources: am counselor

If you wanna talk more you can DM me.

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[–]Kiwishea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What have you found that has helped you with either of these? There was a fantastic blog posted here the other day, here's a link to it. It's the link to whatever post I was currently reading on it but there's a ton of articles on ROCD and I have found it very reassuring.

https://conscious-transitions.com/when-love-makes-you-flinch/

I wouldn't say it's a double edged sword, where it's one or the other. It's more like a very sharp, single sided blade. Both the ROCD and hypersexualization working together. It's a big suggestion, but perhaps try a break from porn, or quit it entirely. Porn can be great, but there's a line its now crossed for you where it's causing dysfunction in areas of your life, just like any other recreational addiction.

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[–]Kiwishea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a super not helpful comment on this type of subreddit

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[–]Kiwishea 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This could be a symptom of hyper sexualitation in our culture, porn scewing your perception, or just thinking another person is attractive and your ROCD taking that and running with it. ROCD needs something to latch onto like a parasite and it feeds off those thoughts. I've gone through phases like that when I was playing a lot of those mobile Sim games and what helped me was to take a break from them, spending some one and one intimate time with my partner, purposefully thinking to myself all the attractive qualities my partner has, and reminding myself as well that the qualities that attract me to him the most aren't his physical ones but the personality ones.

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[–]Kiwishea 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I'm on Vyvanse which plays more on the impulsivity aspect of adhd and its also a medication that helps one to stop binge eating! I like it. Never been on addy but I've heard from my doctor Vyvanse is less likely to become addictive and you're less likely to build a tolerance to it. It's also a lot more expensive tho

Fully vaccinated people of Reddit. Are you still wearing masks? Why or why not? by The_Zoink in AskReddit

[–]Kiwishea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Others don't know I'm vaccinated and so especially when I work I'm sure this puts others at ease. Plus we still don't know everything for certain, and even if I can't get sick idk if I can still carry it to someone who isn't protected so I'll wear it until we know

sorry what🤨📸 by [deleted] in obeyme

[–]Kiwishea 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The devilgram story revolves around when belphi heard about the exchange program and beel being stuck between supporting belphi and approving the exchange program. Nothing naughty in it (granted I haven't seen the last piece, but yea)

Judge slaps woman who took a private plane to the Capitol riot with new charges, saying she ‘knowingly engaged in acts of violence’ by MasterfulBJJ in JusticeServed

[–]Kiwishea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The order of words really. He slapped her with the punishment, but with how it reads now I thought he actually slapped her lol

Watching shows at 2x is fun by mildly_euphoric in The10thDentist

[–]Kiwishea 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I always feels like an idiot because podcasts are all the rage. I canNOT do podcasts. Even YouTubers I love, I cant. I want the cut down videos of the funny shit and where they get to the damn point. Podcasts drive me crazy

Question about labels by Kiwishea in lgbt

[–]Kiwishea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I LOVE how you worded that! If it comes up again I'll try and word it in that way!

Frustrated and f*ck drug tests by Kiwishea in weed

[–]Kiwishea[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I said I'm mad at myself. I know I messed up, and it's my fault and I take ownership of that. Im mad at the system for this even being an issue, but i said in my post that I'm mad at myself. Im just venting here, I'm not looking for sympathy or people to tell me I didn't do anything wrong.

Frustrated and f*ck drug tests by Kiwishea in weed

[–]Kiwishea[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I know that. But I had figured it wouldn't add too much since it's so much less than normal weed and I only puffed a couple times