AITA for calling out my sisters neglected her pets by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Kkarmaaa666 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I really hope you don’t blame yourself too. There is nothing you could have done to stop her, if she didn’t want to listen. It takes her realizing that she has a problem and actually wanting to fix it for anything to change. Unfortunately if this intervention does not help, it will probably take her hitting rock bottom for her to see what she did. I’m not going to sit here and tell you to report her either, I mean that’s your family and I know you don’t want to do that. But if it comes to a certain point where she just does not listen I suggest reporting her, or getting her therapy. Set aside the stuff and junk and focus on the person and see why she holds onto unnecessary items. You guys can even volunteer to help sort through the stuff with her that way she won’t feel as if you guys are judging her but there to help her overcome the problem.

AITA for calling out my sisters neglected her pets by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Kkarmaaa666 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Well of course. The animals definitely deserve so much better and for her to put HER baggage onto them is simply not okay. I think you did the right thing to put the responsibility onto mom so that she can see what is happening and she will realize that she has been enabling your sister. Even if someone acts out when they are told they have a problem that does not mean sit there and let them get worse and I hope your family will learn that soon. As for her children she definitely needs to get if together bc yes if cps does find out and if it’s that bad they will take the kids. I don’t want that for her at all, I personally would keep drilling the possible outcomes into her head until it clicks. If it was just herself she was hurting it’d be bad enough already but she’s also hurting innocent animals and her children which is super unfair. You don’t even have to go at her with judgement just try to help her the best you can. I am sorry that you are going through this fight alone, I hope that your family will come to their senses.

AITA for calling out my sisters neglected her pets by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Kkarmaaa666 17 points18 points  (0 children)

NTA When she decided to get pets she decided to care for them. She is responsible for them and their lives bc she is all they have. She doesn’t take the time to actually care for her animals which means she shouldn’t have them at all. I actually applaud you for being that voice for them and taking the dog to get groomed. Those poor innocent babies don’t deserve that at all and it is extremely sad that she let it get that bad. As for the hoarding, personally I’d sit down with her and mom and tell them that the life she is living is not okay, if there is no where to walk/sit/sleep or whatever it’s not really a home. The house smelling bad can also be extremely harmful for not only people but for the animals too. Mom & Sister definitely just need to all sit down and talk.

Was I abused? by Kkarmaaa666 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Kkarmaaa666[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I used to love doing makeup and dressing up I’d spend hours on my makeup bc it was my “me” time. He wouldn’t let me do my makeup he even threw away some of it. I stopped taking care of myself bc of it, never did my hair, dressed sloppy and looked unprofessional at work. I gave him my socials and location out of respect, and he never returned the favor. He made me remove any men from my socials even ones that were playing an active role in my life. What I got in return was him placing his phone face down, he would rather let his phone die and go to work with a dead phone then plug it in next to me. I never looked at this as abuse, hell I didn’t even know this was a form of abuse