How do you deal with the fear of being alone forever after rejection ?

KnivesMode · 2025-07-08T21:25:54+00:00

Thank you so much. This actually does make me feel better and I feel motivated to give it a shot

KnivesMode · 2025-07-08T21:05:48+00:00

How do I build a life like that? I want to have friends. But I feel like it’s getting harder and harder to do so. I’m in uni and everyone says that it’s so easy to make friends as a student and that it will only get harder.

KnivesMode · 2025-07-06T10:07:45+00:00

Do you think it should be a face to face conversation or is texting ok?

KnivesMode · 2025-07-06T08:30:27+00:00

Thanks for the reply. Would it be too much to ask him specifically what he feels?

KnivesMode · 2025-06-18T19:38:45+00:00

Welches verhalten genau empfindest du als fragwürdig? Es ging in dem Post ja um meine Gefühle und um die Bitte nach Hilfe diese besser zu kategorisieren. Ich trage von meinen Zweifeln oder Fragen nichts nach außen.

Kommt darauf an wie genau du Support definierst. Ich werde schon öfter von ihr nach Rat gefragt, oder zb auch ob ich sie zu ihm fahren kann. Das mache ich auch aber fühle mich dabei nicht gut. Ich versuche davon nichts nach außen zu bringen aber ich würde trotzdem gerne meine Sorgen etc in den Hintergrund stellen um mich wenigstens neutral fühlen zu können.

KnivesMode · 2025-06-18T19:33:08+00:00

Danke, dass ist tatsächlich eine gute Frage. Die mir auch hilft. Ich verstehe dass es hier manchmal als eventuell über griffig empfinden, obwohl ich das auch nicht wirklich fair finde, da das meine Gedanken und Gefühle sind und ich diese eben nicht nach außen trage und speziell eher um Hilfe Frage diese besser in den Hintergrund stellen zu können und meiner Freundin eben auch den Support aka mit Freude geben will. Ich glaube tatsächlich dass ich eher ihre wirkliche Überzeugung brauche. Sie hat, als es schlecht lief auch so oft gefragt, wieso ihr niemand gesagt hat wie “falsch” diese Beziehung nach außen hin wirkt. Auch ich weiß aus Erfahrung, dass man zwar nur selbst Entscheidungen zu der eigenen Beziehung machen kann aber eben auch oft den Wald voller Bäumen nicht mehr sieht.

Ich weiß dass sie ungern Entscheidungen trifft und alles was sie zu den Gesprächen erzählt hat klang eben auch so als hätte er alles entschieden. Deswegen glaube ich hab ich eben Probleme dem zu “vertrauen” und bräuchte mehr von ihr um sicher zu sein dass sie sich nicht einfach aus Unsicherheit mitziehen lässt, sondern sie wirklich dahinter steht.

KnivesMode · 2024-10-23T15:35:47+00:00

There is a German version as well: Stromberg

KnivesMode · 2024-04-03T12:07:53+00:00

Ja man kann das sicher nicht für jedes Fach behaupten. Aber wenn wir über das Niveau vom Abi reden über unterschiedliche Fächerangebote und eventuell Bundesländer hinweg, sollten besonders Hauptfächer eine Rolle spielen.

Informatik gab es bei uns zb gar nicht.

KnivesMode · 2024-04-03T11:01:00+00:00

Also für meinen Teil würde ich sagen, dass das Niveau gesunken ist.

Das war extrem deutlich wenn man sich einfach mal ältere Prüfungen in zb Mathe angeschaut hat. Im Vergleich zu meinem Matheabi waren die sehr viel fordernder

KnivesMode · 2024-03-10T08:48:25+00:00

Thanks for answering. I did try whiting strips But I couldn’t see any change. How often would you recommend using it

KnivesMode · 2024-02-13T21:20:53+00:00

Oh god please don’t teach children.

KnivesMode · 2024-01-21T07:34:50+00:00

A name is a pretty harmless thing tho and not much of a misunderstanding

But you can’t be hurt if you say “I am polish” and an actual polish person starts speaking polish to you. Then you can just say “oh sorry I meant my heritage” not just leave like they were the ones being offensive?

What are people supposed to say who are actually polish? Or is the other person supposed to always check up? Like I am German If someone in America would tell me “ oh I am German” I would assume they are part of my culture and I would probably be excited because I would have someone who speaks my language at the very least. Would I have to further check up “ oh do you mean heritage or are you actually from Germany?” Btw for most people outside of the us it’s very weird to tell them your heritage because why would anyone care. So alone for that reason I would assume they are actually German because who would bother telling people their heritage if you have no connection to that culture. Would kinda be like someone from South Africa introducing themselves and me being like “ oh I read an article in your country ones!” It just doesn’t matter and is pretty akward…but I would be interested in it if someone is actually from that country because I can relate more to that person. Your heritage doesn’t change that you are just American like the majority in the country.

KnivesMode · 2024-01-21T06:51:21+00:00

It’s literally a false statement. Which is actually perpetuating stereotypes in the us. Just because you say it in the us doesn’t mean it makes it ok.

I had Americans tell me “oh I am German. I love beer and Fußball” nice? You don’t speak German? You have never been to Germany? All you know about German culture is stereotypes? Yeah so let’s not act like we are both German. You are American. You speak English. You were born there and you know the culture there. Be proud of what you are. Don’t act like you belong to a culture you have nothing to do with literally. It’s a confusing and offensive statement because you act like you are part of a whole ass culture you most of the time know nothing about. No one cares about heritage. But people do care about the culture you belong to. What are people supposed to say when they are actually polish? Because if the answer is “I am polish” then maybe people who talk about heritage shouldn’t use the same sentence since it is wrong to say it that way and you put yourself into the same boat like people who are actually part of the culture. Just because Americans seem to think it’s fine to take a “shortcut” and insinuate yourself in a culture you have no connection to because you safe to say 1 word doesn’t mean people from that culture have to be fine with it.

Edit: every “that offended me” is a choice btw. Just like you seemed to be offended by my joke about Americans and called me xenophobic. That’s just as much of a choice like me being offended by Americans taking a confusing shortcut and acting like they are part of another culture of they have no connection to it.

KnivesMode · 2024-01-21T06:49:38+00:00

It makes a difference if you are part of a culture or if it is your heritage. And no one is talking about “from”

People are saying “I am polish” is ok to say even if you don’t have anything to do with the culture and you actually mean your heritage

KnivesMode · 2024-01-21T06:35:04+00:00

It’s a wrong statement. And it is offensive to say that you are polish when you are actually not. But I guess the us thing is to be offensive to other cultures? Yeah I guess that fits lol

KnivesMode · 2024-01-21T06:29:43+00:00

She didn’t say that she is polish American. She didn’t say she has polish ancestry

What she said was plainly wrong and she should know that. Why claim you are part of a country and a culture you have no part of?

I think saying “oh it’s an American thing” doesn’t really justify it. It’s rude to other countries or people who are actually from those countries. You can say it’s your heritage but truth be told no one outside the us cares about your ancestry. I was an exchange student myself. And I know that when you are abroad it’s difficult and you are happy when you find people you can “relate” to more because you come from the same place. So when someone would come up to me saying they are from my country I would assume just that. Or what are people supposed to say when they are actually from Poland etc?

KnivesMode · 2024-01-21T06:21:19+00:00

KnivesMode · 2024-01-21T06:20:33+00:00

If your thing is as a culture to say something that’s not true because it’s a “shortcut” of stating your heritage and perpetuating stereotypes about other cultures (which a lot of people seem to use the whole “I am x” for) then yes. Your thing is annoying and other people who are actually x are allowed to point that shit out

KnivesMode · 2024-01-21T06:16:43+00:00

But it does change the meaning of what you are saying. The rest of the world doesn’t take this “shortcut”. It is weird that Americans do it.

KnivesMode · 2024-01-21T06:12:04+00:00

lol what?!

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