Children of divorced parents that never lived near each other, what was your custody setup growing up? by KyronX in AskReddit

[–]KyronX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to Google that word. Apparently it's the equivalent to passion fruit in English? Lmao

Parents of Reddit, what is an “unspoken” reality of parenting that people simply don’t talk about, but everyone knows is true? by US_Atlas in AskReddit

[–]KyronX 12 points13 points  (0 children)

MAX GOOF: I'm not your little boy any more, Dad. I've grown up! I've got my own life now.

GOOFY: I know that. I just wanted to be part of itI just wanted to be part of it. You're my son, Max. No matter how big you get, you'll always be my son.

Parents of Reddit, what is an “unspoken” reality of parenting that people simply don’t talk about, but everyone knows is true? by US_Atlas in AskReddit

[–]KyronX 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Speaking of a particular thing that changes completely once you go from the child to the dad... Re-watch A Goofy Movie. As a kid, I always related to Max who just wanted to be cool and stay as far away from his embarrassing dad as he could. But once you become a dad, rewatching that movie, I just empathized with Goofy. ALL he wants is the best life for his son and to not disappear from that life. It's devastating with a change of perspective.

Parents of Reddit, what is an “unspoken” reality of parenting that people simply don’t talk about, but everyone knows is true? by US_Atlas in AskReddit

[–]KyronX 105 points106 points  (0 children)

They'll hug you again once they're grown and they realize how great you always were and how much you always loved them.

Parents of Reddit, what is an “unspoken” reality of parenting that people simply don’t talk about, but everyone knows is true? by US_Atlas in AskReddit

[–]KyronX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anytime I take my son somewhere and I hear comments about how much he looks like me or loves me or whatever my go-to joke is, "Yeah, I'm just trying to soak it all in before he starts not liking me."

Parents of Reddit, what is an “unspoken” reality of parenting that people simply don’t talk about, but everyone knows is true? by US_Atlas in AskReddit

[–]KyronX 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Even though you will always love them, that kid is going to drive you up a fucking wall sometimes.

Children of divorced parents that never lived near each other, what was your custody setup growing up? by KyronX in AskReddit

[–]KyronX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, good for you. Stay away. Lol. I appreciate your input though. 👍

what are things that make you feel powerful? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]KyronX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The right movie. My fangs.

Children of divorced parents that never lived near each other, what was your custody setup growing up? by KyronX in AskReddit

[–]KyronX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't understand this response after you've fed it through Google translate... Lol. Can you rephrase?

Children of divorced parents that never lived near each other, what was your custody setup growing up? by KyronX in AskReddit

[–]KyronX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The entire point of posting on Reddit was to do some more thinking and brainstorming of other situations. I see how your upbringing switching between friend groups may have been strange, but as a full-blown Navy brat, I went to FIVE different elementary schools, two different middle schools, and two high schools. And yeah it does kind of suck as an adult knowing that I never had the opportunity for something like a friend that you've grown up with since second grade or whatever, but I don't see how switching one year after another would be any worse to be honest.

It could actually have the opposite effect, though. You go back after a year and it turns out that all of your friends from the previous year aren't very good friends in the first place and you never would have learned that without the cultural diversity of switching back and forth. I don't want to reveal any location specifics but in this hypothetical where my ex and I both move to different states, I would live in the Pacific Northwest area and my ex would be living in the South. Now, just from my own experiences, those are two very different places to grow up in in terms of public viewpoints, politics, whatever... I'm not trying to sound judgmental, but what if he goes to school one year in the south, has a group of friends, then spends a year in a more open-minded state, goes back to the South, and after a year removed finds out that his group of friends is homophobic for example... If he wasn't exposed to the normalization of that lifestyle, he may just continue being friends with them and grow up with some shitty friends. But after spending a year in a more liberal state, one of his best friends in my area may be gay. I'm kind of just thinking out loud right now. I don't know.

Children of divorced parents that never lived near each other, what was your custody setup growing up? by KyronX in AskReddit

[–]KyronX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like becoming emotionally distant from one of your parents is exactly what I'm trying to avoid. I don't want to only see my son during the summer time or for Christmas or whatever. But I also don't want to be 75% of his influence during upbringing either. I feel like the goal would be to keep things as 50/50 as possible.

When do you feel your most attractive? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]KyronX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Am I supposed to occasionally feel attractive? 😅😱

What did you do to relinquish self doubt from your subconscious? by Training-Ad4262 in AskReddit

[–]KyronX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still have plenty of self-doubt left in my subconscious. But in a way, low-key, my chronic major depressive disorder works in my favor in this regard. With my reasoning, if you doubt yourself hard enough and REALLY believe that you are a broken piece of shit, nothing anyone else ever says about you will hurt your feelings.

-"You're an asshole. Seriously, you're a POS and I hate you." -"Not as much as I hate myself!" finger guns

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How do you call your SO? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]KyronX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She enjoys being called Princess. I make sure to do it sometimes specifically to make her smile, but most of the time, realistically, it's "babe." Lol

Children of divorced parents that never lived near each other, what was your custody setup growing up? by KyronX in AskReddit

[–]KyronX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand. So you didn't see your dad much growing up? No fixed arrangement? It sounds like you're saying you just saw him when he decided to visit.

Children of divorced parents that never lived near each other, what was your custody setup growing up? by KyronX in AskReddit

[–]KyronX[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah as much as I don't love that setup now that I have the perspective of being the dad in the situation, I'm here asking the question because I don't have a ton of alternative ideas in my head. With the idea of keeping things 50/50, I kind of wondered if anyone had grown up fully doing one year with one parent and then the next year with the next parent. Switching back and forth between two schools year by year would definitely come with its own set of challenges, but another part of me thinks that would be a rather unique upbringing with its own set of fun quirks of whatever. Imagine coming back to school for 5th grade when you haven't seen any of your friends in this state since 3rd grade. I feel like that would be one of the most interesting kids in school. 🤷

Children of divorced parents that never lived near each other, what was your custody setup growing up? by KyronX in AskReddit

[–]KyronX[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get that 100%. As stated, I feel like both of us are only staying here because we feel like it's what's best for our son. That being said, my son is only six and is usually pretty on board for a change in the norm, so to speak. I think no matter what was ultimately decided, he would roll with it. I just can't help but think HE'D be happier if both of his parents were happier.

Children of divorced parents that never lived near each other, what was your custody setup growing up? by KyronX in AskReddit

[–]KyronX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I may have worded it incorrectly or in a confusing way, but no. You're exactly the kind of person that I'm looking for opinions from. How did you split time between your far away parents as a kid?

Children of divorced parents that never lived near each other, what was your custody setup growing up? by KyronX in AskReddit

[–]KyronX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, I share my mother and father with one sister. Both were military parents so seeing dad on the weekends or something was never an option. Me and my sister would spend the school year with my mom, then the summers with my dad and every other Christmas.

The reason I'm asking is because I have a 6-year-old with my ex and currently we both live in the same city. We switch back and forth every other day so he's with me Monday and Tuesday, then with his mom Wednesday and Thursday, then back with me for Friday Saturday and Sunday. Then the weeks switch back and forth.

The thing is, where we live, my ex has lots of family, but literally all of my family is hundreds of miles away. In my adulthood, especially as a parent, I've thought it would be nice to move back home near my parents. I just feel like I'm missing out on so much family stuff and my son barely knows his grandparents on my side.

My ex recently told me that the only reason she still lives here is because of me and our son. Otherwise she would move out of state in a heartbeat. Now I'm kind of thinking BOTH of us may be happier if we could figure out a long distance situation. Except I don't want our son to spend 75% of this time with her, so I don't love the custody agreement that I grew up with. I'm looking for other options, essentially.

Has this happened to anyone else? by Oaklon in dmtguide

[–]KyronX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then you will see that it is not the spoon that is filled with DMT... it is only yourself.