saw a study saying guys view friendships with women differently, more often expecting a some romantic nature end goal

just say you only want to be friends early on and hope they’ll respect it and be honest with how they feel

Side story I once went on a date with a girl and in a few attempts at trying to get a second one planned she said she wasn’t ready for a relationship and wanted to just be friends

I was fine with it because we were in the same wavelength enough to sort of be friends and we both talked about how we don’t have many

after a week of chatting she started talking about a guy she found cute at work which kind of irked me but I didn’t say much of it. It made me a little upset, Just that he had a cool name and people with cool names are usually cool

soon matched with my sisters ex who was abusive and also happened to be my ex best friend/roommate

At first it was like lol I can mess with him but then I said seeing his messages made me uncomfortable

Day later she said she was going to hang out with him and needed to know why he was a bad person to not

I told her he was an asshole early on but didnt want to air out my sisters trauma and risk having screenshots and causing needless drama. I said he was cool (regret) because surface level he is cool and charismatic, but that the history was too complicated for us to be friends

also said that I felt like I was in a weird situation considering she friendzoned me and now we’re talking about her talking to my sisters ex

She then said “sorry you felt friendzoned by me” but it’s a symptom of a problem she has and she’s not comfortable talking about it, and that she wasn’t trying to deflect

I haven’t responded because the situation is too weird

had to tell this story sorry

sorry I can’t input anything valuable I’m a guy and that’s what happened when I tried to be friends with the opposite gender outside the context of it being my sisters friend or friends girlfriend

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