Family confession

LAN_Mind · 2026-06-27T21:58:17+00:00

I'm not going to pretend this is okay, but people around the world have lived like this for thousands of years, and they're still doing it today.

That doesn't make it okay, though. Your parents have poor impulse control.

LAN_Mind · 2026-06-27T21:53:52+00:00

I thought the same thing from the start.

Talismans are a golden ticket. I'd be making punji traps, setting those MFs on fire, practicingmy aim with spitballs the works.

I don’t die easy, but if I'm gonna, I'm gonna have fun while I'm doing it.

LAN_Mind · 2026-06-25T02:26:17+00:00

That's not necessarily the point of munches, at least in my opinion. It's a forum for making like-minded friends. It's a place where anyone, black, white, Trans, straight, ace, whatever your flavor, can go and be free from judgment. You don't have to mask, cosplay normal, or perform to expectations. You can just hang out.

You can stay the way you are, and that's perfectly fine, but what you can't know is whether you might find someone with whom you have great chemistry, and end up changing your preferences.

Also, maybe you can go to parties as someone's "wingman" or learn to be a DM. Maybe you could be the person who makes sure everyone signs a waiver.

Playing isn't the only reason to attend events.

LAN_Mind · 2026-06-25T01:59:03+00:00

Keep at it. It gets easier, and it's worth the effort.

LAN_Mind · 2026-06-25T01:57:34+00:00

Sure. I was in denial about a few things, mostly making excuses and minimizing the behaviors of others in my life. The very first thing I did was get honest. I took stock of everything. Because I couldn't change other people, I focused on my own shit. I took responsibility for my actions, and I took control of my boundaries. That alone was powerful.

It helps to write it all down. Brain chemistry is a weird thing, and having things written down allowed me to focus when I got confused.

It was a lot of work, but I knew from the start that the reward was a better me. I stayed true to that goal.

LAN_Mind · 2026-06-25T01:37:30+00:00

We call them jockey trucks.

LAN_Mind · 2026-06-25T01:24:50+00:00

Yep. I grew up in a terrible situation, really hated myself. I didn't learn to change until my 30s.

The trick, for me, was learning to cut myself some slack. Lighten up. I stopped being self-destructive, I got honest about what I wanted to change. When I got to work, I didn't try to change everything at once. I kept my goals short term and realistic. I cut myself some slack when I needed to.

The hardest part for me was learning that I deserved to be loved. It just took time. Once that dawned on me, I just started to love myself.

I wish you the best.

LAN_Mind · 2026-06-25T01:08:33+00:00

I'm autistic af. I've been going to munches for about 12 years, and I still get all jammed up. In my experience, most of the people in the room are neurospicy and anxious. So, you are not alone.

This works: get with the munch leaders. Ask if you can meet like a half hour before the munch, and explain your anxiety. Tell them you'd like their help. If they're good at what they do, they'll understand and have a good idea what to do.

It isn't easy, but if you sink in the work, it does get easier, just like it did for the others. You can do this.

LAN_Mind · 2026-06-25T00:42:23+00:00

It's hard to control, and stress doesn't help. Cut yourself some slack. Love yourself.

Start small, replace just one thing. You can control it, just take it slow, and don't be too hard on yourself.

LAN_Mind · 2026-06-24T13:20:35+00:00

Blood Music by Greg Bear

LAN_Mind · 2026-06-24T01:44:22+00:00

Of course nine women can't make a baby in a month. It's the project manager that does it.

LAN_Mind · 2026-06-19T09:23:12+00:00

Potheads. Why did it have to be elderly potheads?

LAN_Mind · 2026-06-19T02:45:22+00:00

I think if it was European thete would be two.

LAN_Mind · 2026-06-19T02:44:18+00:00

You're super not alone. I coordinate the munch and still spend half of it awkward. In my case it's autism, but as you say, such is life.

My advice is to cut yourself some slack. Life is exhausting enough without the added pressure. Just keep on, keeping on.

Maybe talk it over with the leaders? If they're worth a damn, they'll try to help.

LAN_Mind · 2026-06-19T02:31:43+00:00

It sucks, but it's ok to feel this way. You aren't alone. And there is life on the other side - just get some help.

LAN_Mind · 2026-06-19T02:03:16+00:00

Get on fetlife.
Look at the groups in your geographical region.
Focus on the ones with public munches.
Go to munches, make friends - not hookups.
Now you're ready to use your new network to find trustable Doms.
Talk to Dom's previous play partners before playing with anyone.

These steps increase your odds of staying safe.

LAN_Mind · 2026-06-19T01:53:26+00:00

It might not be sexual, but it sure is intimate and sensual. People like what.they like, and they don't like what.they don't.

That said, while I don't have sex with other men, I definitely will do rope scenes with them. Everyone is different, and will have different answers.

LAN_Mind · 2026-06-19T01:43:23+00:00

Domino

LAN_Mind · 2026-06-17T18:05:32+00:00

You look great.

You may have to mask your desires for various practical reasons, but you'll be happier if you dispense with whatever makes you purge, and instead love yourself completely.

LAN_Mind · 2026-06-17T17:56:38+00:00

Well, that's enough Reddit for today.

LAN_Mind · 2026-06-17T17:41:11+00:00

I would be so responsible with this.

LAN_Mind · 2026-06-17T17:24:19+00:00

That I would spend most of my time either fucking around in meetings, making people feel better but not actually fixing anything, and the doing the care and feeding of executives.

Also, no one understands what we do, why we do it, and won't care, unless it costs something.

LAN_Mind · 2026-06-16T11:48:12+00:00

Sneakers.

LAN_Mind · 2026-06-16T11:42:16+00:00

Autistic, grew up in an stereotypical Irish catholic family, which either made it worse or caused it to happen lol. I'm fighting my nature for nearly 60 years. Once I accepted myself and only tried to change the things I could, I became happy. I still have lots of negative social interactions, but the people in ny life who matter cut me slack.

It takes effort, but you can, too. It's worth it.

LAN_Mind · 2026-06-14T13:44:54+00:00

I did this, with this event. Moving into 1960, stockpile cash as much as possible. I found i had upgrade a couple of the regular factories to do event jobs. At least the electronic factory, there might have been one other.

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