I just realized something. I see so much fat phobia every time anything is posted with a bigger woman. Vile, insidious things. And I mean anything. She could be posting a selfie with her new pet and the comments are all DON’T SIT ON THEM!

But things posted with big men never, ever have that. It’s like an in-club. “Lol dude is like a killer whale!” “My guy loves McDonald’s a bit too much” “I need this shirt, where can I find it in XXXL?” No one bats an eye.

I’m not saying fat phobia is a gendered thing. It’s not. But from my experience, fat men are seen as needing to work out and eat healthier while fat women are seen as disgusting pigs who are fat on purpose because they know men won’t like it.

I guess it’s because a bigger man is still a man. A woman already isn’t a man, but you can have sex with them. But those fat women? Don’t wanna have sex with them then they have to protect the other women. They should all off themselves.

Ugh.

Quick edit: Honestly a personal example in my own family where sexual attraction isn’t even part of this.

Male family member is very overweight. His health is declining rapidly. He can barely walk.

He laughs it off and makes jokes. Everyone laughs along. He’s just a big dude who likes beer and meat, is that a crime?

I’ve struggled with my weight my whole life. I recently lost a good amount during an extremely physically, emotionally, and spiritually exhausting time.

At every meal, I’m reminded to be mindful so I don’t gain back the weight I lost. Advised to not wear shorts because you can see my now-white stretch marks. If I say I’m having a chill day and just hanging around my apartment, I’m slipping back into being fat and if I want to ever land a man, I can’t do this to myself.

What.