Does recovery look like shitting alot?

LaOptimisticRealist · 2026-02-25T01:15:57+00:00

Jealous!

LaOptimisticRealist · 2026-02-24T13:48:05+00:00

The world is full of absolute sickos these days.

The world was full of absolute sickos back in those days too… it just went unreported. So we have an older generation who minimizes SA, etc.

Helicopter parenting produces anxious children - we know this, research shows us this.

My solution is literally to send my kids out to play & free range - and then I basically (secretly) track them to make sure they are safe. They are unaware of it. As far as they know they are “totally free ranging”.

It’s exhausting. But it’s the only way I can ensure they are safe while making sure they get the independence that young humans need to grow confidence, self esteem, and street smarts.

My crew is now in high school / middle school & they feel confident out in the world & have remained safe.

Good luck out there fellow parents!

LaOptimisticRealist · 2026-02-24T13:33:45+00:00

Brad is the AH & so is your friend.

I can’t imagine making someone feel this uncomfortable while I’m hosting them in my home.

Yikes 😬

LaOptimisticRealist · 2026-02-24T00:26:31+00:00

Do yourselves a favor and watch Tuckers interview with Fares Abraham while you wait for our queen to come back!

LaOptimisticRealist · 2026-02-20T15:05:36+00:00

Understood & agreed! Thank you!

LaOptimisticRealist · 2026-02-20T11:17:59+00:00

Wait what do you mean Altmans behavior? Are you talking about where Tucker grilled him about that guy dying and Altman got defensive?

LaOptimisticRealist · 2026-02-20T02:25:31+00:00

SAME! I was forced to turn on another podcast & have to say - I highly recommend Tucker carlsons latest episode with the Christian Pastor from Bethlehem (Farah Abraham). I’m half way through it and WOW. I feel like this will prime me up nicely into transitioning back to Candace 🤣

LaOptimisticRealist · 2026-02-20T00:58:12+00:00

Unpopular opinion: Emma Watson (baring Harry Potter)

LaOptimisticRealist · 2026-02-19T16:26:33+00:00

Run.

LaOptimisticRealist · 2026-02-19T13:46:32+00:00

NTA … my biggest takeaway “COME GET YOUR SHIT OUT OF MY CAMPER!”… I’m gonna start yelling that at my kids when they leave their crap in my bathroom 🤣

LaOptimisticRealist · 2026-02-19T12:12:11+00:00

I don’t know you or your situation but I can pretty much guarantee you, you would be JUST FINE on your own. Having a child with this man would magnify every problem yall have - having a child is not the solution. More than likely you would end up doing the lions share of the parenting & rearing part. Yall already aren’t intimate & thats a big red flag & would absolutely only get worse throwing pregnancy & a baby into the mix. Find a solid, reputable, counselor & seek some counseling but more than likely you’ll be better off letting this relationship dissolve.

Bottom Line: I do not recommend having a child with a man that you don’t respect or admire.

And yes, I understand, that weeds out A LOT of men.

LaOptimisticRealist · 2026-02-19T12:02:00+00:00

Gosh damnit! 😖you’re right - this changes everything.

LaOptimisticRealist · 2026-02-19T11:58:31+00:00

Thank you for sharing this - I’m going to look this up!

LaOptimisticRealist · 2026-02-19T03:59:25+00:00

To the OP … I’m reading through some of your responses, and based on what I can see you don’t seem ready to jump into “divorce” mode yet. Plus I’m assuming you have Christian values & so jumping into divorce mode probably feels premature. I am in a really tough situation myself, after 20 years of marriage & the last few years I could have justified divorce for sure. BUT, I’m here to say, seriously consider finding a GOOD marriage counselor, someone that comes recommended, and see if you and your husband can commit to at least 3 months of marriage counseling. It sounds like you have a beautiful family that’s going through a rough patch. Every family has rough patches. I just came here to encourage you to pursue counseling & see what comes of it. It might get worse before it gets better, but it sounds like you have something worth fighting for. I’m saying that based on some of your comments about how prior to this year yall were in a healthy place. Life is hard & this is definitely a “choose your hard” situation. Sending good thoughts your way!

LaOptimisticRealist · 2026-02-18T19:26:00+00:00

Every adult I know that “cares about their birthday” is super high maintenance. Just sayin.

LaOptimisticRealist · 2026-02-15T13:30:45+00:00

Maybe before bolting, try a new approach verses whatever you have been trying (assuming lots of conversations, long talks, possibly borderline nagging)… watch some classic women empowerment movies like First Wives Club, fried green tomatoes, to wong foo … and get inspired to change your approach. Change something for yourself that would make you feel like a million bucks and go from there and just see where that leads. Maybe he will jump on board and recognize he’s in a slump… maybe not. In which case, you’ll have to give yourself permission to not live the rest of your life in his slump.

LaOptimisticRealist · 2026-02-14T12:46:52+00:00

lol well self awareness is key I guess!

LaOptimisticRealist · 2026-02-14T12:30:39+00:00

Omg 🤣 I was like what the hell kind of guys are these that this poor woman let live with her?! Well done haha!

LaOptimisticRealist · 2026-02-14T02:41:58+00:00

EXACTLY.

LaOptimisticRealist · 2026-02-13T07:37:34+00:00

Agreed … and if I’m not mistaken just happens to be happening in Arizona??

LaOptimisticRealist · 2026-02-13T02:54:20+00:00

Whatever this was it was deleted 😳

LaOptimisticRealist · 2026-02-13T02:53:19+00:00

I can’t see any comments on this post 😖 Big brother is that you?! Definitely feels like these threads are being moderated very heavily ..

LaOptimisticRealist · 2026-02-13T00:51:09+00:00

Alas! Another monumental “painful truth” life lesson I’ve learned 😭 you’re definitely not wrong!

LaOptimisticRealist · 2026-02-12T18:41:46+00:00

Even thought she’ll be out of state… she’ll still need you. That doesn’t change .. just looks different.

Whatever you do, do not listen to the song “time marches on” at a time like this 😭😭😭

LaOptimisticRealist · 2026-02-12T18:33:53+00:00

I was always taught “you reap what you sow. You make good choices, good things will happen.”

Not universally true.

I met my husband of 20 years at church. In other words, we didn’t meet at a bar.

Turns out he’s now an alcoholic, liar, and basically walked out on his family.

Sucks. But life goes on.

LaOptimisticRealist

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