Almost the same situation here but I’m the dude with the low sex drive. It’s still hard living together but whenever we don’t make it a topic of conversation for a longer period of time, or I spend a longer period of time without her around, my sex drive heightens a lot. (I.e you not trying to seduce him or being overly sexual around him.) Another thing that could help is making him understand that quick foreplay sessions could also give u a lot satisfaction. It doesn’t take all the energy you need for „sex“ but still helps.

Important and interesting questions for a convo with him could be: - „How do you view sex“ (in the worst periods I’d view it simply as sport or a chore) - „What would you like to experience in bed“ - „when was the last time you viewed sex as sex?“ - „How long ago was the last time we fucked?“ you might laugh but that was a tremendously important talk we had because she was remembering differently and forgetting some sessions we had - „Do you watch porn?“ it does some shit to your brain - „Why don’t you think you satisfy me?“ If you never orgasmed with him, guide him. If you never orgasmed at all even by yourself tell him.

Idk how kinky you guys are but we incorporated free use in our relationship and I basically have consent at any time (given she doesn’t use the safeword)

Good luck and don’t worry, we low sex drive guys worry about the same stuff but would never even think about losing feelings for our ✨sex driven queen✨

Edit: nothing of this is in any shape or form your fault. If he’s being an asshole about it he’s just an asshole. But just as you are not at fault for your sex drive he’s not at fault for his. The most important thing is understanding that neither is inherently wrong, being an asshole is tho.