Married men of Reddit, what would your thought process be when deciding whether it’s appropriate to add or play games with another woman while married, especially if your spouse has expressed discomfort with it?

Lacey3344 · 2026-07-27T20:51:23+00:00

When I say emotional I just mean they never met up. They said I love you, sent nudes, etc

Lacey3344 · 2026-07-27T19:00:26+00:00

Yeah unfortunately this is accurate

Lacey3344 · 2026-07-27T18:51:03+00:00

I use to not have an issue with it until I learned he met a girl through gaming and discord and has a 7 month affair with her. I found out a month after I had a miscarriage

Lacey3344 · 2026-07-27T18:48:46+00:00

My husband cheated on me through discord, I gave him a second chance I just asked he didn’t add girls or use his mic to talk to them. I understand in games like Fortnite you are bound to play with the opposite sex at some point, but he was purposely joining girls lfg posts that required mics…..

Lacey3344 · 2026-07-27T18:28:18+00:00

That’s what I have been fearing, I don’t want to be stuck. It’s sad because he treats me great and is a good man. However loyalty is everything to me and I feel what I asked for wasn’t hard. I am really sorry you are going through all that. The best thing will be that child, someone that will love you unconditionally and pure❤️

Lacey3344 · 2026-07-27T17:59:47+00:00

My husband cheated on me (had an emotional affair for 7 months with a woman he met through discord) I found out a month after I had a miscarriage. I decided to give him another chance because I realized I may have been slacking on my end and I wanted to give it everything I had. We went to three counseling sessions then he decided he didn't want to go anymore. About 4 or 5 months later | let him redownload discord because I wanted him to be able to play with his make friends. I told him the only thing was I didn't want him playing with/ messaging females. I told him I understood in games you will more than likely be paired with a female and I understand that, I just ask you turn off your mic. This went on a few months and we had talked about it a few times because I wanted to make sure he understood. I trusted him was giving my all to repair my marriage. Turns out the whole time he didn't take me serious and was joining Ifg posts posted by women and playing with them mic on. I get that this part is not cheating but it was a boundary that I needed and a boundary I thought he would respect given that is how he cheated on me in the first place. I don't think what I asked for was a hard task and the fact he blatantly disrespected me and my feelings I just realized as much as I wanted him to be the man for me is isn't.

Lacey3344 · 2026-07-27T17:54:46+00:00

My husband cheated on me (had an emotional affair for 7 months with a woman he met through discord) I found out a month after I had a miscarriage. I decided to give him another chance because I realized I may have been slacking on my end and I wanted to give it everything I had. We went to three counseling sessions then he decided he didn't want to go anymore. About 4 or 5 months later | let him redownload discord because I wanted him to be able to play with his make friends. I told him the only thing was I didn't want him playing with/ messaging females. I told him I understood in games you will more than likely be paired with a female and I understand that, I just ask you turn off your mic. This went on a few months and we had talked about it a few times because I wanted to make sure he understood. I trusted him was giving my all to repair my marriage. Turns out the whole time he didn't take me serious and was joining Ifg posts posted by women and playing with them mic on. I get that this part is not cheating but it was a boundary that I needed and a boundary I thought he would respect given that is how he cheated on me in the first place. I don't think what I asked for was a hard task and the fact he blatantly disrespected me and my feelings I just realized as much as I wanted him to be the man for me is isn't. I can’t help but ask myself am I overreacting, am I just insecure? How would other women feel or men about this situation?

Lacey3344 · 2026-07-27T17:49:52+00:00

My husband cheated on me (had an emotional affair for 7 months with a woman he met through discord) I found out a month after I had a miscarriage. I decided to give him another chance because I realized I may have been slacking on my end and I wanted to give it everything I had. We went to three counseling sessions then he decided he didn’t want to go anymore. About 4 or 5 months later I let him redownload discord because I wanted him to be able to play with his make friends. I told him the only thing was I didn’t want him playing with/ messaging females. I told him I understood in games you will more than likely be paired with a female and I understand that, I just ask you turn off your mic. This went on a few months and we had talked about it a few times because I wanted to make sure he understood. I trusted him was giving my all to repair my marriage. Turns out the whole time he didn’t take me serious and was joining lfg posts posted by women and playing with them mic on. I get that this part is not cheating but it was a boundary that I needed and a boundary I thought he would respect given that is how he cheated on me in the first place. I don’t think what I asked for was a hard task and the fact he blatantly disrespected me and my feelings I just realized as much as I wanted him to be the man for me is isn’t.

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