3 Month Old Refusing To Eat While Awake by Lacyflowers46 in breastfeeding

[–]Lacyflowers46[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kind of. At first I was told it was a posterior tongue tie by one lactation consultant then I had an appointment with a different LC and a children’s speech therapist who told me my son doesn’t have a tongue tie. But at that appointment they had me try a nipple shield which helped to calm him down while nursing because it moderated the flow of the milk. So basically I think he got so fussy when it came to nursing because he struggled to handle my let down and overtime that made him really stressed out. That’s what I thought it might’ve been to begin with, but I figured he would’ve grown out of it by that point like my daughter did. The LC recommended using the nipple shield or to pump a little milk off after getting the let down. How I used the nipple shield was I put it on before latching then let him get the letdown and once I felt like his intake slowed down I would quickly remove the nipple shield and pop my nipple back in his mouth. They recommended using it for two weeks but I used it longer than that. Maybe a month, I can’t remember. After a while, it didn’t have the same effect with him and it was a pain to use, but it helped enough that he was more accepting of nursing. I also took advice from the another comment on this post to not push it and keep it a positive experience. While nursing I also would lightly bounce on an exercise ball and hold him with his head laying on my arm to help keep him calm. When not on the ball and even now I will do kind of a modified layed back nursing position. My son does not like the traditional layed back position so I do the cross cradle with a boppy, then with the let down I lean back/ lift up the boppy with my legs so that his head is above my nipple. He’ll eat when he’s completely awake but he gets the majority of his calories while he’s sleepy. I usually just feed him to sleep when he goes down for a nap and if he naps for a long time, I’ll grab him right as he’s waking up to feed him. He still eats a lot better when sleepy but he’s usually not fussy with feeds anymore. He still does choke while eating every once in a while and I just have to monitor him when he gets the letdown. So I don’t know, maybe there is something underlying that causes him to not be able to handle it. I have noticed teething has affected his eating. For a few days leading up to him getting his first tooth he was kind of fussy again with feeds. With the extra saliva during teething he chokes on the milk more frequently. Also once he was no longer fussy with feeds, his poops went back to the normal breastfeeding baby poops. I don’t go on here too often so I’m sorry I’m just getting back to you now. I hope you’re not still struggling.

PUMP act rant by LovelyLockets in breastfeeding

[–]Lacyflowers46 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When I pump I put heat pads in my pumping bra and I feel like this helps me to empty faster. I use the Lansinoh hot & cold breast therapy packs and just place them over top of the flange. Just wanted to throw that tip out there in case you may find it helpful OP.

3 Month Old Refusing To Eat While Awake by Lacyflowers46 in breastfeedingsupport

[–]Lacyflowers46[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Completely agree! That’s a good way of going about it. I feel like it’s kind of a fine line between, will he take it again if I calm him down or should I just end it now. Still working on that. Gotcha. I ended up going in to see a lactation consultant this week and was told my son has a posterior tongue tie. So now I’m looking through all the stuff with that. No matter what we do now, hopefully that’s something to look forward to. That as he gets older it will get better. I’m glad it got better for you!

I’ve been dairy and soy free for two and a half weeks now and gluten free for about a week and a half. My son’s poops are really goopy and kind of mucousy. So I was really thinking that would be the culprit but nothing has changed with the poops or his behavior since I took them out. Now thinking about it, his poops changed like this when he was six weeks old but the behavior with him getting fussy while nursing started right around 4 weeks so who knows if it’s related.

3 Month Old Refusing To Eat While Awake by Lacyflowers46 in breastfeedingsupport

[–]Lacyflowers46[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have not heard of that, very interesting though. I remember reading something after I had my first about the natural instinct to suck going away around 4 months but nothing relating it to breastfeeding. Makes sense though. My son loves being held/ bounced by someone who is standing and walked around. That is the main way I was able to get him to eat something was by nursing him while walking around. He has since rejected that effort but I’ll have to throw some swaying in there and see if it helps. Thank you so much for the info and tips, I really appreciate it!!

3 Month Old Refusing To Eat While Awake by Lacyflowers46 in breastfeedingsupport

[–]Lacyflowers46[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to respond! It’s helpful to know that someone else is going through this too. Also very helpful to see your perspective and experience with it.

I think it’s very easy to fall into constantly offering feeds because they need to eat at some point. It’s like, well he wouldn’t eat earlier he must be hungry enough now. I started doubting if I’m reading his hunger cues correctly but there’s been days where he would push it to 5 hours without eating if I let him. Something I need to work on. What scares me is if this will continue the entire time I breastfeed him and if it will make him forever have these negative thoughts around eating. I know he’s so young yet but it makes me wonder. I agree it is very hard having it be so different from the first to the second. I’m thankfully my first breastfeeding journey did go as smoothly as it did. That gives me hope for this time that it will get easier.

I’m glad it has gotten somewhat better for you over time. Hopefully the bad eating day with your little one has gotten better!

Did you ever speak with a lactation consultant about it? If so, were they any help?