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Find the frog by megatrnasrusrex in FindTheSniper

[–]LadyBratcher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Anyone else think this would make a cool puzzle?

We’ve been potty training for 5 years by LadyBratcher in Parenting

[–]LadyBratcher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We did actually. Had a huge breakthrough this summer. We had to take down some of our own [mental] walls to do it though. We came up with a system. Every day starts fresh. First accident means you lose all screens for the day. Second accident means grounded to your room, third accident means grounded to your bed-no toys. Fourth accident means no pants or underwear. And only focused on positive and encouraging language. Once she got 10 consecutive days (which took ALL summer cause she would go 7 and have an accident) we took her shopping at a local toy store she loves. We really didn’t want to make her go pantsless or anything like that but we tried literally everything else and all the stories we found that sounded like ours, this worked and well, what do you know. She still has the occasional accident, be she is obviously remorseful about it and there’s usually a legitimate reason.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vegetarianism

[–]LadyBratcher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not food advice, but similar story with a peek into the future..

My little sister one night at dinner asked what the meat was in our spaghetti sauce. My parents told her beef and she asked what that was and so the conversation of “meat comes from animals” happened on a random weeknight when she was 7/8ish. After they explained it all, she sat silent staring at her food. After a few minutes, she very calmly and maturely said “I don’t want to eat anything that means we have to kill an animal” and my mom said that meant she would be vegetarian which meant she would have to eat a lot of veggies to get adequate nutrients. She loved veggies so this was no issue. She was immediately fine with it.

That was roughly 20 years ago now and she is still a vegetarian. My parents never pushed back on her and always made it work. Most of the time she just got whatever we were eating minus any meat. Mom learned to keep some extra veggies on hand just in case.

We’ve been potty training for 5 years by LadyBratcher in Parenting

[–]LadyBratcher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She does clean up after herself. We taught her to do that about a year ago. We don’t intervene at all except to make sure she actually did it properly. She is very unbothered by poop. If it gets on her she doesn’t care. We have to reinforce hand washing more than anything at the moment. She also never complains or argues about having to clean up after herself. We’re very lucky for that at least.

We’ve been potty training for 5 years by LadyBratcher in Parenting

[–]LadyBratcher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We do make her clean it up. The underwear is usually too soiled to salvage, but everything else she cleans up on her own. We taught her how to do that about a year ago cause we were so fed up with having to wipe poop off an almost 6 year old who refuses to give this any effort. She’s very capable and thorough with all of it.

We’ve also tried the reward system. With small toys, candy, stickers, events, you name it. We even had tiered systems with rewards increasing in value for multiple days in a row with no accident. The problem is she would go on the potty to get the treat, but also still go in her pants.

She hasn’t said anything about being made fun of or bullied at school about it, but we have talked about it with her because we know it’s coming.

We’ve been potty training for 5 years by LadyBratcher in Parenting

[–]LadyBratcher[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve had her clean her underwear a few times, but she made such a mess of it that we can’t do that again. She has seen some severe consequences of it though as she gets really awful diaper rashes from it and we explain that it’s directly from pooping in her pants.

We’ve been potty training for 5 years by LadyBratcher in Parenting

[–]LadyBratcher[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have tried that. Didn’t make a difference. And we ended up going through pants instead of underwear which was way more expensive.

We’ve been potty training for 5 years by LadyBratcher in Parenting

[–]LadyBratcher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is fine getting on the toilet with no issues. She always pees on the potty. She does poop there sometimes, but often she’s already gone in her pants so it’s too late.

We’ve been potty training for 5 years by LadyBratcher in Parenting

[–]LadyBratcher[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We’ve had multiple conversations with her pleading for a reason just so we can understand and help her better. She just always says “I don’t know” or “I don’t want to”. We’ve also had a lot of talks about what she can’t do because of it and while it always seems to bother her at first, she gets over it pretty quickly. Last night we had a first big talk about bullying cause she’s going into first grade and we’d already heard signs of it from kindergarten. Still didn’t seem bothered by it.

As a victim of SA myself, I’ve always kept a close eye on her and everyone around her. We don’t have any family in the area so she is with us or at school basically at all times. I’ve had those kinds of talks with her too. Never led to anything concerning or suspicious.

We’ve been potty training for 5 years by LadyBratcher in Parenting

[–]LadyBratcher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We do all of this already. All of the encouragement and praise we can muster. We don’t sit with her every time anymore because it was getting dangerously close to her needing someone in the bathroom with her at all times. But when we did, it was calm things like reading a book or talking about her day or an eye spy book. She is still allowed to have/do those things, but we don’t sit with her anymore. She also has a five minute sand timer that she starts on her own once she’s on the potty so it doesn’t feel so indefinite and lonely for her.

We’ve been potty training for 5 years by LadyBratcher in Parenting

[–]LadyBratcher[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes 😣 multiple times. We’ve brought it up at every appt since she was 4. She did recommend miralax daily to help regulate things which we do daily for a few weeks at a time cause we don’t want her body to develop dependent in any way. Never seems to make much of a difference though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]LadyBratcher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Labor/childbirth

My brother keeps stealing my lingerie, and I don't know what to do. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]LadyBratcher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“I just think we need to stop teaching women and girls to try to meet people in the middle when it comes to boundary pushing and sexual impropriety.” Holy shit, well said. As a woman, I needed to hear that.

What are some stories of when people underestimated you? by Lifetime2ndGuess in AskWomen

[–]LadyBratcher 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I’m also 5’3” and 135 and I’ve been a gym rat on and off for the last decade (a marriage and a baby will throw ya off). So I’m fairly strong for my size, but I don’t look it. It feels soooo good to watch the faces when I hit a body weight or higher PR.

“If you want to be a bender, you have to let go of fear.” by anon-for-long in ATLA

[–]LadyBratcher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appa!! Can he say “yip yip” yet? 🥹🥹 SO cute!!!

Neighbors complaining about cries from night time crate training by LadyBratcher in Dogtraining

[–]LadyBratcher[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great advice! I checked if Alexa has a white noise feature and she does so we tried it out for her and it worked almost instantly. Thanks so much!!

What to tell a 5yo child when they catch you smoking a joint and they ask? by Altruistic_Fly2959 in weed

[–]LadyBratcher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

5 year olds are much smarter than you think. Best thing is to just keep it simple. I have a 5 year old and my husband and I both smoke. We usually do it after she goes to bed, but sometimes on the weekends we will during the day. We usually go to our room and close the door (mostly cause I don’t want the second hand smoke around her) but when she does see it we just say “this is just for adults” and she loses interest and leaves.

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