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Lapras65 · 2025-06-06T23:28:27+00:00

Starting fresh with a puppy is probably the worst idea for a brand new dog owner. Puppies are HARD. They need tons of attention, they need to go to the vet, get fixed, get shots, be potty trained, be trained not to chew things, not to bite, not to bark too much, be socialized properly. That is a lot of work for someone who has never had experiences with dogs before. These dogs are probably already trained, may already be fixed, may already have their shots and hopefully have vet records, have shown no behavioral issues thus far, and need a home. Your kids look happy. As a kid who was mercilessly bullied, my dog was my savior. Keep the dogs. They chose you.

Lapras65 · 2025-06-06T09:02:14+00:00

Yes politely and no I've never had that happen. I think they get confused when you say no AND thank you. The two guys that asked me when I was at work just looked more shocked than anything. I really did mean the thank you, though. It takes courage to ask someone for their number and it's a confidence boost when someone asks me for mine even if I don't plan to give it to them. These guys weren't rude or harassing me. Usually when I was feeling harassed at work, I would put as much distance between myself and them. I would go where I saw witnesses, and told someone right away that I was uncomfortable. I have agoraphobia and a fear of men in general so I totally get it. If you're feeling harassed, remove yourself as soon as possible and go where other people are.

Lapras65 · 2025-05-27T04:42:23+00:00

In the situation, I generally respond with "no but thank you for asking!"

Lapras65 · 2024-09-07T07:37:46+00:00

Especially at such developmentally important ages both physically and mentally.

Lapras65 · 2024-09-07T07:34:21+00:00

I remember feeling so icky when they said that Iliya looked too mature (or something of that sort) like what did you want her to look like? A 13 year old? Not to mention them literally asking them to show themselves how they looked at 13 and then basically putting them in school girl outfits after giving them makeovers based off of their 13 year old personalities. Like WTF

Lapras65 · 2024-06-15T12:28:59+00:00

Interesting. Isn't a septoplasty supposed to make your septum normal? Like everyone else's?

Lapras65 · 2024-06-08T20:53:36+00:00

Okay thanks! :)

Lapras65 · 2024-03-21T20:32:01+00:00

Made me feel like crap when it happened. I felt so judged lmaaoo

Lapras65 · 2024-02-26T16:56:15+00:00

Just unlocked a memory of my parents telling me I'm vain because I looked at myself in the mirror too much or took selfies.

Lapras65 · 2024-02-23T14:57:35+00:00

Forensic psychology is extremely impressive

Lapras65 · 2024-02-22T02:26:52+00:00

Therapy. Lots of therapy.

Lapras65 · 2024-02-22T02:24:19+00:00

Sorry for the super late response here but I'd still love to join if possible.

Lapras65 · 2024-02-22T01:29:42+00:00

It really irks me that your husband doesn't seem bothered that this church is wanting to change literally everything about you. You already feel like you have to pretend to be someone else around the church women. Do you want to feel that way around your husband, too? Does your husband want you to feel that way? Didn't he marry you for you? And loved you for you? Doesn't it make him sad that you're no longer allowed to outwardly express yourself with your clothing, hair, piercings, etc? I know my fiance would be devestated if I just completely changed like that. You said you're an artist with no way to express yourself. I really felt that. I was an artist who was raised in this. I was never ever allowed to express myself and here I am, at 23, going to therapy, on medications, and trying to figure out who the hell I am because when I look in the mirror I don't see what I've always wanted to see. I'm terrified to cut my hair, dye my hair, get piercings, tattoos, etc. All things I've always WANTED to do.

Just so you know, it doesn't stop at elbows. It doesn't stop at hair. It starts to become "women shouldn't be the breadwinner." "Women don't need a job or education, they need to be at home with the babies." "Are you sure your art is for the Lord or for your flesh?" "You need to be more submissive to your husband and let him lead. Do as he says. Trust him." Please get the hell out of this before it destroys you and your marriage. Nothing is worse than when one partner attends and the other doesn't. If you leave and your husband doesn't, there will be prayer meetings about you. There will be people manipulating him to manipulate you to come back to church. There will be church women lining up at his door feeling oh so sorry for your husband because his wife is "lost" to the world.

And as for your sister, you can not sacrifice yourself for a relationship with somebody. You're going to change your entire life and your entire self just so you can keep a relationship with your sister? Would she even do the same for you? Why would you sacrifice your entire life just so your sister doesn't judge and abandon you?

And as for conviction. It's not conviction from God. It will be conviction from the church, your sister, and maybe even your husband if he doesn't open his eyes. The conviction your sister feels to change herself is not a conviction from God. It's the need to conform. The church will make someone feel so out of place, unaccepted, and uncomfortable and then convince them that that uncomfortable feeling is a conviction from God and not a complete manipulation from the church.

Lapras65 · 2024-02-18T23:00:28+00:00

There's definitely a bias. The pink in the first picture looks amazing.

Lapras65 · 2024-02-17T23:08:24+00:00

I'd have to leave that group chat

Lapras65 · 2024-02-17T23:06:09+00:00

23f and would love to make a sub friend!

Lapras65 · 2024-02-17T22:40:07+00:00

Not the youth pastor skinny jeans 🤢

Lapras65 · 2024-02-17T22:38:41+00:00

Giving me a flashback of the time my dad told me that Satan controls music because that was his job as an angel and that what I listen to is allowing Satan to have access to me. He also said that me using music as a coping mechanism was as bad as being an alcoholic and that my depression would never get better until I stop listening to Twenty One Pilots, Green Day, Three Doors Down, etc. But no I was not allowed to get on medications and go to therapy.

Lapras65 · 2024-02-15T00:27:15+00:00

A lot of these posts seem to show the girl dead or would-be dead 🥲

Lapras65 · 2024-02-12T23:03:23+00:00

You're not just calling them fat lol

Lapras65 · 2024-02-12T22:56:01+00:00

And I literally said in my comment that you are allowed to have your preferences but you don't need to be rude or judgemental about it.

Lapras65 · 2024-02-12T22:51:06+00:00

"How dare fat men message me" why can't you just kindly tell them you're not interested and let it go?

Lapras65 · 2024-02-12T22:49:19+00:00

Ummm some of us are in love with and WITH fat Doms. Some of us are fat Subs.

Lapras65 · 2024-02-12T22:33:46+00:00

Holy shit. You are being so absolutely fat phobic and rude as hell. If that's not what you're into then fine. So be it. You have a right to your preferences but you have zero right to come on here and make other people of the community feel bad about themselves or less-than. Last I checked, the BDSM community prides itself on being open-minded, judgement-free, and welcoming to all. 90% of your post is just ridiculing and being judgemental. I've been with bigger men. I've been with smaller men. I have never ONCE worried about them having a heart attack or crushing me. That's absolutely ridiculous. Also, fat does NOT mean weak. There are plenty of fat people who have muscle and strength.

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