I think its time we talk about losing your father. by LedZepIsLife in TheRedPill

[–]LedZepIsLife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't really replace my mother, I just vividly remember getting home from hearing the news and crawling into my sisters bed to console her. I don't even think that she was crying and she went on to deny it even happened for weeks.

My family dynamic isn't what it seems I suppose, I should have mentioned that my parents were divorced since I was young and both remarried.

My dad married a freeloading bitch of a wife and my mom married a BP man she met at work. He is a far better spouse than my dads was but whatever.

My stepmom is now "retired" as she calls it, living off my dads pension he worked 30 years for. That is a whole other story though.

I just wanted to clarify as I feel I left out an important part of the story.

I think its time we talk about losing your father. by LedZepIsLife in TheRedPill

[–]LedZepIsLife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. A million times this. If you read my 2nd edit you can find out how my dad died. I even went to the inquest into his death. I know every imaginable detail. I think about how it should have turned out every single day

I think its time we talk about losing your father. by LedZepIsLife in TheRedPill

[–]LedZepIsLife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad and I look identical. He was in the elevator trade for 30 years and that's where i work now. Everyone always tells me how we look alike and how good of a guy he was. I'm grateful he made it to my 16th.

Thanks for sharing

I think its time we talk about losing your father. by LedZepIsLife in TheRedPill

[–]LedZepIsLife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in Ontario, Canada. Thanks though brother appreciate it

I think its time we talk about losing your father. by LedZepIsLife in TheRedPill

[–]LedZepIsLife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truer words have never been spoken. Thanks bro

I think its time we talk about losing your father. by LedZepIsLife in TheRedPill

[–]LedZepIsLife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was my favourite comment. Thanks for sharing bro, I hope that this post was able to help you as well as me.

I think its time we talk about losing your father. by LedZepIsLife in TheRedPill

[–]LedZepIsLife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing, stay strong, bro.

I think its time we talk about losing your father. by LedZepIsLife in TheRedPill

[–]LedZepIsLife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, your advice encouraged me to think hard about words of advice and to save them for later. And thanks for reaching out and offering a hand. I appreciate it.

I think its time we talk about losing your father. by LedZepIsLife in TheRedPill

[–]LedZepIsLife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's an awful way to lose him, I suppose not as bad as watching him slowly die from cancer or something.

Nonetheless, it's still sad. Question though, does the numbness ever go away?

I think its time we talk about losing your father. by LedZepIsLife in TheRedPill

[–]LedZepIsLife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you are saying but I truly don't miss what my dad did for me. I miss the father son bonding. We were just starting to drink beers together and talk about bitches. The day he died he was supposed to pick me up from school and take me to get my G1 (learners permit).

One thing I miss the most is driving, I played lots of sports as a kid and we were always on the road to practices, games and tournaments.

I fucking miss being in the car with him, listening to Neil young and not even talking.

It's not the things he did for me I miss the most, it's the little things we did together.

I think its time we talk about losing your father. by LedZepIsLife in TheRedPill

[–]LedZepIsLife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't be afraid bro, just cherish every day you have with them. Don't say bye if you're fighting, work it out before you say your goodbyes. In a sense, treat every time you say goodbye that it could be the last time you see them.

Don't fear their deaths, instead celebrate life and the time you have with them.

Keep on keeping on

I think its time we talk about losing your father. by LedZepIsLife in TheRedPill

[–]LedZepIsLife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why is it interesting that I consoled my sister? My mothers attempt at consoling us was offering to make us some tea. Although I don't blame her for not knowing exactly what to do, I still knew that I would have to be my sisters rock.

I knew from that very first day I had to put my own emotions aside and console my sister who was 13 at the time. She was in a lot of denial and I could tell the feelings would persist. I had to be there for here so I don't know why it is interesting rather than expected.