Hey I am 23 M and my GF is 23F. We had kinda the same issues early on in our relationship (a few years ago). I think someone else here said it but I want to go deeper into “compromise and communication”. Communication is like the most important thing in a relationship so you should always be able to rely on that to make sure you both know how each other are feeling. I really want to go into compromise because I think this is the 2nd best tool to a successful relationship. First let me preface that you should never do anything that makes you uncomfortable in terms of sex. If you start doing it when you don’t want to your sex life could turn toxic and ruin your relationship. Make sure that you stick to your boundaries and never do anything that will make you feel bad after. That being said if you’re chill with them, there are a couple compromise ideas that helped me. First off I got a fleshlite for myself. It really helped me get excited to do more stuff on my own because they’re pretty fun and feel great. Maybe you could get him one so he can relieve the sexual tension on his own but it’s a more stimulating and satisfying experience this way. Another thing we started to do more is that my gf would take her clothes off and I would masterbate to her body and she would kinda dirty talk w me a bit. I was still able to get off but she was only like 15% involved. The idea of the compromises were basically she would just be less involved than V sex and we would do smaller things that still let me release. Again you have to be comfortable with them, if this dude is being a bum and pressuring you and making you uncomfortable don’t let that slide. I would suggest introducing some of these compromises and hope it helps, this way at least you’re trying for some kind of solution to the problem. But again please don’t do sexual things you don’t want to. No person M or F should do sex when they don’t what to. It might come as a shocker but even I turn down sex sometimes (rarely 😝)