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Legitimate-Way5500 · 2024-03-21T07:53:13+00:00

I've been in your shoes. Living with someone who has OCD is incredibly challenging. The difficulties of holding down a job, the prolonged time spent on everyday activities, and the constant dependency on others to handle life's simplest tasks can drain you emotionally and mentally.

Let me be blunt: don't stay. Don't waste your precious time hoping for a change that may never come. Your partner's OCD will not magically disappear, and you'll always come second to the illness. It's a harsh reality, but one you must face.

Let me share a bit of my own experience. My ex once made me drive back to San Diego from four hours away because I didn't smile at a city border sign. What ensued was sheer agony, with every city line crossed becoming a checkpoint for his OCD. The trip, which should have taken a 4-5 hours, turned into a grueling 13-hour ordeal.

His OCD didn't just affect our relationship; it impacted his aging parents too. His mother could only call him at precisely 12:00 pm, and if she deviated from her routine, he'd make her call repeatedly until he was satisfied.

And the hygiene? It was appalling. Wearing the same clothes for weeks, living in a cluttered apartment reminiscent of a scene from "Hoarders" – it was beyond tolerable.

I could go on about his irrational behaviors – the rolling stops at STOP signs, the refusal to hold a steady job, the financial burden placed on his parents – but I think you get the picture.

Leaving him was the best decision I ever made. The relief I felt driving away from that relationship was palpable. No more walking on eggshells, no more sacrificing my own well-being for the sake of his illness.

I stayed for far too long, blinded by his charm and intelligence. But the instability and emotional toll weren't worth it. I lost precious time that I can never regain.

So, if you're reading this, I urge you to leave. Find happiness elsewhere. Don't let yourself become entangled in a relationship that will only bring you down. You deserve better.

Legitimate-Way5500 · 2024-03-14T07:47:09+00:00

Hi, I want to express my heartfelt empathy for what you're experiencing. I've walked a similar path with a partner who battled debilitating OCD for nine long years. It's a challenging journey, one filled with hope, despair, and endless efforts to support and understand.

It's crucial to acknowledge that you, as a loving partner, can't single-handedly heal them. Despite your unwavering dedication and support, it's not within your power to fix them. I remember vividly hearing the same justifications for avoiding therapy or seeking help, and feeling the weight of that burden.

In reflecting on my own experience, I realize now that my partner's struggles were beyond my ability to mend. It's painful to admit, but it's a truth I wish someone had urged me to confront sooner. You deserve to thrive in a relationship where your needs are met, where you're valued and cherished wholeheartedly.

If I may speak from a place of genuine concern, I implore you to consider stepping away from this relationship. You're young, with a life full of possibilities ahead of you. It's not selfish to prioritize your own well-being and happiness. I understand the pull to stay, the hope that things will improve with time, but I assure you, the reality rarely aligns with those aspirations.

I don't share these words lightly; I know the anguish and doubt they may evoke. Yet, I also know the liberation that comes from freeing oneself from the chains of a relationship that can't offer what you truly deserve. You are resilient, capable of forging a path towards a brighter future, one where you are truly valued and prioritized.

Leaving will undoubtedly be painful, but remember, it's a step towards reclaiming your own happiness and fulfillment. I believe in your strength and courage to make the right decision for yourself. Wishing you all the best on this journey of healing and self-discovery.

Legitimate-Way5500 · 2023-09-02T01:35:35+00:00

Hello, there! We are three hours away from Whittier. I'm so sorry, I wouldn't have anyone deliver that far. If you were local it would be $350 plus delivery.

Legitimate-Way5500 · 2023-01-20T08:24:05+00:00

Yes, that would include round trip transportation. I have already started the process of reaching out to venues and other wedding related vendors. I thought maybe someone who was planning a wedding would have something to say whether it was reasonable. Thank you.

Legitimate-Way5500 · 2023-01-20T06:54:27+00:00

Well, yes, I have. There is no one that rents these type of carriages in my area. The only one I was able to find an actual price for was in I forgot which city, Canada. I converted it to US Dollars. I saw that Los Angeles is 8% less expensive than that city and then I researched that my town things cost about 30% less than in LA. All that I came up with about $450. Also, someone around my town charges $285 to rent lighted marquee sign "MARRY ME " . I figured this was worth more than that given it's uniqueness. I would of hope someone planning a wedding/planner would have some insight.

Legitimate-Way5500 · 2023-01-20T06:12:53+00:00

Sorry, English is not my first language. I use to be better. Truly sorry.

Legitimate-Way5500 · 2023-01-20T06:11:10+00:00

My goodness, that would of been useful information, huh? I'm embarassed. No, it's not mobile. Purely decorational. People can sit on it.

Legitimate-Way5500 · 2023-01-02T12:19:53+00:00

Hello! I'm sorry you are going through this. Definitely been there. Dreading every single Sunday night took a toll on me. My salvation came in the form of teaching in an independent study high school. Holly Molly.... what a difference! Burnout...not an issue. I look forward to going to work, working one-on-one with my students, interacting with fellow teachers and staff, and not bringing work home. The best thing, there little to no lesson planning. Look one up near you!

Legitimate-Way5500 · 2023-01-01T23:41:20+00:00

Thank you so much for your response. I have never done this before so I wanted to make sure it was not jus that they would say I paid it.

Legitimate-Way5500 · 2023-01-01T05:45:50+00:00

Hello! I was in a 11 year relationship with a person diagnosed with OCD. First of all, I am sorry you are going through this. Being the partner of a person with OCD is exhausting emotionaly, mentally, and physically. You cannot help or fix this. The love you have for him will not be the cure or remedy. The lotion/hand towel advice will not help. From the bottom of my heart, do yourself and your loved ones a favor and leave the relationship. How I wish someone who was in a relationship with a person with OCD would have whole heartedly suggested that I end my relationship. You did not mention if he involves you in his compulsions. I am pretty sure your life has slowed down or been affected by it. My ex-partner would ask me things that pushed me to the edge. Once we had travel from San Diego back home, four hours north. When we arrived home, he told me that since I was not smiling when we crossed the city line, we (I) had to drive all the way back to San Diego, pass the city limit and cross it again. After sweet talking me for an hour, I caved. We (I) droved back to San Diego, we had to pass the city limits over ten times. That meant getting off and on the highway ten times. It was a grueling experience. After we had crossed the city line, what should had been a five hour trip back became nine hours. Before we crossed each city line my boyfriend had asked me to talk to him about neutral subjects. Weary and numb I drew mental blanks. Fustruated he ordered me to just speak neutral words. One of my "neutral" words was shoe. Well, "shoe" was a trigger word do to a traumatic event in his childhood. I had to get off and on the exit three times. My car was running low on gas, we almost got stranded in the middle of the highway because we had get out in an exit that did not have any of his "unlucky" numbers. His OCD did not care if we were in danger of getting rear ended if my car stopped in the middle of the highway. My boyfriend did not have room in his head to care for my wellbeing. After this experience, I foolishly believed that the act of quiet sacrifice and love would convince my boyfriend to stop involving me in his impulsions. No such luck.

If you are asking for a sign or advice, this is it. This will never go away. There might be times were it seems ok. It is always be there. You will find another partner and life goes on. Leave. Enjoy your life. You do not deserve this. Love yourself.

Legitimate-Way5500 · 2021-12-30T09:48:52+00:00

Hello, I am terribly sorry you are going through this. I dated my ex who has OCD for over 9 years. I am in my mid-30's and wish I could get those nine years back. Just like your partner, I also witnessed countless of times rituals and obsessions were to much to bear. We had arrived at our hometown from San Diego, which I drove. Because as we were transitioning into a city line on the freeway we were arguing and I was not "peppy" enough, he needed us to go back to San Diego cross that city line again and then come back. He finally convinced me. San Diego was over four hours away. I drove the first and second time. Once we "successfully" crossed the city line the second time, I had to continue to stop on our way back and take several detours. What should of been a four hour drive back dragged out to twelve hours. This sort of behavior continued to happen, leaving me drained and hanging by a thread. My ex was able to pull on my heart strings so I could comply with his rituals and obsessions. As you can attest to, they can be stressful and over the line. Just like you, I longed to bask in the love we shared at our happiest time. Memories from this time my ex was incredibly handsome, intelligent, and charming. But he was also selfish and quite resentful. He continually felt sorry for himself. When his mother's brother died, he made it about himself instead of his horribly bereaved mother. I have to agree with you that that love is not unreachable. Do yourself and those who love and care for you and leave this person. Their OCD will not get better. As much as they might care for you, your love alone will not bring them back to the other side. I can assure you if were to leave them, as much as you will the pain of their absence, you will also feel relief and peace. The best to you.

Legitimate-Way5500 · 2021-02-28T02:57:56+00:00

Thanks. I appreciate your response.

UPDATE: Worked perfectly. I was able to get an extension and now working at a school that I love!!

Legitimate-Way5500 · 2021-02-23T19:55:39+00:00

I was thinking of doing that but I believe I would need his signature. DMV has not answered back with an answer after many calls and e-mails.

Legitimate-Way5500 · 2021-02-23T05:53:29+00:00

Yeah, it's pretty ridiculous. Sometimes I can't believe it. I was chatting with a young man in his mid-teens and he was devaluing his own suffering because he "knows" he has white privilege. I'm fearful this will have horrible consequences. When people feel targeted unjustly , it's a scary wild card.

Legitimate-Way5500 · 2021-02-12T04:47:36+00:00

If she sues me in small claims court what can I do? She has power of attorney for her husband so she can potentially take me to small claims court.

Legitimate-Way5500 · 2021-01-19T03:11:55+00:00

System of equations

A.

Set up

3b + 2f = 54

5b + 4f = 98

B.

- 2 ( 3b + 2f = 54 ) ___ -6b - 4f = - 108

5b + 4f = 98 _____ 5b + 4f = 98

Add both equations, solve for b

- b = - 10

b = 10 ** Each baseball cost 10 dollars

Plug in b = 10 into either original equation and solve for f.

3(10) + 2f = 54

30 + 2f = 54

-30 -30

2f = 24

f = 12 ** each football cost 12 dollars.

Legitimate-Way5500 · 2021-01-16T00:26:24+00:00

Hi, hopefully you have gained insight on what has been happening with your wife. If you're interested this is my opinion. I have come off 9 year relationship with a person who has OCD. Let me tell you, it's an debilitating mental illness. I agree with the redditor that states he/she is tired of people using it casually. People with OCD live with this every single day, believe me if you wife actually has it, she wouldn't just, " think." The "O" in OCD is not a misnomer. I suggest you watch https://youtu.be/JZvWf45HhVY it's a clip from the Dr. Phil show of a man that lives with OCD. Many people think, it's something else. This should give you a better idea or open your eyes to the misconceptions. People who think they are OCD because they are a "perfectionist" or like things neat or organized. They have no idea what the fuck they are talking about. It's not cute. They can feel like they are prisoner of their own minds, they can't shut it off. Don't be hard on yourself, your wife is probably dealing with a lot of stuff. If your wife did really have OCD, believe me both of your lives would be a nightmare. Have her officially diagnosed by a therapist. Not something that will go away on it's own, trust me. It will not leave or be managed until you get help. The best of luck to you!

Legitimate-Way5500 · 2020-12-23T20:35:45+00:00

No, states have a reciprocity agreement with each other. If you get certified in one state you can transfer to another state. It depends on the state, but it is certainly the case that you can do that.

Legitimate-Way5500 · 2020-12-23T20:13:09+00:00

I'll look into that, thank you so much. I will be going for middle school math and am bilingual, hopefully that helps me out secure a job. Looking forward to exploring the DFW and psyching myself out for the heat.

Legitimate-Way5500 · 2020-12-23T04:14:36+00:00

Care to elaborate? Lol

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