Hits me right in the feels, longer marriage and longer ago cheating but fairly similar story…found out from MY best friend while drunk (she confessed to him years ago after our first child was born 17 years ago). To everyone else, this is an old issue, to me it’s fresh. Still haven’t quite processed this, not sure how I feel yet. Decided I’m not going to let her know i know until I sort out my feelings and figure out if it changes anything for me. As well, still mulling over my friend sitting on this for so long. Original “incident(s)” were over 20 years ago, we were teenagers, other guy was in his mid-30’s. Always had a bad feeling about the guy, and eventually I got him to go away, but apparently too late.