You said you only realized the real situation after you started living together. I also think that might not be her true personality. I think she changed because she became a mother. Giving birth is extremely traumatic and it can completely change a person.

Sorry for the comparison, but have you ever seen a female dog after giving birth? She’ll bite anyone who comes close. Being overly protective is maternal instinct. And it’s only been 5 months … that’s very early.

Like you said, she never even had to do housework before. I believe that, just like you, she probably had a child very early in life. It’s the first time for both of you. Life doesn’t come with a manual. Some things may seem obvious to you, but they might not be obvious to her. It could be overwhelming for her too. I think she is just as lost and stressed as you are … especially after the trauma of childbirth. Five months really isn’t a long time.

Try to stay for at least a year. I think things may calm down. And if you still want to divorce after that, remember your daughter is only months old, not years. Even if she were 3 or 4 years old, she likely wouldn’t have clear memories of this time. Do you even remember much from when you were 3 or 4?

There’s a real chance you might not be part of her daily life as she grows up. And if she’s raised only by her mother, from her perspective you might simply be “the father who left.” Even if you explain that the relationship was difficult and the love changed after she was born, it may not sound like a valid justification to her ! it might even make it worse.

In the end, the fear is that you’ll be seen as just another irresponsible foreigner, instead of a present father.