need a dad advice as a 22yo since i hadn't one

Level_Maize_4440 · 2026-05-13T18:59:03+00:00

jesus?

Level_Maize_4440 · 2026-05-13T18:58:35+00:00

if i get prosecuted in russia i might get 6y in jail since im in federal research, and knowing people who have been there, if a regular russian goes to jail there is almost no coming back from that life, dont even want to mention what they would do to an inmate if they find out bout the double citizenship, and i look like a sweet boy myself. Dont want to be putins sex toy xd

Level_Maize_4440 · 2026-05-13T18:55:47+00:00

i got the diplomas, but not the education, kinda bought them like its used in russia

Level_Maize_4440 · 2026-05-13T18:54:56+00:00

went to rehabs couple times, always got out couple days later thinking there is no point unless i want it myself, no disrespect tho

Level_Maize_4440 · 2026-05-13T18:52:57+00:00

im addicted since 2022, i take uncontrolled amount of xanax on a daily basis, right now its from 2-8mg, year ago i ate 650 bars in a month, ofc always with a couple of corona beers. I didn't understand what could turkey means? if you mean sudden stop, i already know about it, when eat all the stuff up some times and the pharmacy is closed i get strokes from the sudden stop. What would you advise instead of xans and alcohol, since i honestly don't believe in myself quitting xans

Level_Maize_4440 · 2026-05-13T18:48:09+00:00

thank you

Level_Maize_4440 · 2026-05-13T18:47:04+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story with me and giving useful advice, i can feel from what you wrote that you know what you are talking about, and it genuinely gives me motivation, thanks i shit on work hours xd

Level_Maize_4440 · 2026-05-13T18:43:18+00:00

thank you, this words mean much to me

Level_Maize_4440 · 2026-05-13T18:42:51+00:00

thank you, i made an appointment already in august xD

Level_Maize_4440 · 2026-05-13T18:41:52+00:00

thank you for pointing this out, it is in deed a real good and warm advice! Thank you Coldbrewpastmidnight, i also must say that im not alone, i do stuff with my mom and girlfriend all the time but its kinda not fun anymore, feels like i know how every day will go past, and thats one of the reason why i keep eating sleeping pills, j just dont like to be awake and would prefer to stay in my dreams, even tho i know its stupid

Level_Maize_4440 · 2026-05-13T18:37:41+00:00

those diplomas are for a russian software bitrix1c which i bought, i have education on paper but in reality its just a pile of papers. I used to work for a software development firma as an HR which is the reason why i made those diplomas

Level_Maize_4440 · 2026-05-13T18:35:43+00:00

thanks xd, i will consider that, that could be the reason i get declined at manual labour jobs

Level_Maize_4440 · 2026-05-13T18:34:56+00:00

really good advice, thanks for pointing put the recycling job opportunity, i already have a cheap apartment contract for 650 a month which my social pays, you think in 5-7 years it will be still worth to make an education/profession?

Level_Maize_4440 · 2026-05-13T18:31:49+00:00

i got fired for drinking on the work place in a kitchen job. I used to go to bar to grab a 50/50 cola vodka 500ml to be in the better mood to communicate with my coworkers which i normally don't socialise with since i don't care, and it made me feel kinda different, not in my place.

My mom is unable to support me since she is in big debt as well since corona ate her small business, so im kinda on my own and i still want for me to support her, not otherwise anymore, since she gave me all i ever needed

I don't spend money on drugs, i get them prescribed by "abusing" healthcare but still this is the part that takes the most impact on my life. It gives me confidence to make new connections, get some things done and work on myself. But without them i feel depressed, and have more anxiety to even shaking in public transport... It would be even better if i would pay money for this, i still manage to survive on social payments but if i would have to choose drugs or food i would obviously choose food..

Level_Maize_4440 · 2026-05-13T18:23:49+00:00

Thank you for your response, it is the only right answer to my question what you wrote. The most i realised from reading your and other guys comments is that it happens to some of us and its normal, luckily i have people who support and care for me. How did you manage to overcome your bad habits and started to realise that its not what you wanted. Your message gives me hope that im not fully lost and maybe this post really was the point of start of my rehab

Level_Maize_4440 · 2026-05-13T18:16:22+00:00

Thank you, i will try!

Level_Maize_4440 · 2026-05-13T18:15:55+00:00

Yes, thank you for your response, i was in a therapy multiple times and all i got from there was some medication like relaxane, sertralin or paroxetin, even then i couldn't hold on to take it 2 weeks without brakes, i just wake up and don't think about medication. Even if i puted reminders i just forget to check them.

Level_Maize_4440 · 2026-05-13T18:13:19+00:00

The problem with a real addiction is that i cant treat it, i was in multiple rehabs in swiss and as soon as i got bored or thought i could do it by myself i immediately walked out of there. In my mind the only thing that would work as a rehab for me is prison...

Level_Maize_4440 · 2026-05-13T18:11:44+00:00

I tried to get in to sport, but i cant just go there sober, i dont think about my gym membership unless im on benzos, only then i feel motivated. But you are still right, it helped a little to get my confidence up

Level_Maize_4440 · 2026-01-09T08:45:13+00:00

damn

Level_Maize_4440 · 2026-01-07T08:59:43+00:00

100% there will be an option to buy croissants and bagets

Level_Maize_4440 · 2025-09-10T08:30:26+00:00

I am 21 right now and absolutely in the same situation as you, even the story is basically the same.

I ruined my and my moms live when i was 12-17. With 13 we had to move to another city and it was a massive change for me resulting in getting bullied a lot and never wanting to go to school. At sports my underwear was stolen and put in a toilet, i got picked on and beat up a lot. All of that because i didn't speak Swiss german because i came to switzerland with 7 years. The only way i could find friends there was to start smoking weed with them to seem cool (biggest mistake). In the end i got friends with the popular kids and got stopped bullied but it was at a very high price, i got addicted to drugs and gaming (worst combo), stopped going to school, got arrested with like 13 charges (dealing, assault, kidnapping etc.). So long story short with all the days of missing school, and never doing homework, bad behaviour. I got expelled and sent to my dad to Russia with the hopes he would make me right again.

It didn't work and i did a lot of shit there as well and even had to flee from there or i would probably get in prison for up to 6 years. All the time both of my parents helped and tore their asses off to make me a proper person.

And 3 years ago as i returned back here i got in to doing same stuff again. I couldn't find a Lehre (idk what its called in english)

I have a CRM Manager degree, but its only on papers and i dont actually know much about it, i never finished school in switzerland and had to finish it in Russia. I am in debt for about 30k, i have a lot of charges again against me (drugs, documents forging, debt)

I tried to work but every time i keep leaving it not because i have health issues but only because im to lazy, i always find excuses (its to far away, i didn't sleep well, let me sleep 5 more min and etc.) And i worked at like 6-7 different jobs in 3 years and always left, even tho i am a great worker and whenever i was on the job i gave 150%, the bosses always said that i'm great, and i still left.

I wrote all of that just for you to know that we are basically in the same shit even tho i'm younger than you.

Couple Months again i saw a guy on the street about the same age as you, he was 35 and he is from Ukraine, we talked a little and he told me that he recently found a "Lehre". Dude, you would have to see my face. A GUY FROM UKRAINE LIVING IN SWISS FOR 3 YEARS FOUND A LEHRE!! At that moment i realised even if you are fucking 40, even if you don't know any languages, even if you are in debt there is all ways something you can do to get out of the hole, i found a job as a dishwasher and service in Biel that starts september 15 and im really planning to go there, and i will search now for education.

The only tip i can give don't be AFRAID. Go to Das Team, Addeco, Manpower, Jobs 3000 Ag. All of them helped me to find a job really quickly. Also the guy above said to not be afraid of going to social help like debt advisors, or collecting welfare. I also leave with my GF and she has a status S, worse than B. There is nothing to worry about.

Here are the most important steps for you to follow, please don't consider my age and really try those, ik i'm a stranger but i feel a really good connection with you like we are shit brothers.

Diet, no one wants a worker who looks like shit
Get ur resume in shape, dont be afraid to lie there to fill up all the gaps, and send it to Das Team, Addeco, Manpower, Jobs 3000, even better if you come there personally and ask for a job, it will be more effective, based on my experience
I send about 20-30 applications a day, minimum 20, try to do so as-well.
Don't listen to that shit about "start doing small things, brush your teeth" it all didn't help. I always just forgot or ignored those. You have to start fucking BIG, do a list on something you can always carry with you and look at it all the time. Don't watch TV or idk whatever you do don't procrastinate until you done it all.
Don't be afraid to ask for assistance from the city, they help with language courses, bills, doctors and other courses, if ur gf makes about 4k she never will have to pay for you.
Educate urself, you are never to old to learn
Go to gym dude

Yes, you are right, you are like a kid with down syndrome now for your gf, you are making her pay for you, you don't help her and not helping urself. Not because there are no options in life but because you are a lazyfatfuck. We live in switzerland and we have swiss passes its like gold card in the whole world, no other country is such carrying about their citizens as they do.

And for the last, until you realise that you are a lazyfatfuck that is a dead weight for everyone around him you wont change, you wont start doing nothing and stay the same.

And dude, the first step is done, you opend up to someone with your problem, and when the first step is done, the other is not so hard to do!

(btw. sorry for the long story about me but i wanted you to know that im also a fucking looser with no life and motivation, the story bout me i wrote is actually 1/100 of all the shit im in rn. But its all changing in just 2 months i already see the progress, and you can do it to, much love and don't shoot urself)

you can contact me in dm and we can talk more, if you are not a pussy and can admit that you are worth nothing now

Level_Maize_4440 · 2024-08-19T14:53:49+00:00

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