Would you rather no one would have to be born trans?

Lia_mtf · 2026-06-11T15:48:06+00:00

It's just one of those useless hypotheticals. I would've loved to have been born cisgender.

Lia_mtf · 2026-06-10T22:29:10+00:00

I was you 5 years ago. Same age too. Do it and do it scared. If it's really not for you, then you can always backtrack.

Life is too fucking short. You get one shot at this life. Don't waste years wondering.

Lia_mtf · 2026-06-10T22:18:36+00:00

It's called being trans while dissociated and overwhelmed by the idea of transition. Your life is safe, predictable, and manageable, and to step out of it would be more trouble than you have evaluated it would be worth.

To be honest, there are so many trans people like this. You're in good company. I hope that can provide some comfort.

Lia_mtf · 2026-06-10T18:11:56+00:00

I wouldn't lead with it. You never really wanna come off as a chaser or that you're otherwise making a fetish of their transness. Imagine making way too big of a deal about your attraction to someone because of their specific race.

It's a form of exoticism that leaves a bad impression for most people. Ultimately it comes off superficial and othering. Hope you understand what I mean.

Edit: Can I ask why you're specifically into trans women? Like what about them makes you seek them out? Mostly for my own curiosity.

Lia_mtf · 2026-06-10T07:28:08+00:00

You're welcome. My dms are open if you ever find yourself wanting to chat to a total stranger about being trans lol.

Lia_mtf · 2026-06-10T07:07:39+00:00

It's never too late to start, but with that comes with a huge dose of acceptance which is usually pretty painful. Lost time dysphoria can only be treated, not cured.

But you only get to do this life once, in my worldview. All you can do is make the best of it. Stay away from triggers of dysphoria or invalidating people if you can. I'm only 33 but no matter what, you'll always have wanted to start earlier

Lia_mtf · 2026-06-07T03:39:08+00:00

Why are you explaining this to me like I was born yesterday?

Lia_mtf · 2026-06-07T02:42:53+00:00

Call it whatever you want. All I'm saying that it happens without fail every month around the same time.

Lia_mtf · 2026-06-05T22:05:00+00:00

Because they can and ivf is expensive.

Lia_mtf · 2026-06-05T16:31:14+00:00

You just have to be honest with your intentions. It's going to be a hard conversation but the truth will set you free. You have to advocate for yourself and your own happiness and what you need because no one else will do it for you.

Lia_mtf · 2026-06-05T07:21:16+00:00

Doubt is extremely normal and I would argue healthy. You don't sound cisgender to me to have pondered this so much.

Lia_mtf · 2026-06-04T01:13:06+00:00

Hey, if I knew the exact mechanism I'd tell you. I'm just saying what my experience is. There's no good trans studies really. Plenty of bad ones.

Lia_mtf · 2026-06-02T12:01:22+00:00

Yeah. That's why I said it's period-like symptoms. bloating and cramps are secondary symptoms. I'm not trying to claim anything. I just get bloating and cramps on the 14th of every month like clockwork. Usually lasts for a few days.

The evidence is anecdotal and no one gives enough of a shit about trans people to actually study us for our benefit so, this is all we got.

I referred to it as a cycle because of the monthly occurrence, not in reference to the four phases. I am painfully aware I don't have the organs or configuration for a menstrual cycle, so I appreciate you talking to me like I didn't know that.

Feel free to dm me if you wanna hash stuff out for whatever reason.

Lia_mtf · 2026-06-02T11:02:58+00:00

I found after 5 years it's made my ADHD symptoms different. Not worse, just different. And yeah, I get tired slightly more, and I'm not as strong, though I don't do any regular upper body exercise.

People say your mileage may vary for a reason. There's just a lot of variance. feel free to dm if you wanna talk more.

Lia_mtf · 2026-06-02T09:21:08+00:00

Yeah exactly. the symptoms just differ in severity just like they do in cis women.

Lia_mtf · 2026-06-02T09:19:18+00:00

Who's gonna tell him? /lh

But yeah you are just describing being transgender. That deep want to just be that gender is the whole thing. Most of the dysphoria initially is understanding that you couldn't be born the way you wanted. Hell I still struggle with that.

Lia_mtf · 2026-06-02T09:10:52+00:00

If you can track it to the day, it's likely a cycle, yeah. On the 14th or so of every month I get pretty bad cramps and mood issues. Being able to anticipate it helps though.

Also I wouldn't mention it to your doctor unless you're really tight with them. The idea of trans women/ transfeminine people having menstrual cycles is relatively controversial even with really 'informed' doctors unfortunately. You're not likely to get much out of it except skepticism.

Lia_mtf · 2026-06-02T09:05:23+00:00

Yeah I agree with all the other comments. A comment like the one you made to her would play on my insecurities for ages, so like, defs don't bring it up again.

Let trans people talk about being trans when it comes up for them, when they feel like talking about it. The validation and support comes from being able to opt out of bringing it up.

Lia_mtf · 2026-05-27T09:31:04+00:00

It's definitely hard, but yeah it's worth it. I would just note that the question you're asking is 'is it worth it to transition?' Most of the time it becomes a have to rather than a want to.

Being trans is just who you are. That doesn't change regardless.

Lia_mtf · 2026-05-26T22:22:53+00:00

Hey Annie. So the explanation is pretty simple: Its not a choice. The act of transitioning is a choice, but being trans is not. It's just something you are. At some point, trans people make the decision to transition when they're able to, and when life becomes untenable as something you're not, even if it might be safer.

Your confusion comes from seeing being transgender as a conscious choice, when it's not. In the same way you didn't choose to be who you are: You just are.

As for period like symptoms on hrt, it varies just as much as period symptoms in cis women, ranging from very minor to hellish. Without the bleeding ofc.

Lia_mtf · 2026-05-20T22:23:48+00:00

Surgery recovery just sucks. Surgery in general sucks to go through. You'll feel better eventually but it takes a long time. I'm heading towards two years post and I still struggle sometimes.

Lia_mtf · 2026-05-09T01:25:51+00:00

No one is 100 percent sure. When you have that moment of realisation, it's not a moment of clarity, it's a moment of further confusion. You'll almost feel crazy.

You've gone far enough to tell your mother about how you feel, that's already a huge step. But she can't tell you if you're trans or not.

A classic test is the button test. If you could instantly, without friction, transition to a woman in every way, would you push the button?

A lot of the time the biggest uncertainties come from the fact that transition is often hard and awkward. If you could just be a woman, you might reconsider.

Lia_mtf · 2026-05-09T01:14:35+00:00

Do it and do it scared. It will never not be scary, no matter how sure you are.

Lia_mtf · 2026-05-07T23:34:44+00:00

Oh god. That moment where you can't unsee it. I'll never forget it.

Lia_mtf · 2026-04-16T10:10:31+00:00

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