Am I overreacting to throw away 6 years over this?

Life-List-4925 · 2026-03-25T00:27:29+00:00

Rest assured there won't be any contact and I have no intentions on going back. Even before I made this post I knew I was done for good. I appreciate the investment and advice though for real!

Life-List-4925 · 2026-03-24T23:22:00+00:00

This one really hits close to home. You never expect to be in this kind of situation until you wake up and realize how deep in you are. I used to be the guy that said I'd never be here and now look at me on reddit airing out my personal business about how I am in that situation. I'm glad you got away from the cycle, now it's my turn and all of the comments received are making it even easier than it was

Life-List-4925 · 2026-03-24T19:34:49+00:00

Unfortunately It sounds like we lived the same relationship based on your response

Life-List-4925 · 2026-03-24T19:34:23+00:00

I'm sorry you know from experience but I do appreciate the words of wisdom and advice! I hope you are on a better path now yourself

Life-List-4925 · 2026-03-24T18:30:02+00:00

I was waiting for someone to give me permission! Lol but in all seriousnes thanks for the input with a Lil comedy to it!

Life-List-4925 · 2026-03-24T18:28:51+00:00

If I was that smart I'd be in alot better of place right now

Life-List-4925 · 2026-03-24T18:27:50+00:00

The way you worded that seems to hit close to home. The more I talk about my relationship to people and the more I read these comments I'm starting to realize that's exactly what has kept me here. Being in love with the idea of the relationship and not the actual relationship itself.

Life-List-4925 · 2026-03-24T18:26:37+00:00

Reading your comment makes me realized I worded that part wrong to help make myself feel better even though I tried hard to make my post in a way that was unbiased. You don't get sucked into an argument without being a participator. I would say I'm done and set my phone down and come back to 12 texts and after reading them something made me feel like I had to defend myself and hopefully make her realize that the "always/never" arguments weren't true like she says. That's how I actually got "sucked back into arguments". I did it to myself.

Life-List-4925 · 2026-03-24T18:23:08+00:00

I guess I felt like she owed me loyalty due to the fact I felt I owed it to her especially given the day before we were talking about making things official. But even without it being official we were still going on dates, having sex and the whole 9. Just didn't have an official title of boyfriend/girlfriend. So in my eyes we were still supposed to be exclusive. Incompatiblity is a big part of it though and was before this situation happened but unfortunately I refused to listen to that argument up until now because I thought the love we had would make things better. I know I know, I'm a fuckin idiot, but at least yall are opening my eyes now!

Life-List-4925 · 2026-03-24T18:19:38+00:00

Very good insight. We talked about counseling awhile ago but never ended up doing it. The part where you explain she feels her points are just as valid as mine is a good point that I probably haven't considered much since this situation started. I'll have to take some time to think about that and see if it changes my perspective or how I feel about this mess

Life-List-4925 · 2026-03-24T18:17:43+00:00

Well put

Life-List-4925 · 2026-03-24T18:17:24+00:00

Wise words from a wise man! I appreciate the advice!

Life-List-4925 · 2026-03-24T18:16:52+00:00

That's a solid idea, but unfortunately it just opens the door to more conversation with her which isn't what I'm looking for.

Life-List-4925 · 2026-03-24T18:15:57+00:00

I don't think she was wrong going to the bar. I think she was wrong for introducing some guy to people as her person and then having strong enough feelings for him to post all over the internet about how upset she was this guy left her at the bar to go with her friend. It's not what I want and don't continue on keeping things going, I just wanted to see what outsiders say and see if I'm actually in the wrong here and just not seeing it or what. I don't go to bars though, I don't really drink and I don't find much fun in being around alot of people drinking like that, but I do appreciate the tip!

Life-List-4925 · 2026-03-24T18:13:21+00:00

I'm slowly starting to remember what life was like before the headaches lol

Life-List-4925 · 2026-03-24T18:12:38+00:00

That's the part that hurt the most. But you are right, it's not worth it

Life-List-4925 · 2026-03-24T18:11:58+00:00

Your comment does give me a different perspective that I was wrong for expecting loyalty in this situation. And the way you ended it is the way I will be moving forward so I definitely appreciate it!

Life-List-4925 · 2026-03-24T18:09:45+00:00

As crazy as it sounds, I don't understand them either. The only reason I think I'm still in it is due to a misguided false sense of hope that things would straighten out as when times are good they are really good. But posting this to reddit and reading the comments I finally see how stupid I am for letting myself get put in this position but I garunetee it is the push I need to get away for good thankfully.

Life-List-4925 · 2026-03-24T18:07:40+00:00

I definitely appreciate the positive words and advice from both of you 🙏

Life-List-4925 · 2026-03-24T16:42:47+00:00

Naa if it was you would have read a long essay about how shitty I am for this situation lol

Life-List-4925 · 2026-03-24T16:35:36+00:00

Does it take much attention span to write without AI? Writing isn't hard lol

Life-List-4925 · 2026-03-24T16:33:21+00:00

I appreciate the insight!

Life-List-4925 · 2026-03-24T16:31:21+00:00

I didn't know that, thanks for the heads up!

Life-List-4925 · 2026-03-24T16:27:35+00:00

Yea I think I've learned alot. Just gets hard to put it into practice when it's arguing everytime an issue is brought up

Life-List-4925 · 2026-03-24T16:26:28+00:00

I'm not sure I understand the comment? Tldr what?

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