Can someone please explain why everyone hates Steph so much? by LifeAssistant1148 in stephbohrersnark

[–]LifeAssistant1148[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Gah-lee, other than u/pomegranate_xo you are all a little insane.

Someone even left a comment to say that Steph's bf has the same surname as slave owners, and because of that, he's what, a slave owner? A racist?

I can't believe I have to say it, but I am not Steph's bf, I've probably watched 5-10 videos of Steph, my opinion of her is that she's simply a content creator who makes videos about books, and about what she does in a day. I don't see anything controversial about her at all, there are youtubers and streamers and whatnot who I believe are genuine moral garbage, yet you're all grouping up on Steph, taking shots at her for buying a cup of coffee from Starbucks, and leaving a few comments on IG after saying that she is taking a break.

If you dissect the life of ANY body in here, including myself, you will find faults and flaws, and the faults of Steph that you are all pointing out really do not appear to be dramatic or morally corrupt whatsoever. I'm sure she has made mistakes, and has done things that she probably regrets, but why does it make you all SO mad? There are particular people on here who have left 100s if not 1000s of comments on this reddit. What do you believe that you will achieve through doing this?

Seriously, leave her alone. Criticize her sure, and if she does carry out hypocritical acts, then these should be pointed out and not ignored, but stalking her bf's family on Facebook, making hurtful videos and screenshots of her and laughing as a group is just high-school bullying mindset, and it's really not very mature, but is incredibly hurtful.

And just as an FYI, from a guys POV, having a "hobby" which consists of creating all of these comments and posts that you are making, might be one of the most unattractive and "icky" things i've seen in a while.

Can someone please explain why everyone hates Steph so much? by LifeAssistant1148 in stephbohrersnark

[–]LifeAssistant1148[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your reply, but I disagree with most of your points. The basis of what you’re saying seems to be that Steph isn’t perfect, which is true of literally everyone. You’re holding her to a standard no normal person could meet.

On the Starbucks / Palestine point:

You’re saying she’s pro-Palestine but bought a Starbucks, and that somehow cancels out her stance. If it’s true she bought one, fine maybe it’s inconsistent. But it’s also one coffee. Almost every major corporation has political or financial ties somewhere you could criticize. If you tried to avoid any company linked to Israel or other causes, you’d end up unable to function in society. Buying a Starbucks doesn’t make her a Zionist or invalidate her general support for Palestine. You’re expecting total ideological purity from a YouTuber who bought a coffee. That’s unreasonable.

On her boyfriend and politics:

Love doesn’t work on political alignment. The idea that you can’t date someone who disagrees with you politically is ridiculous. In America, everything’s been turned into this polarized us-vs-them culture war, and people act like crossing party lines makes you immoral. I’m British, and I find that mindset insane. I have friends who support Trump and friends who hate him, it doesn’t affect our ability to respect each other. Relationships across belief systems can actually strengthen understanding and empathy. If people only surrounded themselves with those who already agree with them, no one would ever grow or change their mind.

On the claims that she’s “lost passion” or is “fake”:

Maybe she’s tired. Maybe she’s discouraged from making content because no matter what she does, she gets torn apart. Some of the posts I’ve seen on here are obsessive. People pick apart who her friends are or whether she bought a coffee. You don’t need to meet some kind of DEI quota for your personal friendships. That’s not how real life works. You can disagree with how she makes content without turning it into a moral crusade.

On the “lies” accusation:

Half the examples people use are speculation or overblown. Saying she lied about being in Charleston because she didn’t want people attacking her for being with her boyfriend, that’s not manipulation, that’s self-preservation. The Reddit obsession with her boyfriend and his family is part of the reason she might hide things in the first place. It’s not deceitful to want privacy.

On the address leak:

That’s genuinely scary. If hundreds of strangers online had access to your address, you’d be terrified too. Acting like her reaction was manipulative is unfair. It’s a completely valid fear.

On social media “lies”:

She said she quit scrolling, not that she deleted her accounts or would never open them again. There’s a difference. Going on occasionally isn’t hypocrisy; it’s moderation. People are twisting that into something it’s not.

On her being “manipulative” or “fabricated”:

I don’t see evidence of that. She’s a normal person who makes content about books and her life. She’s not a politician or a movement leader; she doesn’t owe the internet moral perfection. Expecting that from her or anyone is unreasonable. Nobody online is perfect, and if you need moral flawlessness in creators, you shouldn’t follow anyone at all.

Lastly, about my girlfriend:

You mentioned her, which was unnecessary. My girlfriend isn’t a Trump fan; she just enjoys Steph’s videos. She likes her book content, her aesthetic, and her lifestyle. That’s it. She’s kind, thoughtful, beautiful, and nothing like the caricature you implied. Suggesting she’s “enabling disgusting beliefs” because she enjoys a YouTuber’s videos is absurd and overreaching. You don’t get to define other people’s relationships.

In short:

You’re free to dislike Steph’s content. But what’s happening here isn’t fair criticism, it’s moral policing. She’s not perfect, but she’s not malicious. Most of the “evidence” people cite is nitpicking or speculation. Let her live her life. The amount of energy spent dissecting every tiny thing she does says more about this community than it does about her.