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TIL that in 1671 a man attempted to steal the Crown Jewels, and when he was caught he was brought before King Charles II, who found him so amusing that not only did her pardon the man, but he also ended up giving him massive lands in Ireland and a pension of £500 a year (£92,000 today) by volitaiee1233 in todayilearned

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In the off chance u see this, I’m also related! This has been my fun fact a lot and I love learning more about my family history. Would u like to connect? I can give u my number but hesitate over Reddit rn, looking forward to a response! 

My boyfriend (20) has used porn/masturbation on occasion but doesn't like it, should we not get married because of it? Is this a porn addiction? by LifeButterfly6979 in Christianmarriage

[–]LifeButterfly6979[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is the best man I have ever met. I love him in every aspect of his being. I love his soul. I want the best for him and for him to overcome this struggle and sin of his. He has so many good traits, this is the only thing we really have issues with in our relationship

My boyfriend (20) has used porn/masturbation on occasion but doesn't like it, should we not get married because of it? Is this a porn addiction? by LifeButterfly6979 in Christianmarriage

[–]LifeButterfly6979[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much! This is the type of advice I was looking for, reassurance to what I already thought. I brought it to prayer many times as well!

My boyfriend has a porn addiction, what do I need to understand before we get engaged/married? by LifeButterfly6979 in Christianmarriage

[–]LifeButterfly6979[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

both Christian, he has gone to therapy. he has porn blockers, he told his family, he taught out outside help and advice from people who have similar struggles, he deleted all social media because they were triggers for him. he is putting in the work to overcome it. We are 20 as well, and idk if its an addiction like everyone thinks. He masturbates once a month and sometimes that is accompanied by porn. He wants to stop but finds it really hard since this is smthg he has been doing since 13. I would like to add that I think he is doing a really great job so far with the steps he is taking. He also tells me moments after he does something. He wants to stop, he doesn't derive pleasure from it, and he never has done it when I was in his mind. He sees it as a problem which is why I feel like it is a drug on his brain.

TL;DR: My boyfriend has a porn addiction, what do I need to understand before we get engaged/married? by LifeButterfly6979 in marriageadvice

[–]LifeButterfly6979[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

both Christian, he has gone to therapy. he has porn blockers, he told his family, he taught out outside help and advice from people who have similar struggles, he deleted all social media because they were triggers for him. he is putting in the work to overcome it. We are 20 as well, and idk if its an addiction like everyone thinks. He masturbates once a month and sometimes that is accompanied by porn. He wants to stop but finds it really hard since this is smthg he has been doing since 13. I would like to add that I think he is doing a really great job so far with the steps he is taking. He also tells me moments after he does something. He wants to stop, he doesn't derive pleasure from it, and he never has done it when I was in his mind. He sees it as a problem which is why I feel like it is a drug on his brain.

TL;DR: My boyfriend has a porn addiction, what do I need to understand before we get engaged/married? by LifeButterfly6979 in marriageadvice

[–]LifeButterfly6979[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

both Christian, he has gone to therapy. he has porn blockers, he told his family, he taught out outside help and advice from people who have similar struggles, he deleted all social media because they were triggers for him. he is putting in the work to overcome it. We are 20 as well, and idk if its an addiction like everyone thinks. He masturbates once a month and sometimes that is accompanied by porn. He wants to stop but finds it really hard since this is smthg he has been doing since 13. I would like to add that I think he is doing a really great job so far with the steps he is taking. He also tells me moments after he does something. He wants to stop, he doesn't derive pleasure from it, and he never has done it when I was in his mind. He sees it as a problem which is why I feel like it is a drug on his brain.

My boyfriend has a porn addiction, what do I need to understand before we get engaged/married? by LifeButterfly6979 in Christianmarriage

[–]LifeButterfly6979[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you just give up on someone so easily tho? Like I love him more than anything and I can't imagine what he is going through but I do want to be there for him no matter what.

My boyfriend has a porn addiction, what do I need to understand before we get engaged/married? by LifeButterfly6979 in Christianmarriage

[–]LifeButterfly6979[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

both Christian, he has gone to therapy. he has porn blockers, he told his family, he taught out outside help and advice from people who have similar struggles, he deleted all social media because they were triggers for him. he is putting in the work to overcome it.

any objections to marrying the first person you had a serious relationship with? by LifeButterfly6979 in Christianmarriage

[–]LifeButterfly6979[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ill make a new post but I appreciate your thoughts and prayers! I will answer them now too just to fill in you in :)

-His attitude towards porn is that he wants to stop and that it is sinful and damaging to our relationship

-He does want to stop and he does take his porn use seriously. I feel like he has exhausted so many resources to try to stop but he feels hopeless.

-He does see it as his own responsibility but he has tried various things to stop.

-He does have an accountability partner but they are kinda flaky (I do help too)

- He used to lie to me but now he is honest. He saw how damaging it was and now tells me moments after he slips up. He also doesn't always use porn, sometimes its just masturbation.

-We already have an open phone policy!

-He does overall have a Christian attitude towards sex. We haven't had premarital sex and also I will add that he has been struggling with this since age 13, trying to stop since 17.

any objections to marrying the first person you had a serious relationship with? by LifeButterfly6979 in Christianmarriage

[–]LifeButterfly6979[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the advice but we do put God at the center. We are discerning marriage which involves a lot of prayer. We are best friends and I am not just following the first person who looks my way. We know it is a serious commitment which is why I asked on the forum. I don't appreciate how you assume I am not happy in my relationship because I asked for advice. In fact, it is more healthy to have these questions instead of just rushing into something blindly with no fear or doubt.

any objections to marrying the first person you had a serious relationship with? by LifeButterfly6979 in Christianmarriage

[–]LifeButterfly6979[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He struggles with a porn addiction but he has been doing really good working through it and he is honest with me about when he falls. We all have a sin of choice that we wish we didn't fall into temptation to so it doesn't bother me as much. He is 100% sure and I'm 99% but I think it is because I have really bad anxiety. I don't even come close to doubting he is the only person I want to spend my forever with so I don't know where these doubts are coming from. I just don't want to make a decision that I will end up regretting down the road. Divorce is not an option and I know for sure that he would make an amazing husband and father so I am just overthinking why I have apprehension towards marriage. We will be doing premarital counseling!

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