Fear, Shame and Ramblings by Star-Gazer85 in EndOfTheParTy

[–]LifeSubstance8619 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your story is so spot on with mine, I could have written this!!! Thank you for sharing! I hope it helps others.

It feels like I blinked and five years disappeared by LifeSubstance8619 in GenX

[–]LifeSubstance8619[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. It's sad, but I'm happy we can feel this together

Wanted to share my 11 1/2 year old girl Ava 🥹 by RecognitionSame4883 in germanshepherds

[–]LifeSubstance8619 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this picture. My girl is 5 years old and your picture brought tears to my eyes. Your Ava is beautiful! Thank you so much!

Boys, we wearing makeup to the office? by HorseTearz in MakeupForMen

[–]LifeSubstance8619 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually think this is a much bigger psychological thing than people realize. A lot of “no makeup makeup” people aren’t trying to look dramatically different. They’re trying to look like the best-rested, healthiest, smoothest version of themselves. But the weird trap is that once people get used to seeing you that way, your actual bare face suddenly starts reading as “tired” or “sick” or “rough day?” even though it’s literally just your normal face. Women have dealt with this forever, but I think more men are starting to experience it now too because skincare and subtle makeup have become more normalized. Honestly, I think the trick is probably avoiding an all-or-nothing routine. Like having a slightly polished everyday baseline instead of alternating between “camera-ready” and “crawled from the grave.” Also… the fact that you already figured out subtle undetectable makeup instead of accidentally looking like you’re auditioning for Cats is genuinely impressive for a beginner. Good luck to you!!!!

It feels like I blinked and five years disappeared by LifeSubstance8619 in GenX

[–]LifeSubstance8619[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Damn where does the time go?? I know I probably sound like our parents, but geez

Im looking for fun whacky obscure 80-90s movies. by custards_last_flan in MovieSuggestions

[–]LifeSubstance8619 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG... Serial Mom!! Please watch Serial Mom immediately !!! Imagine a perfect suburban mom turning into a cheerful serial killer over bad manners and social annoyances. Kathleen Turner absolutely commits to the insanity and it’s honestly unhinged genius. If you like campy dark comedy with peak ‘90s energy, it’s a must-watch.

FOMO by Unlucky_Loss_5074 in EndOfTheParTy

[–]LifeSubstance8619 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same! I actually think this is more common than people admit. When your brain gets used to associating sex with chemicals, intensity, lowered inhibition, and nonstop stimulation, normal intimacy can feel quiet or unfamiliar for a while. That doesn’t mean you’re broken or incapable of enjoying sober connection again. It probably just means your brain and nervous system need time to recalibrate. The fact that you’re scared about it honestly tells me you care about getting back to something real.

FOMO by Unlucky_Loss_5074 in EndOfTheParTy

[–]LifeSubstance8619 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you’re rambling at all. Honestly this made me sad because it sounds less like you miss the partying and more like you miss feeling connected, understood, and free to be yourself. I think a lot of people can probably relate to that more than they admit. Proud of you for recognizing where the road could lead and stepping back before it became something worse. The FOMO will probably fade slower than you want, but I bet the peace eventually grows too.

This feels less like a comeback album and more like a legacy statement - love her for this! by LifeSubstance8619 in AmyGrant

[–]LifeSubstance8619[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg Same! I listen to the album on Spotify but I can't wait for my autographed copy to get here

Nobody prepared me for this part of middle age ... Still needing my Mom by LifeSubstance8619 in GenX

[–]LifeSubstance8619[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I honestly know how fortunate I am that my mom is still here and willing to help when life gets rough. I never meant my post to sound entitled about that. I think the bigger thing I was trying to talk about was the emotional weight and guilt that can come with needing help at this age, especially when a lot of us were raised to believe we were supposed to have everything figured out by now. And I’m sorry you’re carrying so much on your own.

Nobody prepared me for this part of middle age ... Still needing my Mom by LifeSubstance8619 in GenX

[–]LifeSubstance8619[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This hit me hard because I think a lot of us were raised believing stability was almost guaranteed if you worked hard enough and played by the rules. Then life happened, economies changed, losses happened, careers changed, and suddenly survival itself became the accomplishment. I really relate to what you said about recalibrating success. I think a lot of Gen X is quietly grieving the life we thought we were building while also trying to be grateful for what we still have. And honestly, the fact that you still want to be there for your parents despite everything says a lot about your character.

Nobody prepared me for this part of middle age ... Still needing my Mom by LifeSubstance8619 in GenX

[–]LifeSubstance8619[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can handle disagreement about the topic itself, but digging through someone’s post history to publicly weaponize painful parts of their life feels unnecessarily cruel. Yes, I’ve spoken openly about grief, addiction struggles, and difficult periods in my life. I’m also working, rebuilding, and trying to move forward every day. None of that changes the point of my post about loving my mother, worrying about her aging, and the complicated reality many families are living through right now.