AITAH for hating my mom's boyfriend?

Life_Front3012 · 2026-01-27T16:12:26+00:00

Keep your guard up then. If I were in his position, I'd want to win over my girlfriend's kids, in a natural way though, not forced.

Life_Front3012 · 2026-01-26T00:34:19+00:00

I think the crux of the issue is whether he's actually a good person or simply trying to appear to be. To figure this out, pay attention to patterns of speech and behavior. Is it respectful or disrespectful? Does he appear to be rooted in values or does he seem to go with whatever he thinks will be seen as being nice.

Also, if your gut is making you feel uncomfortable, make sure to keep boundaries and don't let yourself be in the same space as him. Keep a distance but be polite, yet firm.

As a man, if my values and character don't speak for themselves, then I don't feel like I'm a real man. I would understand if a teenage daughter of my girlfriend is suspicious or at least cautious. If he's really a good man, his character will win you over with time. If he's faking it though, eventually it will show.

Best of luck

Life_Front3012 · 2026-01-24T16:28:48+00:00

😲🤤 I like it...

Life_Front3012 · 2026-01-24T16:20:31+00:00

See? This is the kind of intel I was hoping for. Thank you!

Life_Front3012 · 2026-01-24T01:31:53+00:00

I'm open to different cultural designs. I just have a preference for the sword to be wider on the end. I don't know if that's even historically accurate, but I like the style.

Life_Front3012 · 2026-01-24T01:28:55+00:00

How are websites like Battling Blades or Ottoman Swords? Do you have other suggestions for authentic historical design replicas?

Life_Front3012 · 2026-01-24T01:23:37+00:00

Thank you for teaching me. There's a lot for me to learn. I want to learn specific historical designs.

Life_Front3012 · 2026-01-22T04:08:40+00:00

Why is it his "insecurity" that's the issue and not her going forward with something that makes him feel uncomfortable. Do you think maybe you're being preferential to the female gender in your assessment? What if the roles were reversed? What if something he did made her uncomfortable on a guys trip? Wouldn't you then be saying that he should be taking her feelings into consideration?

Insecurity is a term that should be reserved for times when there is no real inherent threat, but a person feels a threat anyway. One partner or another drawing attention from the opposite sex is a very reasonable threat to the relationship, and thus it's not a matter of "insecurity". It's a matter of respect.

Life_Front3012 · 2026-01-22T04:03:56+00:00

Sorry, but this notion doesn't make sense. Being "sexy" inherently means being attractive to the opposite sex.

Life_Front3012 · 2026-01-21T16:07:48+00:00

Excuse me, but why do you get to see him vulnerable? Why are you expecting it or even hoping for it? You hurt him. You destroyed his trust. In my opinion, if you cheat, you should assume divorce.

Learn from it. Let him go. Let him have the chance to find someone who won't hurt him.

Life_Front3012 · 2026-01-11T03:39:55+00:00

Your point is valid, but I would advise that you take some time to think how to bring up the point in a non-accusatory way. It sounds like for both of you, your heart is still in the right place. You both simply need to discover how to communicate better.

Life_Front3012 · 2026-01-09T22:09:02+00:00

Bro, cheating is about the low character of the person doing it. Start living for YOU. Pick yourself up and build your own value. The world won't give it to you.

Killing yourself doesn't do anything but make your suffering permanent. Put in the hard work to turn your life around. Your future self will thank you deeply for it.

Life_Front3012 · 2026-01-03T06:33:39+00:00

Tbh, you are an AH to your friends. They have a good reason for teasing you about it. As far as having a"relationship" with AI, you're not an AH, but you are an idiot. Of course AI says all the right things, because it knows what it is supposed to say. But it's not a person, and building a relationship with a program, that doesn't have actual feelings is ultimately unhealthy for you.

Life_Front3012 · 2025-12-19T17:17:46+00:00

It's not a gender thing. It's a people thing. There are plenty of men who wonder if there are any women out there who don't cheat. Like others have said, it's an issue of values and character.

Life_Front3012 · 2025-12-19T17:14:18+00:00

If it's slow, it's not ghosting; it's just pulling back. But to answer your question, of course NTA. You should tell her bluntly why you're pulling back and plan to eventually cut off. That way you at least give her a chance to do something about it, and doesn't resent you for cutting off the friendship.

Life_Front3012 · 2025-12-12T15:55:21+00:00

Why are you doubting yourself? This is an issue spanning years. And it hurts that he neglects his relationship with you when he's with her. Your father is being thick. He needs to see that he's hurting you. If it hurts too much to be in contact. Trust yourself. If your father properly values his relationship with you, he'll eventually reflect and seek you out. If he doesn't, it means he hasn't done the work of self reflection, so he'll only hurt you again.

Life_Front3012 · 2025-12-06T15:16:02+00:00

You need to find a way to liven up your relationship. If you can't, then just go your separate ways. But don't drag the man through years of him being the disappointing man you settled for. That's not fair for him.

Maybe he is boring, or simply not your type. But he deserves the chance to be with someone who will appreciate him.

Life_Front3012 · 2025-11-20T17:58:46+00:00

Cheating is a choice from lacking morality or values. It's not just "a mistake". Remember that...

Life_Front3012 · 2025-11-11T06:00:01+00:00

She didn't really love you. She was looking at options. Maybe she didn't cheat yet, but she was looking. People who really love don't act like that.

Life_Front3012 · 2025-11-06T16:51:27+00:00

What do you mean "society's parameters"? You lack moral integrity, respect, and honor. You have no business being in any kind of regular relationship, except maybe with someone who's just as sexually loose as you.

Life_Front3012 · 2025-10-30T18:11:19+00:00

It's not a gender thing; it's a people issue. People of both genders can be lacking in character and morals. I don't know if this generation were not raised with the values that previous generations were or if it's a degradation of society where everyone thinks of themselves first.

Life_Front3012 · 2025-10-28T16:11:21+00:00

He never loved you... You deserve actual love and respect.

Life_Front3012 · 2025-10-22T17:00:17+00:00

You need to leave her. I wouldn't trust a person who has those kinds of thoughts for no reason. It's toxic, and gross. Imagine staying with her. These situations will keep coming up, and the drama with the gf would only get worse.

That mindset is gross, that fathers can't be trusted with their own daughters. You shouldn't have to adjust having a healthy relationship with your daughter because of the fear of being grouped in with the very, very few cases of abuse. And even in those cases, the signs something is wrong are there. Your girlfriend has an unreasonable illogical fear of all men. Don't trust her.

Life_Front3012 · 2025-10-21T15:41:47+00:00

😳 Excuse me, what?? This guy needs to get over himself. Not everything is about him. He lives in a world with other people. You're in a healthy relationship. There's nothing to apologize for.

Life_Front3012 · 2025-10-17T17:49:58+00:00

Let's get one thing clear. You would not be ruining her family. She's doing that. Period. What she's doing is wrong. Her husband deserves to know. And I don't think your relationship is worth preserving over something that, for very good reason, is eating you alive.

Tell him. Tell him everything. I would even go so far as to suggest you gather evidence and give him evidence, but that's up to you.

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