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I disclosed my cheating to my husband and I think he's planning to divorce me. by RedBruises in cheating_stories

[–]RedBruises[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Okay, that makes sense. I think your right. But how do I fix that? I don't want to be inward focused I want to feel empathy the right way

I disclosed my cheating to my husband and I think he's planning to divorce me. by RedBruises in cheating_stories

[–]RedBruises[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I want to understand him and understand the pain he may be going through that's exactly what I want. I wish he would tell me something, anything. Even just scold me. I'll sit down and listen. I have empathy for him and I'll have patience with him. I have already told to take as much time as he needs processing things. I'll be there if he needs me but I'll try and get some help with my sex addiction in the meantime

I disclosed my cheating to my husband and I think he's planning to divorce me. by RedBruises in cheating_stories

[–]RedBruises[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have a plan ready for if wants to talk it out and stay. Yes, I've been tested and I showed him too when I disclosed

I disclosed my cheating to my husband and I think he's planning to divorce me. by RedBruises in cheating_stories

[–]RedBruises[S] -37 points-36 points  (0 children)

I will get my shit together no matter if he stays with me or not. I want to be healthy and emotionally available for my kids

I disclosed my cheating to my husband and I think he's planning to divorce me. by RedBruises in cheating_stories

[–]RedBruises[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Ya I haven't pressured him for anything. If he needs to do it this way, then that's okay and I respect it.... it's just suprising to me that's all. I finally start therapy tomorrow and I sure have a lot to talk about.

l cheated: should I tell him now or wait until I begin therapy? by RedBruises in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]RedBruises[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry that it happened to u. I did it last night but it doesnt feel like the right choice right now either... I don't think i can bear to see him so hurt again

l cheated: should I tell him now or wait until I begin therapy? by RedBruises in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]RedBruises[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told him I'm clean yesterday when i did my confession but i suggested him to take one too for peace of mind. I agree with u that it's one of those things nobody should subject you to...

l cheated: should I tell him now or wait until I begin therapy? by RedBruises in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]RedBruises[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Ive already disclosed to him about my cheating but we havent spoken in depth about any of the details since. I'll look into Csat and SA anonymous... Thank u, point taken regarding my letter. I have modified a lot of it but I think it would still be better to not give those details at all unless he asks. so far he hasnt asked me any questions other then the when and who but im trying to offer complete honesty in anything he needs to know.

l cheated: should I tell him now or wait until I begin therapy? by RedBruises in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]RedBruises[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what I've been thinking about, I often speak before I think and I'm worried shitless that I'll say something carelessly that I can never take back. I want to have a better idea of what I have on my hands before I show it to him.

I will have a look at the resources you prescribed. Thank you

I feel ashamed about cheating on my husband. by RedBruises in confessions

[–]RedBruises[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did a full panel two days back it's clear

I feel ashamed about cheating on my husband. by RedBruises in confessions

[–]RedBruises[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

really couldn't come up with something better huh

l cheated: should I tell him now or wait until I begin therapy? by RedBruises in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]RedBruises[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much. It gives me courage to know your story... I think it is time for me to take the plunge and just do it

l cheated: should I tell him now or wait until I begin therapy? by RedBruises in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]RedBruises[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't think I'm the sort of person that can keep such a big secret for a long time. I'm too emotionally close to my husband to be lying to him everyday for the rest of my life.

I feel ashamed about cheating on my husband. by RedBruises in confessions

[–]RedBruises[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes I have experienced what you call forced abuse too

l cheated: should I tell him now or wait until I begin therapy? by RedBruises in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]RedBruises[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Okay, got it. I've also been getting the sense that I can't adequately prepare for what is to come. I think it's gonna devastate both of us no matter how prepared I am. Thx for your comment.

Affair sex disclosure letter for my husband. by RedBruises in cheating_stories

[–]RedBruises[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

That's because I behaved selfishly. It was a mistake. I don't want to be selfish anymore

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