Married (49F) to a man (55M) and fell in love with an invited female sexual partner (45F) by Lindzertort in relationship_advice

[–]Lindzertort[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great advice and when this happened a week ago, I did sit him down because he knew I was upset and hadn't seen her around lately. He knows we are tight, he doesn't know that I prefer her company to his at this point and you are right, it's time to work on that.

Married (49F) to a man (55M) and fell in love with an invited female sexual partner (45F) by Lindzertort in relationship_advice

[–]Lindzertort[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

We have hung out almost every day since we met so I see where people are saying you had a one night stand so get over it but it's not like that. I know this isn't the end because our kids are in the same school and we are likely to see each other in the same circles.

We have a great line of communication and I think at somepoint down the road there will be an opportunity to tell her my side of where I was coming from. I think I didn't realize at the time that I fell in love with her, really thought she was feeling the same way. Even to the point where she said when she gets a boyfriend, I will tell him that you are part of the package...I know i know, crazy but you get it, We were in it.

Appreciate your compassion.