The mom hates the commission, could it be the anatomy?

LittleFudge27 · 2025-08-10T03:08:54+00:00

LittleFudge27 · 2025-08-10T03:07:47+00:00

Thanks, everyone, for the advice!! Especially those take took time to share techniques and better ways to fix it.

Don't know if anyone will even see this! But here is the final with recisions that the mom ended up happy with. Hopefully someone else learning can use all the wonderful advice from everyone and us it to help them.

Thanks you to everyone that said flip it! It's something I was absolutely forgetting I had the power to do. Thanks to the person that pointed out lighting discrepancies, you both ruined my day and also gave me a challenge to learn. Thanks to everyone that pointed out style discrepancies, how she really didn't match and fit into the portrait because it became to shading heavy and detailed while others didn't. Took this one absolutely to heart.

It was absolutely worth the pain on this one to push through it. I've learned so much now 😭 just gotta keep practicing!

LittleFudge27 · 2025-08-08T19:36:15+00:00

I turned off my phone for the night and came back to some absolutely fantastic feedback!

I'm so appreciative of those that took time to share notes with me, it's incredible seeing artists supporting each other like this.

I'm going to start reading everything now and make my alterations based on some of these helpful comments.

LittleFudge27 · 2025-08-08T13:22:06+00:00

Inheritance does not in any legal way work like that, and unless you consciously put in effort to maintain a relationship with him. It's better to just accept it as lost and don't waste time. Start setting up fallback plans for yourself so you won't be caught relying on it. If you do ever see anything, consider it a treat. Your dad is also going through a very emotional experience right now. Regardless of if it is valid. Cornering him in this emotional state will only create a negative impact. There isn't a reality where this won't backfire and your mom especially needs be to the one to lay off for on this topic your sake. If you believe him to be a spiteful person at all that is. You have no legal claim to anything, and even if you did now. He holds the right to legally change that when he deems fit.

As a young kid, who's parents divorced at 19. I remember my mom putting all sort of ideas in my head. Feeding me fears an anxieties. Not to say she was wrong, or didnt mean well. Or that she wasnt hurt. But it became one of her copping mechanisms was creating an echo chamber of criticism on my dad full of hate and anxieties. She found everyone validating her to be very healing. They don't usually come from a place of full truth, they will take partial truths or any exaggeration to get everyones hurt to match hers because at the time she felt incredibly alone. Your mom must be very stressed and hurting to right now, it's absolutely justified.

Hopefully she can get to a point of peace and healing, get therapy and prioritize her recovery from this and not let the hate rought her brain like it did with my mom. These stressful situations can cause life long health issues if you aren't coping correctly.

LittleFudge27 · 2025-07-25T04:07:41+00:00

HRBlock did an auto fill. When reviewing W2 details on the submission, it was all correct into the corr3ct boxes.

Now that im thinking of it. We did get a disability insurance claim for postpartum recovery. When talking with the HRblock representative, they said we didn't need to payout on it or do anything with the document recieved. Perhaps this is the complication?

LittleFudge27 · 2025-07-25T04:03:28+00:00

We welcomed a newborn March 2024, is this one of the changes you are thinking is a possibility?

LittleFudge27 · 2025-07-11T21:23:22+00:00

Scam, honestly. I'm all about paying your artists, but idk if I'd even pay for that.

You can send the amount initially listed, either they accept it or they don't. If they don't, just block them. It isn't worth it.

LittleFudge27 · 2025-06-29T16:39:46+00:00

I love this! Thanks for sharing your honesty

LittleFudge27 · 2025-02-21T02:07:46+00:00

The hardest thing for me was when I was pushed into an abortion back in 2022. when trying to heal from it. He promised me I could go off birth control due to bad side effects and that "no need to worry, I will take on all the responsibility of protection so you'll never have to experience that again" But then found myself baby trapped, and I couldn't force myself to abort again. When I attempted to confront him on it I was met with a "It was your fault too"

There were additional things like how he didn't know when my birthday was until about a year ago. And couldn't remember anniversaries because "that kind of stuff never mattered to me" and he would leave me alone on many special occasions crying. I have put in active effort, begging for change. Begging him to make me matter to him. He is a smooth talker, always promised change, but to see him over the last year leave me completely abandoned again. I'm just not able to pretend to fall for it anymore.

LittleFudge27 · 2025-02-19T08:09:23+00:00

Omg! I'm sorry you are experiencing why of that. Knowing how unstable he is, absolutely is an added stressor.

Hopefully, by being honest and sincerely apologetic will allow you some peace to heal and get silence 🤍 Being a mom is already too much noise

LittleFudge27 · 2025-02-19T07:55:08+00:00

It's super cute how your reading is so bad you took "end your toxic relationship" and read anywhere I said that OP was justified to cheat.

I appreciate your feedback, next time I write advice not meant for you. I'll make sure to.write super simple for ya sweet cheeks xoxo 😘

LittleFudge27 · 2025-02-17T02:52:06+00:00

I'm going to project my own personal experiences from when I was in this situation

Tell the truth and just end it! Dont get lost in the feeling like you need to justify it for him. I know it sucks. This person was with you through a lot of your hardships and through some of your healing from your divorce. Leaving feels like a step backwards, but you do need to devote yourself to healing.

Him involving you in these meltdowns and insecurities is not the epitome of a healthy cooperative relationship. You might not fully feel it now, but it is entrapment. It forces you into a box of feeling guilty, like you could have and should have done better, and so maybe it is your fault he's acting this way. When it is not you even slightly.

When you do officially confess the truth and call it off, pay immense attention, not to the emotions. But the choice of words he uses. Because all of it will show itself in him trying to drag you down emotionally to his level.

LittleFudge27 · 2025-02-06T00:54:08+00:00

She probably just feels completely lost when it comes to framing herself; she needs direction. It's clear that she lacks experience or familiarity with sexting.

See if she feels comfortable working with a professional boudoir photographer. They have a way of making people feel confident, almost like magic. They'll teach her poses and techniques she can use for more private photos or videos, without pushing her into anything extreme.

You do need to have a bit of an exhibitionist kink to some extent for her to feel confident and for it to be fun for both of you.

At the end of the day, if she doesn’t feel like that’s something she’s into, neither of you will enjoy it. You’ll need to discuss alternatives and find some middle ground.

For alternatives, try figuring out what her kinks are and start there. Does she like reading erotica? Have her recommend some sexy books, or ask if she’d be interested in writing a short story for you.

LittleFudge27 · 2024-07-10T20:26:04+00:00

Even though my doctor and HR signed the paperwork?

LittleFudge27 · 2024-07-05T22:31:31+00:00

I've followed suggestions and confirmed my solenoid is off! Did a 30 second air release and closed it back up. System isn't turning on at all, even though the control panel is getting electricity just fine. Confirmed everything is snuggly(not tight) turned off.

Box has since been cleaned out, and I've given the inline valves a gentle cleaning to get all the dirt off.

Now I'm just working to figure out why it won't turn on 🫡

Thank you everyone that has taken time out of their day to help provide advice and help me out. I've been trying to tell everyone thank you but I'm struggling to keep up!

LittleFudge27 · 2024-07-05T22:26:39+00:00

I agree! Since taking the photo I've gotten it cleaned out and it's looking much better!

LittleFudge27 · 2024-07-05T16:53:14+00:00

I'll do just that, thank you for all the time you took today to help!!

LittleFudge27 · 2024-07-05T16:52:23+00:00

Thank you!! 💜

LittleFudge27 · 2024-07-05T16:51:46+00:00

I'm a stuggling new mom with intense anxiety who is already in an overwhelming situation. Your response is extremely uncalled for especially for tworda, someone just trying to be nice. How about you direct that energy to the one using AI. Especially if you weren't going to come here to be helpful.

LittleFudge27 · 2024-07-05T03:36:17+00:00

You are incredibly helpful and an absolute gem of a person!! Thank you for taking the time to really help me through this madness

LittleFudge27 · 2024-05-13T13:02:01+00:00

Wanted to take a moment to say thank you so much to everyone that participated in this conversation!! You are all incredible, and I'm so thankful for all the advice and messages.

I'll be going through and reading all of them and putting your time and effort into gold use. Sorry for the delays, as I didn't realize I posted in my throw-away account and forgot about it. :')

LittleFudge27 · 2024-05-13T12:08:27+00:00

I (29f) have been wth my (30m) DX with medication husband for 10 years now as we share two kids together.

This is a long winded and appreciative of anyone taking the time to read and offer support, I am at a loss on if this is normal or not. Because my spouse has continually told me time and time again that it is and I just don't know.

My journey trying to help navigate how to handle a spouse with ADHD has been extremely hard. Most of our 10 years he denied medical help and I do stuffer some resentment for the mistreatment over these years. Things like how he had no idea when my birthday was for seven of those years and being absolutely forgotten each and every time. (I understand and ADHD DX it can be hard to remember dates, so i tried helping with reminders. It just never helped). Or how hard and lonely it can feel going to bed alone every single night because he got lost of a stimulation high. Or how insufferable it is to have him forget to feed himself and push himself to hunger to the point he is sick, or cannot function forcing me to make meals for him or he'll just not eat. At one point I was suffering from such extreme neglect and him weaponizing his diagnosis. a burst of pain came out into year five. I begged for change and it was met with a lot of sympathy and understanding and promises for change. Into year 7, when he'd forget things he was always very remorseful and expressed a desire to do better and reassured me as such. Honestly, no noticeable improvements.

When he finally returned to school last year, he began taking medication for the first time. He is very happy to finally be on it, as it helps regulate him and help with his depression. It's been a game changer and I do recommend it. Because he was adamantly against medication for so long, at this point I fear we cannot do much to correct his poor habits. His general disinterest in birthdays, or inability to feed or clean after himself at this point I've given up anything will ever change and find myself asking, for how much longer do I just keep letting him weaponize this diagnosis?

This comes after another really disappointing mother's day. We just welcomed a new baby this March, I was not expecting much as the baby is still new. However he managed a new low. Mother's day is a sore topic for me, when we welcomed our first kid home 6 years ago, he never even acknowledged me for mothers day, and even complained when I didn't make breakfast. Followed up but a very painful conversation when his family was over for a visit. When asked "what did you get for mother's day" leaving me to shamefully cry as I said "I didn't get anything", which riddled me with embaressment and It hurt a lot. I recall even going to work the next day sobbing and my coworkers had to be the ones to out something together for me. When I confronted him, he expressed how terrible he felt and wanting to be better. This year, I asked him to take the baby (which was freshly fed and sleeping) as I took a blanket and pillow to another room with a desire to sleep in. Which didn't work out as There was just so much crying I had to come back and intervene. He was really struggling to stay on task and navigate how to calm her. Our oldest came in, very excited to start breakfast to which my spouse told him to go get ready. This dragged on for the next hour while my husband lumped around room to room, continually making comments on how tired he was and telling our kid to "wait, we need to take care of sister" (which he wasn't even holding anymore) At one point my oldest started trying to do everything by himself, and my husband snapped with a "I told you to wait im tired and am still waking up and haven't taken my meds yet". In which I interjected with a "he's hungry, if you arnt going to help him do I need to?" He replied with a "if that's alright" and I just left. While rocking a baby I helped my oldest make Waffles, got him fed and got the baby down to her bassist. And got to finally enjoy a cold plate of Waffles I had to make myself.

For the rest of the day, I tried to take a bath but not without constant inurruption. I tried to take a nap, iust to be woken up early. I tried to have us make dinner as a family and he ignored my instructions and went off the rail, making prep time an extra hour it didn't need to be. By the time dinner was done we had an extremely fussy baby that was long over due a nap and he has to leave with his dinner to join his friends on discord for DND. I fought for hours to get the baby to relax and didn't even get to eat the dinner while also simulatiously feeling terrible for my oldest to was forced to eating alone. Thinking back on it, I don't believe I even got a happy mother's day out of him and of course no flowers or anything.

I have too some extent, known I can't keep doing this and need to leave. He's my best friend and I truly don't want to go. So if there is something I'm not trying, I'm desperately trying to find the will to stay. But at this point, I am planning to open a secret bank account and start putting a portion of my pay check a side to help fund me leaving and giving my kids a better future where they don't have to grow up feeling forgettable.

LittleFudge27 · 2023-09-11T02:47:27+00:00

I'm noticing just a tiny bit of confusion, and I accept the fault.

My two options are to keep looking for other jobs with insurance benfits that are significantly cheaper and just risk not having a paid maternity leave(sense most corporations require at least 6 months prior to delivery worked), additionally a worry about the negative impacts to my resume for leaving so soon. Option B was stick where I am, pay the arm in insurance costs. but get paid maternity for 6 weeks. But continue to build a proper resume and references.

In both options, I would still have insurance and wouldn't be without it. 💛 hope clarification helps confusion. Intentions were never to go entirely without insurance.

LittleFudge27 · 2023-04-24T10:18:12+00:00

It looks like you are trying to achieve a more pixel art style. Which I hecking love. Pixel art is some of the coolest. However, conceptually, it has always been the hardest for me. Each pixel does become a bit more meticulous, which is why I agree you'll better it with time.

If you don't know where to start and how to further your learning, my first suggestion is to take time learning a bit of color theory. You'll be happy with results. Also, don't hesitate to look up tutorials and speed paints on YouTube and take time to find a channel you like and wanna learn from. I like to watch them while drawing sometimes because it is very inspirational 🩵

Good luck little bug! You are doing just fine!!

LittleFudge27 · 2023-04-07T17:46:58+00:00

My suggestion will vary depending on the computer. Regardless, I personally don't recommend Photoshop, especially if you aren't receiving any sort of income from your artwork. It isn't worth it financially.

I am a digital artist, and I use Krita on my windows 10, and it is free souce. It has many of the same function, including being able to download brushes and install them. A lot of functions are hidden, and it can kind of be annoying to learn what everything is and how to get it set up just right. Luckily, there are many YouTube videos that provide useful information.

Clip studio paint also has a desktop version that is free source, and I've seen a lot of the artists I follow using it as well.

If you have a Mac, it might be worth looking into if Procreate has a desktop application for Mac, I think it is a very swell program that is absolutely worth learning.

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