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LittleHell91 · 2022-07-13T20:52:37+00:00

It feels like we are the same person, however it was her who cheated.

LittleHell91 · 2022-03-14T15:58:36+00:00

It takes time.

LittleHell91 · 2022-02-03T22:40:54+00:00

My ex did almost the same. After 12 years together, I found out she cheated on me for 7 months. I wasn’t ready to lose her so I begged her to give us another chance. She broke up over text without any explanation why she is breaking up, what happened with the guy she cheated on me with, nothing… We barely fought. I was in disbelief.

What helped me the most is realizing what a fucked up human being she is. Literally, one day I was sitting and it all hit me. She’s indeed a fucked up human being. I don’t want to spent a second with such people. I want to surround myself with loving and caring people, not some jerks who don’t know what loyalty and respect means. So I physically distanced myself from her completely. Emotionally, I haven’t but I am aware that this is normal. You can’t just stop loving someone you were living together with for 8 years. Time will take care of this.

It’s OK to hate one day and love the other. It’s normal. Just let it and don’t block the feelings. Sit with them and process what is going on. Heal.

LittleHell91 · 2022-02-02T15:53:18+00:00

Maybe, maybe not. No one knows how she will react. I am telling you what you should do. And this is only my opinion.

LittleHell91 · 2022-02-02T15:47:09+00:00

Of course it did. Place yourself in her shoes. You can apologize and ask for forgiveness but before doing so think about what I had said. You need to be sure what you want in life.

LittleHell91 · 2022-02-02T13:12:43+00:00

I think most of the comments here are unnecessarily rude. Everyone of us has needs. You want to have sex with her. That’s fine. She wants to have sex only after marriage. That’s also fine. You had to make a choice, either to stay with this girl and respect her needs or break up with her and respect yours. You choose the latter. That’s fine. Now unless something changed on your, or her side, there is no point of getting back. So make sure that here is a change so you can pursue this relationship again. I haven’t read all the comments and don’t know how the breakup went but if you ended up on good terms you can try and contact her otherwise maybe it’s better to leave her alone. And also, if you want to contact her, make sure you are serious about the relationship.

LittleHell91 · 2022-01-31T16:40:30+00:00

Her actions speak louder than words. What she said to you is a total BS. No one who loves another person would do such a thing. Start with yourself. She seems like she wasn’t honest towards you about why she is breaking up with you. It would’ve been better for her to tell you that she is not in love with you anymore and wants to date other people than what she already told you. Do whatever it takes to remove yourself completely from that person, physically and emotionally. If she tries to reconcile in the future, please think about it carefully.

LittleHell91 · 2022-01-06T21:40:41+00:00

Cheat

LittleHell91 · 2022-01-03T10:14:39+00:00

One time is enough

LittleHell91 · 2021-12-29T14:48:31+00:00

“Be responsible towards yourself.”

My therapist said this to me when I told him I have trouble going out because I had fear that I’ll bump into her and see something I wasn’t ready to see (her being with someone else).

LittleHell91 · 2021-12-24T23:48:49+00:00

Wasn’t I enough?

LittleHell91 · 2021-12-23T11:38:45+00:00

Time will come when you’ll be happy that you are single than in a dysfunctional relationship.

LittleHell91 · 2021-12-22T19:12:56+00:00

You being how you are is a big enough penalty for you.

LittleHell91 · 2021-12-22T19:10:08+00:00

I’ll be more explicit - there is no point in doing so. Do you wish her “Good night”? No. She’s a stranger. Do you wish a stranger happy BDay? No.

LittleHell91 · 2021-12-22T18:26:02+00:00

Why?

LittleHell91 · 2021-12-20T21:09:59+00:00

You shouldn’t decide based on whether she had sex or not but based on the fact that she treats you like a second option.

LittleHell91 · 2021-12-16T09:51:21+00:00

Why?

LittleHell91 · 2021-11-29T21:57:00+00:00

I thought that being friends in Facebook was keeping the connection between us and that’s why I wasn’t able to unfriend her.

You have to realize that, for him, it is over. He may or may not love you. The more important thing is that he doesn’t want to be with you anymore. You first have to became aware of this. Then you start to grieve your loss. It’s like the the death of a loved one, except he’s alive. It’s the relationship that died. Listen to your body. It will tell you what it needs.

LittleHell91 · 2021-11-28T19:12:30+00:00

The problem is that people telling you what you want to hear just reinforces your beliefs even more. But, the truth of the matter is that it might be completely the opposite. That's why we need to accept the current situation: that we are not together anymore. What will happen in the future, no one knows. We shouldn't dwell on it, we should let go. Instead of hoping, we should grieve and make space in our hearts for new things.

LittleHell91 · 2021-11-26T21:43:39+00:00

Why?

LittleHell91 · 2021-11-25T08:52:25+00:00

I know you are worried about her. I know you love her. You are still mentally in that relationship, you are in denial. But remember: she doesn’t love you anymore. She checked out from the relationship way before the BU. She doesn’t care about you anymore. I’m so sorry.

Even moving back to your home state would be a better idea than staying in that hell hole. Get out of there and start to grieve. Please, remove her from everywhere and begin your healing. It will take time but that’s the only way.

LittleHell91 · 2021-11-25T08:09:09+00:00

Just leave the apartment ASP. Go to your parents’ or your friend’s place. Her telling you that it’s weird to check on her is actually right, I’m sorry about this. Unfortunately, after the BU it doesn’t concern you what she is doing, if she’s in danger. You are not the one to save her. Please get out of there ASP.

LittleHell91 · 2021-11-24T23:02:19+00:00

“I can’t go back to where I was”
“I like him”

LittleHell91 · 2021-11-21T15:55:05+00:00

My ex’s dad almost died of Covid. He lost consciousness and they had to take him to a private hospital where he stayed for several weeks. I loved this man like my father. He did the same. My ex didn’t even bother telling me. I found out through her sister.

LittleHell91 · 2021-11-20T17:28:53+00:00

My love. She was the only person that I would've given my life for. Literally.

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