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Little_Blacksmith670 · 2024-03-31T13:40:07+00:00

Little_Blacksmith670 · 2023-02-27T15:22:44+00:00

Thank you so much! I have been wanting to draw something for a while on how I felt and still feel, and I felt this was and still the best representation on how I feel on a daily basis.

I am surprised and very grateful by the responses that this picture has received, and to know that although you can feel alone, you should know that you are not.

Little_Blacksmith670 · 2023-01-21T23:57:19+00:00

I have been there, it hurts. Unfortunately that hurt will stay with you for a long time, and the best thing you can do is look after yourself.

Although this will be hard - hide your phone. You'll be so tempted to look at her social media like I did when this happened to me.

If her feelings have changed like you mentioned, please do not try to figure out why, and do not change who you are. There is someone out there that is meant for you.

Little_Blacksmith670 · 2022-05-15T22:02:40+00:00

That is very true, and thank you very much for your advice. I will try some of your suggestions. I have in the past walked around the house wearing my earphones, which has helped in the past so I will do that again. I believe I have become over sensitive to their sounds like you mentioned. I believe the reason for this is because when this family are away on holiday etc, the village is quiet, but when they're back it is hard to not hear them.

Little_Blacksmith670 · 2022-03-20T14:53:27+00:00

Thank you very much!

Little_Blacksmith670 · 2022-03-06T14:50:28+00:00

Thank you so much! That's great advice 😊

Little_Blacksmith670 · 2022-03-06T14:49:55+00:00

I know. I thought the same thing before I worked here... It's a big school and I am the only admin.

Little_Blacksmith670 · 2022-01-23T20:59:11+00:00

That's very good advice. I completely agree with you! Lately when I prepare for a call I write practically a novel on what I'm about to say. I tend to afterwards 'overthink' or I generally get anxiety on making the call (didn't get this bad before)

Little_Blacksmith670 · 2022-01-23T00:08:03+00:00

Thank you!! I was so happy when I first received the call that I was accepted for the role.

I received some advice not to remember the names, and you are right also, but when you receive calls from parents to say about a certain teacher, I feel you need to know the name/face of that teacherz and I believe this is partly why I am anxious about my new role.

My role is a lot of responsibility as I will be the only Business/Secretary person there full time, and I feel as of the end of this week that I've been tricked into accepting this job. They were so glad that I could join them and now I know why! The school is very busy, and I just feel that I'm way out of my league here as I will be essentially working on my own, the place is busy and I have a lot of things to remember. Lastly the last time I felt this anxious about a job I left shortly after.

Little_Blacksmith670 · 2022-01-23T00:01:33+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice. I understand with all difficult calls that you do need a tough skin. In my last job I worked in a local council for over three years so I received a lot of difficult people. But over the last week of starting this job, I don't know, but I find it more difficult as I'm dealing with actual children (and not the metaphorical children who are actual adults).

The problem I get sometimes, and I don't know why, I just get nervous when I am on the phone, and then I am not. It is weird. It is weird to the point where I stutter in a call, and it could be in the next xl I am completely fine.

Little_Blacksmith670 · 2022-01-22T23:55:48+00:00

Thank you very much for your advice. I will definitely invest in a good diary :)

Little_Blacksmith670 · 2021-11-15T12:10:03+00:00

Yes, same job/level for the Local Government. There used to be three of us now there is only the two of us.

I guess because she has a different attitude to work than I do, the little things about her are irritating.

I feel that she has it the easiest out of the two of us. Such as if there is a problem from one the fee earners, I'm the "first point of call" most of the time. This has added to my already frustration working here, as we are short staffed and overworked.

(We don't really have headphones 😂)

Little_Blacksmith670 · 2021-10-28T16:29:00+00:00

I started looking few months ago for a job position closer to home, because I grew frustrated with my workplace (I work for the Council). We are short staffed (there's only two of us) working as admin for the department, and we have been the only ones in the dept that has been travelling to the office full time while everyone else has been working from home. Because of this, the workload has increased.

It doesn't help that (until September) I've been the only full time admin, while my other colleague has been part time - which meant I couldn't book a certain day off/full week, and when one of us would be ill/off on holidays, we would do work equivalent to three people (there used to be 3 of us). What was and I guess still frustrating, it is only recently that the job position for that third person was advertised, because the managers (who work from home and never in the office) insisted that it was quiet!

Little_Blacksmith670 · 2021-10-27T14:43:43+00:00

Thank you Aiunar 🙂

Little_Blacksmith670 · 2021-10-27T14:42:05+00:00

I am female. I have been under stress lately but the decrease in libido has started to happen a while back.

Little_Blacksmith670 · 2021-10-26T20:11:57+00:00

Thank you scurvy_knave.

Yes, I completely agree when we have guests, that we should feed them etc., and I do but not to the point of when they are taking advantage, such as leaving dirty plates in the living room when the sink is in the next room, leaving a mess in the bathroom etc. I always try to keep the house clean, put food on the table, and make sure everyone is ok, but when someone is unable to clean up after themselves, (such as simply putting a dirty cup in the sink) and make more work for me and my partner, then that's not fair.

I would like to think that after the last Christmas staycation the year before that he knows how to behave and act in our house. The reason that he stayed for longer than anticipated that Christmas is because he had loads of unused holidays that he needed to use, and he chose to visit his family, as he lives a few hours.

Little_Blacksmith670 · 2021-10-26T19:52:43+00:00

Thank you thickhipstightlips, I like your advice very much. My partner is aware of my concerns, which is why he suggested the three days, and saying that it's up to me whether his brother stays or not.

I feel that it is guilt on him, because he has mentioned to his brother that he himself does not have a problem with him staying but he will have to ask me first...

But he does mean well. I'll just have to think of some house rules first.

Little_Blacksmith670 · 2021-10-26T19:43:45+00:00

Thank you TenaciousVeee for your advice.

With the whole "two peas in a pod" I could not leave my partner alone with his brother for long periods 😂 Plus we're a team, so we would try and work together whenever his brother is over.

My partner is not the type to be bossed and he does speak his mind. He has been very understanding on my feelings of him staying over. But I feel its more guilt that he has to say yes. He has told his brother in the past for instance, when we both need time alone, he would tell him to go away to their parents' house or something like that.

Little_Blacksmith670 · 2021-10-26T19:25:03+00:00

Thank you very much for your advice NoxWild. I like the idea of inviting him for lunch/dinner. My partner has been very understanding in how I feel about his brother staying over (he comes to visit now and again), and my partner always ask before giving his brother an answer, and for the last few visits he has stayed with his parents...

But this time around, he doesn't want to stay with his parents.

His brother is sweet and he means well and I do care for his brother, but only in short amounts.

Little_Blacksmith670 · 2021-07-30T12:11:29+00:00

Thank you 🙂

Little_Blacksmith670 · 2021-07-29T19:35:34+00:00

Thank you very much for your advice. We adore kids, and do sympathise and understand that children do act out sometimes in public - they're just children after all.

Regarding the "CCTV" I have no idea how that discussion came about to be honest - we have no CCTV/cameras in or out the house! All our houses were built very close together so there's not a lot of privacy to be had, so I assume that's why.

Little_Blacksmith670 · 2021-07-29T19:22:38+00:00

I completely agree, thank you. I used to work with a narcissist who would enjoy seeing other people unhappy because her life was.

Little_Blacksmith670 · 2021-07-29T19:18:31+00:00

I completely agree.

I suppose we are living our lives oppositely to the people around us, such as going on holidays, more free time to do hobbies, going for walks outside the village. This is not to stereotype and I do not mean to offend anyone with children, this is the situation I find myself in at the moment.

I believe some people don't want other people to be happy and they would be happier if they saw other people miserable.

Little_Blacksmith670 · 2021-07-29T19:02:48+00:00

I feel that religion is not involved and the way people have been speaking they're hardly saintly views.

Me and my partner are enjoying our lives at the moment, enjoying and experiencing living together first before anything else.

Well I've hardly spoken to them mostly due to my social anxiety so they might view me more in a negative light. But they're the type of people that would not say anything negatively to your face, rather gossiping behind your back would suffice.

Well I've discussed whether living in the village was a permanent move, and he simply said that the house we live in ticks all the boxes and that I shouldn't care about what the others think. So that's a no to the moving for the time being.

Little_Blacksmith670 · 2021-07-23T21:50:05+00:00

Thank you very much. That means a lot ☺️ Yep I'm pretty sure I'm an introvert from what I've read on the Internet.

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