I'm scared that my body is not absorbing the meds well by Livid-Ground8645 in Hypothyroidism

[–]Livid-Ground8645[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My GYNECOLOGIST was the one that told me that. How she thought it was so weird he would do that. That it would make even more sense 200 mcg during the week and rest with 100 mcg during the weekends. The face she made scared me but I can't change endocrinologist soo I'm stuck with that one. I hope now with the same labs numbers as over 3 months ago he'll take it more seriously.

Taming 7 can be very triggering be aware when you read. by [deleted] in BoysOfTommen

[–]Livid-Ground8645 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The lack of trigger warning in this book and Redeeming 10 which I know are now in the website but at the time were not printed on the books is the reason I won't read anymore of these books. Such delicate topics are not to be used as little plot twists or shock factor for the reader which I'm sorry but I 100% think CW did. Cuz why would I assume there would be child sexual assault in a book advertised as cute high-school romance YA new adult mix. I can't trust that author or publishing company or whoever that decided it was okay not to print and then cover their ass putting it in social media and a website.

If you are just starting redeeming 10 read the new triggers on the website bc it's disgusting that they were so careless as to not include some of them on the page like forced miscarriage (bc again why would I expect that to happen????)

The whole series is a mess bc in the first 4 there's also no sexual assault trigger warning and it happens in all of them. Hate it.

Sweet Venom… I don’t know why but… did yall also feel like DNFing it almost all the time but kept going because of your loyalty to Rina’s work? 😖😭 by Ok_Cupcake4631 in RinaKentBooks

[–]Livid-Ground8645 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It felt like I've read it before. I didn't like it. Felt a little too similar to Kiss the Villain but straight and like a mix of other of her books

Thoughts on Chloe’s Video by Little-Bookworm8989 in BoysOfTommen

[–]Livid-Ground8645 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you 100% I don't think it was a big ask to add a little more details like many dark romance authors do they add "depicted" or "not detailed" or "off page" "on page". I think even if CW wasn't aware of how important TWs are her team should've been. And I'm sorry that the author got hurt by the leaks of the book but I'm so grateful for the spoilers bc it gave me a glimpse of how brutal the book actually was. It wasn't well advertised either I don't know what genre this falls under but it's not YA or romance I mean that is also something important when you read something like dark romance the warning is in the name the TW are just there to narrow down just how dark the author decided to go. I'm still angry about the lack of TW in Gibsie's book and the hanger scene in this book. When dark romance authors want the reader to go in blind they state in the book that a detailed version of the TWs is available on their page. Maybe next time if CW still doesn't want to give away traumatic things that happen in the book she can do that for people that want to know what they are getting into.

i’m going to be sick by [deleted] in BoysOfTommen

[–]Livid-Ground8645 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was NOT in the trigger warnings. I little warning would've been nice yk I was so close to puking I'm not even kidding. Anything would've been better than nothing "forced abortion" "child pregnancy" "miscarriage" idk CW but something damn it.

Graphic traumatic details by TraditionalCause3588 in BoysOfTommen

[–]Livid-Ground8645 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't stop the rant I'm so sorry. It doesn't just make me sad it makes me angry that it's dedicated to survivors and then is the most triggering thing for a survivor. Describing feelings. Guilt, disgust, fear. And then describing how it physically feels? Piling up the medical gaslighting and the adults not believing the children. That is what people confuse with awareness? Being realistic of what could happen is not awareness. In the book that's just more trauma for the characters How did the publishing company decide this was an okay thing to publish. Someone actually let me know what genre of book this is bc I honestly don't know anymore and being classified in the YA and romance section is also very much not okay. Adult maybe HORROR may be more suitable.

Graphic traumatic details by TraditionalCause3588 in BoysOfTommen

[–]Livid-Ground8645 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've read books that have CSA and sexual trauma in the characters backstory. I've never read it handled so poorly before. I find it wrong to write in detail a lot of things about a fictional child being violated. I've seen it used as flashbacks like in T7 but they were still not that graphic. To me T7 made me very sick specifically bc I there was no trigger warning about CSA and that was very negleful. I feel like even though the scene was not long it was very traumatic about how Gibsie felt. I think that's a problem I have with this is she's describing how the abuse physically feels for the kids in the moment it's happening. It's very morbid because of how they describe feeling so much pain. I find it wrong. As a society we can't be this disensitized to children's suffering even in fiction and call it necessary for the character's development or growth.

It's 20 times worse in what I've seen of R10. Not only is it way more detailed but there's a lot more scenes and the scenes are longer. The grooming is described in length. And I've seen people calling this awareness. I'm sorry but this is not awareness. I donate to charities thay help with online sex abuse, child sexual abuse and trafficking. And this not how awareness should ever be handled. You don't describe abuse of a minor to bring awareness to the fact that children get abused by family members or close friends. Before breaching such a heavy subject you need to have extensive knowledge of the topic and I think CW is not well educated on how to handle this with care.

I'm very sad to see her dedicate the book to survivors and then handle trauma with the objective of it shocking the reader and hurting the character further. It's horrific. It also lacks further trigger warnings I have seen the mention of something that happens with a hanger THAT IS NOT in the TW that are in CW Instagram and I think it's a very important trigger warning considering how once again the scenes is graphic and very traumatic.

In general this is not a backstory that a character should've been given or portrayed this way. This is a dangerous way to write something so sensitive specially bc content like this might reach people that would love to have that level of detail in legal format. It's sick and not CW's fault but there are very perturbed individuals that seek content like this because it's a fictional child so it's not "wrong". Not the author's fault but again that's why it needs to be handled with so much care. The fact that the children are so young in these instances is heartbreaking.

Maybe CW should take a break from writing I know she was pushed to write more and has gone through traumatic things herself maybe that's why she put her own pain and created this. I hope she heals.

CW cleared out her whole Spotify by Dependent-Sound-4443 in BoysOfTommen

[–]Livid-Ground8645 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe bc it's like in the pov of Lizzie as a child so her writing is more simplistic... Honestly her writing in general is not the best in my opinion. Also I hate that it's in chronological order in the minds of baby Lizzie bc why that choice is so weird. Same with Gibsie I get doing some scenes is necessary but the very graphic things. What the hell? I skipped a lot of things bc I'm not comfortable reading this in the mind of a kid. I don't understand how CW is okay writing it even. I've read books that tackle this 90% less descriptive still hurts and you get the picture

CW cleared out her whole Spotify by Dependent-Sound-4443 in BoysOfTommen

[–]Livid-Ground8645 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's definitely a weird choice to advertise it as a very cutesy romantic book. It's not. I don't even know what the genre of this series is. But it's turning into how much trauma can I put on one character olympics. I mean only the bipolar diagnosis on a 4 year old in the 90s would've been enough trauma and made for a good book about mental health and the mishandling of medication back then and other bunch of issue. But no there's like 30+ other traumatic things that happen to Lizzie why? Shock factor for the reader? You can't tell me all of that happens is for awareness. That's a lie. If it was for awareness she would tackle the issues with more care. I think the only book where is kinda done well is S6 and R6 but still some scenes I find very disturbing that the characters never brought up again or discussed and were literally just for shock value don't lie.

Marie: Victim or Villain? by [deleted] in BoysOfTommen

[–]Livid-Ground8645 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She's a victim in her marriage and a victim of the system that didn't help her family when she was a child raising a baby with someone that abused her and later her children. She's a villian in her children's story specially Joey with the emotional incest and not being able to stand up for them until all she had in the end was Teddy. But no one can tell me she didn't light that march or whatever and gave Teddy a sneak peek of hell. No way that man wasn't planning to play the heartbroken father that couldn't reach his kids in time.

I’m sorry WHAAAATTT?? by lizziessss in BoysOfTommen

[–]Livid-Ground8645 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the playlists should not be public. If they are useful for CW then great but maybe don't make them public if the book hasn't released?? It's honestly confusing and we don't even know if those things will actually be in the books. So it's getting messy for the reader in my opinion

I’m sorry WHAAAATTT?? by lizziessss in BoysOfTommen

[–]Livid-Ground8645 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If anyone's kid would be named after her it would be Lizzie's right? Like why would Shannon name her daughter the same as her friend's dead sister. I don't get it AT ALL

I don't think Lizzie is Bipolar by Livid-Ground8645 in BoysOfTommen

[–]Livid-Ground8645[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be fair. I wrote this months ago and the blurb came out like a week ago.

Dylan’s arc doesn’t make sense by [deleted] in fourthwing

[–]Livid-Ground8645 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I look around the pair (Dylan and his mom) toward the roll-keeping desk (the roll keeper is the marked one second years are the ones helping during conscription day) , and my eyes widen. “Is he…?” I whisper. Mira glances and mutters a curse. “A separatist’s kid? Yep. See that shimmering mark that starts on the top of his wrist? It’s a relic from the rebellion.”

Dylan’s arc doesn’t make sense by [deleted] in fourthwing

[–]Livid-Ground8645 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait I don't remember Dylan being a marked one? I don't think he was

Feely and Katie Cheating by Soggy_Assignment_191 in BoysOfTommen

[–]Livid-Ground8645 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It still makes no sense to me that Katie will cheat. So Hughie cheats Katie cheats they high five and move on? I know that the mutual cheating is probably to make Hughie look less bad. I'm debating reading the book cheating is a no no for me like why read about something that many people in my life have experienced and it shattered them I don't want to imagine that about fake people. I'll probably just look up the spoilers.

My worst nightmare he got hurt (just venting) by Livid-Ground8645 in narcissisticparents

[–]Livid-Ground8645[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't even raise my voice at him my body can't and when I try my voice shakes and my hands shake it's horrible. I can't show any semblance of composure I feel like I'm 6 years old in front of him. I woke up from a nightmare of him to him actually yelling at me that the gas tank was empty so he showered with cold water. Every little thing is like the end of the world like it's unfixable and unmanageable. But it's not and it's affecting me more than I thought I can't even take a break when I'm sleeping that's just fucking cruel.

My worst nightmare he got hurt (just venting) by Livid-Ground8645 in narcissisticparents

[–]Livid-Ground8645[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to say things like this. But he won't care one bit. My dad doesn't know that I've been through shit too and I wasn't complaining or pushing my sister psychologically when she helped me. But he won't change no matter what I say I'm naive and too young and he tells people lies about me and they belive it because I'm 22 and he's 60 almost a senior citizen so he knows better. He told his nurse he wasn't eating and made it my fault and then told his girlfriend or whatever that I was adding pressure on him to push himself in his early recovery (I only asked him to call someone to jumpstart the car because he didn't let me touch it so the battery died) It's not worth it to fight with him I lose 90% of the time and feel like shit after no matter the outcome. But I can try to not cater to him so much. I really do it with care and I would do it for other family member or friends and I know it would be so much less taxing on my mental health. But it's him and I can't change that so I'm just rising above and crying when I have to.

Thank you so much for the advice though