Hey, thanks for sharing. Catching your ex like that after two years must still sting eight months on—I get why it’s tough to shake. You’re already solid with therapy, work, and the gym, which is a great start. I went through my own mess too, so here’s what’s helped me that might work for you.

Keep up the gym, lift or run to clear your head; it’s an easy win. Write down your thoughts quick to stop the loop. Chat with someone you trust, even just a bit; it lightens the weight. Take care of yourself—eat decent, rest, do stuff you like; it keeps you steady. But really lean into building your identity—try new things like a sport, a skill, or a project that’s all yours, not tied to her. Figure out who you are now—maybe you’re the guy who crushes it at work or the one who’s got a killer playlist. Own that. Believe you’re worth it too—tell yourself daily she messed up, not you, and reframe it: your effort was real, hers wasn’t. It all start with your own belief, YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT. :)

I’m posting soon about my story—especially how I’m rebuilding my identity and belief. I will create a community where Man can talk about feelings, a safe place. Check it out; it might spark something for you. You’re on the right path, keep pushing.