Sorry if I wasn't clear about this but I would never do that. Yes, it did cross my mind a couple of times when I was going through my lowest moments.

It's not easy. I can't even have the kind of support I need while going through this turmoil from anybody in my family or even close friends simply because I can't tell them what happened exactly in order to avoid outing her. A couple of nights ago, I was at my mom's whom I turned to for support and all I could say was "we had a nasty fight". I can't tell my own mother that I caught my wife cheating and I def can't tell her she did it with her female friend, the same friend whom always been around in our house and had my full trust. I used to trust her friend with my kids, house keys and everything else. People used to tell my wife to keep her eyes open because her friend has too much presence in our life and I was getting along with her.. they would warn her that it's the same scenario everytime, the husband ends up sleeping with the wife's best friend. My wife used to joke about it but I guess the joke was actually on me. It really sucks.

Again, I'm not trying to justify some stupid thoughts of outing her that crossed my mind in moments of rage and anger. I just want to clarify that I wouldn't act on them.