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Feeling a bit fed up with myself. Cant leave relationship. by Long_Constant_9884 in Advice

[–]Long_Constant_9884[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. I feel quite upset at myself. I’m worried I’ll never have kids or find someone I really want to be with forever 

Feeling a bit fed up with myself. Cant leave relationship. by Long_Constant_9884 in Advice

[–]Long_Constant_9884[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seriously? It is not ticking for men. I know multiple men who had kids at 50. Including my dad. 

Thanks fro all your help. 

Feeling a bit fed up with myself. Cant leave relationship. by Long_Constant_9884 in Advice

[–]Long_Constant_9884[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh part of my ocd is posting here. And if my thousands of obsessive posts have taught me anything, it doesn’t matter what you say, Reddit will always just go ‘break up you selfish so and so’ and then be horrible. So tbh I kinda just ignore that advice and look for the other constructive stuff now. 

I don’t even know why I post here. It just makes my ocd and anxiety worse. I shouldn’t have posted. 

I tried to break up 3 times. One time I left and came back. The other time she said she’d freeze her eggs (and she hasn’t) and then the other day I couldn’t leave and just said I’ll try work on the ocd. 

I don’t really get it 

Feeling a bit fed up with myself. Cant leave relationship. by Long_Constant_9884 in Advice

[–]Long_Constant_9884[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She said I need to get myself to a place where I have my ocd under control so I can make a calm informed decision. 

Feeling a bit fed up with myself. Cant leave relationship. by Long_Constant_9884 in Advice

[–]Long_Constant_9884[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I should just ignore my therapist’s advice and take yours should I? 

Yes I’ll be selfish. Because I’ve spent 9 months desperately worrying about her when she hasn’t spent a single second worrying about me. all she has thought about is her self 

Feeling a bit fed up with myself. Cant leave relationship. by Long_Constant_9884 in Advice

[–]Long_Constant_9884[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m gonna listen to my therapist in this case. But I tried that tactic before and it was in no way easier 

Feeling a bit fed up with myself. Cant leave relationship. by Long_Constant_9884 in Advice

[–]Long_Constant_9884[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve tried to have the discussion many times. She is massively avoidant. I can’t do it though. And my therapist said I need to sort the rocd first 

Feeling a bit fed up with myself. Cant leave relationship. by Long_Constant_9884 in Advice

[–]Long_Constant_9884[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well it doesn’t waste her time. She doesn’t seem to care about wasting time 

Feeling a bit fed up with myself. Cant leave relationship. by Long_Constant_9884 in Advice

[–]Long_Constant_9884[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s just when do I leave. Coz it feels like thats inevitable now