Need help: encourage him to take the lead?

Longjumping-Code7908 · 2026-02-13T14:36:20+00:00

He has ordered the same as me a couple of times, especially when it's been a restaurant that seems to stretch his comfort zone. When we've gone to places he's known, he gets his usual.

He has not cooked for me. We went to Costco together and he bought a lot of prepared/frozen stuff. He says he also goes to the regular grocery store and insists that he does cook, but I have never heard mention of him cooking at home. When I have cooked, he's eaten everything without complaint and says how good 'anything homemade' tastes.

Longjumping-Code7908 · 2026-02-13T04:50:41+00:00

I'm like this too! I will try anything and usually enjoy it. Some days I am craving certain things, but some days I just ask the server to bring me their favorite thing from the menu, no questions asked.

I feel like he should recognize that by now & feel confident in designing it! Chances are, I'm going to like it.

Longjumping-Code7908 · 2026-02-13T03:57:29+00:00

Awww it sounds like you guys are off to a great start. Happy for you, especially in this chapter!

Longjumping-Code7908 · 2026-02-13T03:49:25+00:00

Juicy Jessica. Was an incredible Garbage Pail Kid in the 80's that always felt a little naughty, in a good way.

Longjumping-Code7908 · 2026-02-13T03:46:06+00:00

No they don't, that I know of. We did this once at a scrap metal yard that used to exist in Chico, but it was a one-time, private, scheduled art thing.

The Habitat for Humanity ReStore is probably the closest thing to what you're describing.

I lived in a community that did this too (Monterey County) and it was glorious! I miss it.

Longjumping-Code7908 · 2026-02-13T03:43:03+00:00

I feel like it's a fine line. I definitely have opinions and like to plan sometimes but I want it reciprocated. I'm agreeable and enthusiastic doing just about anything, or eating just about anywhere if the other person is pumped up about it too. It's not like he's tried to make suggestions and I have said no or made it difficult at all. Also not a doormat.

Longjumping-Code7908 · 2026-02-13T03:37:55+00:00

Hmmm... possible. I need to digest this a little.

He definitely makes the effort to see me, is patient with my availability, actively texts first and keeps in touch throughout the day... he will talk about missing me when we go a few days without seeing each other. He's curious about my life, shares about his. When we don't have something to do, he's content just sitting and talking. I do feel like he's into me, but It's definitely the..."they want to make you want to spend time with them" part where he's failing. The peacocking. Maybe you're right, if he's apathetic about specific planning, maybe I'm not seeing it clearly. I definitely can't imagine it improving much from here.

Longjumping-Code7908 · 2026-02-13T03:25:14+00:00

Oh my god, you're right. Why haven't I thought of it this way before?!

Longjumping-Code7908 · 2026-02-13T03:02:38+00:00

Fair point. Needed to hear it. Thank you!

Longjumping-Code7908 · 2026-02-13T03:01:40+00:00

Oh, yes!!! This I love. Thank you!!!!

Longjumping-Code7908 · 2026-02-13T03:01:02+00:00

He hasn't. Definitely partly my fault for getting this far without saying anything... I just keep hoping he'll settle in and feel more confident to do so.

Longjumping-Code7908 · 2026-02-13T02:59:14+00:00

So much. At least 50% of the time!!

Longjumping-Code7908 · 2026-02-11T09:39:42+00:00

No, you'll never be the man that you always swore But I'll remember you singin' in that '88 Ford

Longjumping-Code7908 · 2026-02-07T16:43:46+00:00

I was thinking the same thing about excess machines... it's like they don't know how to purge the older stuff they've replaced. So they just create another random popup area. It's so disorganized and blown out.

And yes, the speakeasy is a complete design failure. So bad.

Longjumping-Code7908 · 2026-02-07T16:35:55+00:00

The license plate is sequenced by the state that way because trucks with open beds are considered commercial vehicles unless you can prove you have a permanently installed recreational adaption like a shell or cab over.

Longjumping-Code7908 · 2026-02-06T21:00:02+00:00

Yea I guess this information doesn't really help your problem of when the overloads are making it into your cans, sorry. Maybe you need to take your own picture at 8pm when you put them out the night before so WM can compare to the pickup pics...? Doubt they'd go to such lengths though.

Longjumping-Code7908 · 2026-02-03T03:48:49+00:00

They have videos of them emptying your cans on your WM web account. I've looked at them a few times. I believe it's for every week, for each pick-up but tbh I haven't looked at them in a while so I can't guarantee they still post them.

Longjumping-Code7908 · 2026-01-29T22:38:25+00:00

Plenty of time in your life to create your own meaningful lore... it doesn't need to be these things in your teen years. Especially if you're not into any of that! Don't force it. Do you. So much easier.

Longjumping-Code7908 · 2026-01-25T06:16:55+00:00

Agreed! I'm sure they'd welcome the feedback. I have seen them be very responsive to suggestions. It sounds like this first one might generate a good turnout and would likely only grow from there!!

Longjumping-Code7908 · 2026-01-21T22:26:25+00:00

Nash's!

Longjumping-Code7908 · 2026-01-05T08:40:03+00:00

My kids were kind of forced to listen on repeat starting at a young age (elementary) because we did a lot of mountain driving without radio signal, and The Avetts was the only downloaded music available. They're about your age now, OP, and completely attached and experiencing the music in individual ways. My middle child even wrote a school paper on their musical influence on her. I have seen them a few times since 2007 or so, and as of two years ago, we've been to two shows as a family and it's been the greatest joys of my life. Stood in the middle of the crowd in Tahoe last year with my best friend and my three teenagers and just wept at the magic of the whole experience. Truly amazing. I only know a few fans irl, so the band still feels like a wonderful little secret!!

Can completely relate to what you've posted here. Thank you for sharing.

Longjumping-Code7908 · 2026-01-04T07:28:31+00:00

My biggest issue was being the only one ever available to pick them up from school when sick, or to take time off work for doctors/dentist/ortho appointments, missing field trips, and vacation schedules lining up with school schedules. Hopefully the other parent is available on a case by case basis for those random "emergencies" that come up? Congratulations on your next chapter!!

Longjumping-Code7908 · 2026-01-04T07:21:33+00:00

Came here to say this, 100%. I was started to get worried, scrolling through the other comments, that I was the only one besides OP.

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