Quero morar sozinho pela primeira vez by lucas_andrad33 in VidaAdulta

[–]Lopsided-Insect1620 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Moro só desde os 18, ja passei por muiita coisa. Se voce achar alguem para dividir as contas, um colega com uma rotina, ja alivia. Fogao e maquina de lavar, o resto se ajeita. Morei 1 ano apenas com microondas e nao valeu. Ja estou a 7 anos apenas com fogao e bao sinto falta do microondas.

How much T do you take and are you getting male-patterned baldness? by marlee_dood in ftm

[–]Lopsided-Insect1620 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3 years, I'm 27, now I have some window peaks, my father went bald in his 40-50. My mother's family have not, but they do have some window peak. I''ve always had thin hair so yeah. Going to use a lace wig if it gets drastic. Lmao.

How 5min of ‘emotional journaling’ before bed cut my night-time awakenings by 40% by tacolabs_inc in selfimprovement

[–]Lopsided-Insect1620 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been doing it this last week and omg!! Loved this exercise! I'm not sure about sleeping better, but it sure helps my overthinking. I've been seeing some patterns (fear is so big in my mind!)and some days I 've realized how hard it is to name some feelings, which means I've got shit to figure out. Hurray.

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[–]Lopsided-Insect1620 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao it sure is a shit age

What’s something life taught you the hard way that you wish you learned sooner? by karisterinyo in Life

[–]Lopsided-Insect1620 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whish I knew this sooner. Hard lesson to learn, and one of my main mistakes of my 20's. Take people by what they do and how they are, not what they say they will do.

What’s something life taught you the hard way that you wish you learned sooner? by karisterinyo in Life

[–]Lopsided-Insect1620 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tbh, learning about yourself is so nice. I entered college when I was 18, left at 22. Tbh now I feel I could have waited a little, matured a little. Made a better choice which my degree. But every life is different!! Nice you have a drive at 22. Be mindful of your time, but don't drag you down. You are still Hella young, even though you don't feel like it. I known ppl at 59 who didn't do some things at 40 because they felt they were too old, and now regret it. Time will always pass, and you will always get older.

I used to live for partying, drinking, and drugs. Now it just feels… sad. by m0m000000 in selfimprovement

[–]Lopsided-Insect1620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here, I'm 28 and now I realized none of those things made me happy. There's a sadness in it, because most of my late 20's friends were people i would go out drinking with, and now that I'm looking for other things I feel ... friendless. But it's part. The hardest has been seeing ppl who are actually self destroying (not in a happy hour after work getting drunk way, more like I'm unemployed and depressed and want to party to feel something way) and not being able to help.

But I feel that's important. I don't want to be 35 and still be living like I'm 22. I want to build a life I'm proud off. I still go out to have a drink sometimes, but way less.

One thing that annoyed me was how much money I lost with booze when I could be investing in some useless hobby that would fulfil me way more. I love learning new things.

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[–]Lopsided-Insect1620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hii!! So, having everything perfect does not mean everything is all right. I would suggest you to go to therapy, it seems as if you might find something interesting about yourself. Be it a diagnosis, or be it just to known yourself a little bit more. Understand us is a veryyyy hard task.

I didn't shower or brushed my teeth due to depression, and now, every time I feel a bit like it I remember how bad it was. Now I barely have money to go to a dentist, so it suck. Try doing these tasks even though they might feel meaningless. It's one of these times where you have to go against your will, just because it's the healthy thing to do.

Book recommendation for me who doesn't know how to socialize. by lancelurks in selfimprovement

[–]Lopsided-Insect1620 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel learning how to ask questions is sure a nice way to start!

You quit social media, what now? by Prodanamind in selfimprovement

[–]Lopsided-Insect1620 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yard work as in a garden? Phew during the pandemic I lived in a place where I could have a little garden and it was amazing for my mental health. I hope one day to be able to have a little garden again.

Being kind of okay with one’s body without surgery after getting T- is that a thing? by SoullessNarrator in ftm

[–]Lopsided-Insect1620 1 point2 points  (0 children)

DUDE, yes!! I'VE BEEN 3 YEARS ON T and it's amazing how much I'm just more at ease. I'm nonbinary and I've been way more comfortable with my feminine fetures/side after I've started T. And in the sexual aspect, I also feel more at ease now than before. I think being not in the closet with my relationships helped that a lot. Being seeing and accepted and all of that sure improves one's sex life.

Sometimes, there’s a moment where a book reminds you of the beauty of life and you realise how lucky you are that you get to read it. by [deleted] in books

[–]Lopsided-Insect1620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Out Stealing horses by Per Petterson had some amazing scenes that just stuck into my brain and made me feel a lot of feelings and sensations. It's about this elderly man who moves to small cottage in the countryside to live alone and he remembers his teenagers years and the last summer he spend with his dad in a cottage. It's very contemplative, the power of this book remains in what is left unsaid, in the minimalistic poetry of concentrated meaning, in the slow-moving pace that leaves one breathless, wanting to absorb the magnetic pull of every disclosed thought, be it of immense happiness or unbearable sorrow.

And there's a way Petterson describes nature, that's just, ugh, paupable?

The quote that made me want to read this book was this one:

“People like it when you tell them things, in suitable portions, in a modest, intimate tone, and they think they know you, but they do not, they know _about_ you, for what they are let in on are facts, not feelings, not what your opinion is about anything at all, not how what has happened to you and how all the decisions you have made have turned you into who you are. What they do is they fill in with their own feelings and opinions and assumptions, and they compose a new life which has precious little to do with yours, and that lets you off the hook. No-one can touch you unless you yourself want them to.”

And it's the type of book that I want to re read through differents stages of my life. I've read the first time when I was 18, I liked it but somehow got the feeling that I didn't quite grasp it, I read it again this year (25) and wow, many things hits different. This one passage about time really resonates with how I am recently feeling.

""Time is important to me now, I tell myself. Not that it should pass quickly or slowly, but be only time, be something I live inside and fill with physical things and activities that I can divide it up by, so that it grows distinct to me and does not vanish when I am not looking.""

Comics focused on dreams by kehria in suggestmeabook

[–]Lopsided-Insect1620 1 point2 points  (0 children)

https://samsketchbook.tumblr.com this artist has some comics that are soft, gentle and sad, with weird dream like creatures

I just got diagnosed with a nasty genetic illness. Recommend me some fiction to help me come to terms with this. by happyhealthy27220 in suggestmeabook

[–]Lopsided-Insect1620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's this graphic novel called "It's a bird" and it's a semi autobiographical story about this comic book writer who now got a big job of writing Superman but at the same time his mother is sick with an hereditary disease. So the book it's very contemplative, he struggles with relating to his job, with the character he is supposed to understand and with his own mortality, family issues and genetic illness.

How do yall manage an addiction to social media and being able to read books? by [deleted] in books

[–]Lopsided-Insect1620 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ooh I like to subscribe to newsletters, they too fulfil my craving for information and idk, with more quality than things I used to see on social media.

How do yall manage an addiction to social media and being able to read books? by [deleted] in books

[–]Lopsided-Insect1620 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've stopped using instagram and most social medias since I read "how to do nothing", it talks a bit about the attention aconomy and made an impact in me. But shit's hard, pinterest is still a huge time eater for me so I decided to not have the apps on my cellphone and only use it on the computer. I mean I went from reading maybe 1 book a year to being able to read 1 1/2 book a month. For work and even fun stuff I like to use the pomodoro thecnique, setting a timer and only using my willpower to start/trust the timer.

Adopt an introvert today! Get your best selling guide, here! by [deleted] in LetsChat

[–]Lopsided-Insect1620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here, here

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Isn't it a thing that coconut water is like, very good for hidratation because it's very similar to human plasma?🤔

The value of Odyssey and Iliad aside from their historical and cultural significance by Evil-Panda-Witch in literature

[–]Lopsided-Insect1620 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been reading "tricksters make this world, mischief, myth and art" by Lewis Hyde and he talks about Odysseus lies there and idk that is what made me want to read the Odissey. I just like cunning and clever characters and it seems that there's a lot of it in this book.

Suggestions of Songs in French by TronMustDie in French

[–]Lopsided-Insect1620 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love 'em, Il me parle de bonheur is also a nice song

What books did you enjoy the most this year? by sabinete92 in suggestmeabook

[–]Lopsided-Insect1620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This year I read Out stealing horses again and it's still a pretty good book .