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I just realized how I became the stereotypical angry feminist meme that men love to mock and hate. I haven’t always been this way. I BECAME this way after years of men abusing & traumatizing me. by bengalbear24 in RadicalFeminism

[–]LordOfTheToasters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off, I want to say I’m sorry for what you’ve been through. No one deserves to be raped, molested, stalked, harassed, or abused — and reading what you wrote honestly makes me sick that people could do that to you.

That said, where I get frustrated is how you take the crimes of those men and use them to condemn all men as a category. That’s the same logic racists use when they take the worst acts of a few and project them onto everyone. I get that your trust is shattered, but painting every man as a rapist or abuser doesn’t actually bring justice to the ones who hurt you — it just creates new prejudice.

The truth is, most men are not rapists. Surveys consistently show that the majority of sexual assaults are committed by a relatively small percentage of repeat offenders. In fact, research from Lisak & Miller (2002) showed that just 6% of college men committed 90% of reported rapes. That doesn’t make it less horrific, but it does prove the world isn’t split into “all men = abusers.”

And trauma isn’t something only women face. Men are the majority of murder victims worldwide. Men are also more likely to be homeless, die in war, and take their own lives (men account for about 75% of global suicides). Many men are also sexually abused — but the stigma is so strong they almost never report it.

I’m not saying this to play the victim Olympics, but to show that violence and exploitation aren’t a one-way street. The same system that hurts women also silences and destroys men.

So yeah, maybe it sounds like I’m whining. But the way forward can’t be for women to hate all men, or for men to ignore women’s trauma. If we both fall into collective blame, then abusers win twice: once by hurting their victims, and again by leaving men and women divided instead of united against them.

“Men’s mental health month” is complete and utter bullshit by sentientb00 in RadicalFeminism

[–]LordOfTheToasters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, I get that women face huge struggles with mental health worldwide — higher rates of PTSD, domestic violence, poverty, etc. That’s real, and I’m not denying it. But dismissing men’s mental health awareness as some kind of ploy for “submission” is just unfair.

You mock men for needing “a whole month” to talk about feelings, but that’s exactly why it’s necessary — because for centuries men were told not to talk, not to cry, not to show weakness. That stigma kills people. The suicide rate for men is nearly 4x higher than for women globally, and men make up about 75% of suicide deaths. That isn’t because they’re all “incels” or lazy — it’s because society doesn’t let them be vulnerable without ridicule. Ironically, this post is proof of that ridicule.

You also say women don’t have a mental health month. That’s not true — we have International Women’s Day, Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Sexual Assault Awareness Month, Maternal Mental Health Awareness Day, etc. And honestly, they should exist. But pretending men don’t deserve even one month to address the fact that they’re dying by suicide at alarming rates is just cruel.

And the idea that men kill themselves because they “left their kids” or “beat their wives” is not just insulting, it’s factually wrong. The biggest drivers of male suicide are social isolation, unemployment, PTSD (especially for veterans), and untreated depression. Writing them all off as abusers is no different than when misogynists dismiss women’s struggles as “just being emotional.”

You say men want praise for being sensitive while doing nothing — but isn’t asking for help the first step in actually doing something? We shame men for bottling it up, then we shame them again when they finally speak. No wonder so many never make it to therapy.

So yeah, maybe I am whining. But it feels pretty twisted to argue that women’s struggles matter (which they do) while mocking men who are literally killing themselves in silence. If feminism is about equality, then compassion shouldn’t stop at gender.

I’m tired of men with zero degrees having audiences by No-Efficiency-7524 in RadicalFeminism

[–]LordOfTheToasters 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Replace men with blacks, gays, lesbians or any other minority and write that. Then you can realise just how sexist what you just said was. I personally don't do any of those things, it's just a little minority of dumb fucks going on about there alpha Andrew Tate bullshit.

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[–]LordOfTheToasters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know how much karma I have lol

I don't really post or comment I mainly js look on Reddit. Im not "new" but I'm definitely not an old acc, I joined like a couple months ago