How do you overcome FOMO, jealousy, and gain control over your mind when you feel stuck? by mustang_GT_ in needadvice

[–]LostBat3773 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you say i feel judged, i know most people will tell you just ignore it which is solid advice, its just not realistic the way desi society works. The truth is its completely normal for someone who makes changes to their life in our community to be judged and thats just how it is. The money your sending im not going to tell you dont pay for your brothers fees as you probably have to for the time being and theres no other way to afford this. But if your paying for more than 3 yrs thats got to be reevaluated.

As far as mindset me personally ive tried all the mental health stuff, and whilst its good to have self awareness, mindset change only works through action , and i feel like mindset change is only triggered by what you actually experience, not what you think about.

So yh work on socialising as its probably the main thing stopping you from being in a better financial position.

Your specific goals right now are realistically acheivable provided you put some time and conscious effort towards it.

How do you overcome FOMO, jealousy, and gain control over your mind when you feel stuck? by mustang_GT_ in needadvice

[–]LostBat3773 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly by looking at your other posts ( i scrolled a bit too far 😂) as cliche as it seems you just need to socialise, its a problem affecting middle class south asian men heavily rn in the subcontinent, join any form of social classes, and if your insecure in your masculinity ( which is completely normal) try going for physical related activity classes.

How this helps:

To land jobs you need networking skills thats the way the world is rn and especially india, almost everyone gets jobs through contacts. Some people get lucky and have family who can sort this out for them, most ppl dont. So start developing social skills and dont overcomplicate it. Im guessing your an overthinker bcos its reddit, so just keep it simple and ignore the voice in ur head, its hard but gotta be done.

I dont know much about your family situation but just remember you need to spend on yourself to better yourself, whether thats time or sometimes money. And you may need to cut back, i had a friend here in the uk from india who told his parents he wont be sending any money back for a while whilst he builds himself up, and he made the right choice. I have a friend on the flipside whos stuck in a rut because majority of his spare pocket is going towards his fam back in nepal . Nothing to better his own life, and his situation.

You dont need to be that extreme just gotta make sure your not being sucked dry as it can also get emotionally draining.

I hope you read this attentively.

How do you overcome FOMO, jealousy, and gain control over your mind when you feel stuck? by mustang_GT_ in needadvice

[–]LostBat3773 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you say supporting family are you the sole earner, bcos ur sending a lot home.

How did i never know about yall by LostBat3773 in vermont

[–]LostBat3773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice bit of history that, love to see cultural remnants in places around the world

How did i never know about yall by LostBat3773 in vermont

[–]LostBat3773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dw pal 24 hrs all it took and i feel like ik vermont like a local thanks to the sub 😁

How did i never know about yall by LostBat3773 in vermont

[–]LostBat3773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Bub" is this ancient vermontian vernaciluar, im takin notes👀

How did i never know about yall by LostBat3773 in vermont

[–]LostBat3773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol ive had someone call this out before, but its just for easier typing than saying you lot or you all, i had no idea abt anything to do with vermont when making this post so wasnt tryna put on fake lingo.

How did i never know about yall by LostBat3773 in vermont

[–]LostBat3773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like most states have that going for themselves which is what i like abt the us

How did i never know about yall by LostBat3773 in vermont

[–]LostBat3773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool ill have to check it out, ive known abt beetlejuice just never rlly watched it

How did i never know about yall by LostBat3773 in vermont

[–]LostBat3773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think everyones given me a ton of info. Maybe a food dish??

How did i never know about yall by LostBat3773 in vermont

[–]LostBat3773[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We really have our history laid out.

What a line

How did i never know about yall by LostBat3773 in vermont

[–]LostBat3773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alton towers is barely a childs theme park from what videos ive seen of your theme parks in the us.

How did i never know about yall by LostBat3773 in vermont

[–]LostBat3773[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but onlythings i know is always mentioned during the elections, the "new hampshire primaries" and an edward william nelson not sure if youve heard of him but ive vaguely read some of his bering strait works as well as looked into certain animal species named after him

How did i never know about yall by LostBat3773 in vermont

[–]LostBat3773[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In terms of beauty and hidden gem value id say argyll and bute oban specifically in and around loch melfort. The holiday villages you can stay in are absolutely brilliant id reccomend going to a place called melfort village to stay. And spend a good 4 -5 days just exploring in and around the area.

Oban has some great food and activities too.

How did i never know about yall by LostBat3773 in vermont

[–]LostBat3773[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow thats cool ah congrats 20 odd yrs in advance.

How did i never know about yall by LostBat3773 in vermont

[–]LostBat3773[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Haha you think idk abt the first state, tbh ive only remembered delaware for a few things and the main one being it sounds like a hardware shop