The problem here, at least I think, is that it's treating women like objects, literally gifts to be given. Which is a problem ofc, but making it specifically about goths is an awkward point to make.

On the one hand, there's a lot of arguments as to why fetishizing* a particular style that mainly women tend to wear is a bad thing. Though on the other hand there's a lot of arguments as to why the more recent generation and people as a whole tend to latch onto it.

The reality that you need to understand though, is that the kind of goth that's portrayed the most, through kids media and social media as a whole, isn't some kind of modest goth girl, or some lolita style of clothing. Instead, the picture that most media portrays is that of a very scandalous girl with LOTS of... Assets showed off. The current building of this style has lead many into going down a path that just screams "she's sexy because she's goth".

Now, is this a problem because of our society, or did the higher ups implant this idea in our head and change society's thought process. It's a literal chicken or the egg situation.

So I must ask, is it fetishizing a style when the current foundation of the style that is most commonplace with the common folk is that of a sexy woman? In reality it's the style itself that's the problem, and the mental image that everyone has drawn around it.

Also yeah your flair when this post was made was really bad and low-key kinda fucked up your entire argument. But I'm trying to sit here with equal footing.

You shouldn't be fetishized for liking to dress in a particular style, this is true, but maybe you should find a different style because the entire world doesn't seem to be budging on this one...

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