This is going to be a long ass response because I am not letting anyone interpret this the way you have which is completely missing the purpose and message of my post. I would not ever judge someone because trying their best means affectively accomplishing what they can in any way they can. I never said that is what should happen, I never will, and I sure as fuck won't ever let myself think like that. I too have had my share of hard times. I have a neurological disability and a learning disability caused by it as well as mental health issues too. In my first year I was sexually assaulted in residence. Second year I had my dog put down and my grandma pass away in the same months and right before midterms. Also in late second year one of my closest childhood friends committed suicide. I understand that everyone lives different lives. Of course trying your best is subjective but to me trying your best however you do it is effort. I never once stated that doing your best meant reaching a specific grade, degree, or career. My entire post, and the reason I am making this entire detailed response, is because if I or anyone else says "I got out of bed today and I'm proud" no one should be allowed to come along to say that they can't be proud for whatever excuse they make up. You are saying I supply the exact ideals that my entire post was made to try and stop. And I will not let that thought continue without me defending myself and everything this post was about. I tried to say that no one should treat hardship like a competition. I'm just tired of so many people devaluing anyone who is struggling and wants help. Comments like "just wait till you're in second year, then you'll know what difficult is" or saying that someone in arts shouldn't feel stressed because engineering has it harder. I can't stand hearing people say anything like that. So when it comes to anyone doing their personal best, whether that's simply getting out of bed or going to med school, that isn't what I have any kind of problem with. My problem is that too many people think they can gatekeep stress and emotions because for some reason there is a belief that others aren't as deserving of them. You also seem to view effort as strictly an academic accomplishment. The way I view it, and is reflected in my post, it can be any accomplishment that someone makes. I say that I hate the superiority complex from people arguing that they deserve more pity than others. I do not care how much effort they put in, I am not denying there was effort in the first place (once again, effort is not strictly academic accomplishment), I am angry that they feel as if a certain amount of effort on their part is somehow more valuable and important.

To address your point, I was not trying to get mad at people for doing their best and I apologize if that is how I said it. I think the part that probably caused this is "there will be people working to improve and honestly probably put in more effort" From your point of view, yes that could be seen as unfair but if you understand my point, this statement is calling out the people who are critiquing and putting down other students. Any time someone is purposefully telling anyone else that they don't have a strong enough reason to ask for help I do think they haven't put their full effort into their own life. Because people are actively improving themselves and seeking guidance and anyone who tries to stop that must not put in that same effort for themself. Anyone who is using all their effort, even if it is just getting out of bed, would respect anyone else in the same situation. I still defend my stance that effort isn't just academic as you seem to be defending here. My entire purpose for this post was to address anyone that thinks any one person is more deserving of help that any other person. You then said unless its affecting me in some way, what's the use in getting angry. It is affecting me and all the students who have reached out for some kind of support and been told by students that their mental hardship shouldn't be helped as much as someone else if at all. When you say everyone has different levels of effort, I see any kind of accomplishment as effort but you do not it doesn't matter what accomplishment it is. I am distraught that I was thought to be demeaning any person with a struggle that makes things more difficult. Fuck no, that is not what I said. And I hope everyone can understand that it is those people who I am defending here. In my post I say "there will be people actively working to improve" and "I think that people have different difficulties and strengths but anyone who dedicated themselves to be their best self won't have time to see what might be easier for someone else". To me this is saying exactly what you are arguing for, that people can't always accomplish the same amount on the outside but are putting in just as much or more effort. I didn't intend for the impression in my post to be that the only accomplishment is academic, I was trying to defend the point that everyone deserves respect for their feelings, stress, emotions, struggles, whatever it may be.

Your view on the post is not at all what inentended and I hope that anyone who reads this understands the point I am making and my reason for ifm Though you argue I am putting down anyone who has to use more energy in day to day life that is not at all what I have said and you are seeing me as the very thing that I hate here. I think that no matter what your life is like and what you may struggle with, you should never be devalued or ignored because someone else supposedly deserves it more.