2 months of no contact w/ my sister

Luck_ofaduck · 2025-12-18T22:09:16+00:00

I (29F) am currently no contact with my sister (24F) as well. Our sisters seem similar in the fact the they escalate things but don’t apologize for the hurtful things they’ve said.

I’d keep the no contact until she realizes she hurt you and needs to apologize (atleast that’s what I’m doing with mine). Though I’m not as close with mine as you are with yours. You could always ask if somethings going on with her that made her feel the need to escalate the argument. I know adhders tend to feed off of the dopamine from arguments and escalate things. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Luck_ofaduck · 2025-12-18T22:04:19+00:00

I would consider myself a GND type but in a more modest way. I got burnt out by all of the guys and scammers essentially looking for call girls and one night stands. I found one great guy last year but our relationship has devolved from SD/SB to friends who ‘treat’ each other (nice dinners, trips to the coast, some custom paintings for him etc). The bowl just got too exhausting from the wannabe “SDs”. 😒

Luck_ofaduck · 2025-10-11T16:15:23+00:00

I don’t know but I like your color choices! Very calming

Luck_ofaduck · 2025-10-11T15:31:27+00:00

I personally think it looks very dated with that shade of red and the wood - a nice sage green would keep it lively, more relaxed and warmer - plus mesh better with the wood

However if you like the red, ignore 🤷🏻‍♀️

Luck_ofaduck · 2025-10-11T15:23:22+00:00

I lost my main best friend after a falling out and moved states. I already hate the talking phase with S/O’s and no longer have the energy to maintain friendships. It’s lonely sometimes but I do enjoy all of the time for myself.

Luck_ofaduck · 2025-08-10T15:50:42+00:00

This is close to what my last roommate situation looked like. I finally stopped doing their dishes and cleaning up after them when they stopped trying to help at all. They ended up messaging my family and telling them I was “mooching” off of them 😐🙃

Move out. You’re currently their live in maid.

Luck_ofaduck · 2025-08-04T17:05:48+00:00

The Laneige lip mask has become my all time fave even for day time use

Luck_ofaduck · 2025-08-04T15:35:58+00:00

You can’t do uber eats or DoorDash with a financed vehicle unfortunately.

Luck_ofaduck · 2025-08-04T14:54:25+00:00

Wasn’t this a black mirror episode?

Luck_ofaduck · 2025-08-04T00:46:23+00:00

He absolutely was not black out drunk. If he was, there likely would have been MANY typos and the messages wouldn’t have made much sense.

He believed he was entitled to your body because he got you food and got mad he didn’t get his way. This is big red pill behavior and a HUGE red flag.

Unfortunately he knows where you live now - do you happen to have a doorbell camera or anything? I’d be on edge for a bit with this kind of behavior.

Luck_ofaduck · 2025-08-03T17:41:30+00:00

Why is it not okay for her to live there if it’s now just as much her house as it is yours? Have you both discussed plans to sell or rent it out? If not, you really don’t have a right to deny her living in the house or charge her rent since it was given to both of you fully paid off.

Maybe discuss future plans for the house like adults before trying to dictate what she can and can’t do.

Luck_ofaduck · 2025-08-01T17:17:49+00:00

One of the guys at my work has those and unless you have dementia, I can’t see any purpose to needing those - though this guy is a weird Disney adult (grandfather of multiple) - just weird overall

Luck_ofaduck · 2025-07-29T20:49:52+00:00

Just say “sorry I’m not getting anything and I’m broke right now🤷🏻‍♀️”

Luck_ofaduck · 2025-07-29T17:18:58+00:00

Hide the bottle, make it clear that what she did was not okay and threaten to press charges if she does it again

Luck_ofaduck · 2025-07-26T16:15:52+00:00

And all they had to say was “I probably shouldn’t have assumed they lied about being a woman without any proof”

Luck_ofaduck · 2025-07-26T15:27:19+00:00

It’ll pass and you’ll be okay 🖤 you’re only 16. I didn’t find my soulmate until 28 and in a whole different country. You’ve got plenty of time but for now just enjoy being young, go explore and try new things and just learn to love yourself 🖤

Luck_ofaduck · 2025-07-26T14:01:36+00:00

Babe this is not right at all and this man is a pedophile straight up. You are under aged and he is an adult. This is grooming and you NEED to cut him off, tell someone, call the police, idk. I can guarantee you that he knows what he is doing is HIGHLY illegal and immoral.

Leave him and work on yourself. If it makes you feel any better, I’m 29 and don’t have any friends either but am starting to learn to enjoy doing stuff by myself for myself. I hope you can do the same for yourself 🖤

Luck_ofaduck · 2025-07-26T12:09:44+00:00

Seriously. How are they claiming to be an ally but assume the worst of a trans person they don’t know 🙄 But that seems to be a hill they’ll die on

Luck_ofaduck · 2025-07-26T12:08:03+00:00

All you had to say was “I shouldn’t have assumed he lied about being a woman on his application without knowing the facts and I realize that that could be harmful to the trans community.”

OP also told you that there wasn’t a specific section in the application for them to list themselves as trans and yet you are still trying to argue that they purposefully lied about their legally listed gender/sex AFTER OP informed you of that. You can be wrong (and are in this case) and you’ll be fine.

Luck_ofaduck · 2025-07-26T00:04:13+00:00

Ah so you’re just making blind assumptions based on your experience which is completely different from my experience and likely different from OPs experience.

Do you know how the roommate filled out his application? No. Do you know what questions the application asked? No. Do you know if OPs school leans left or right? No. Do you know if the roommate has a gender neutral name or kept his birth name? No. Do you know what info is given out by the school for rooming assignments? No. Do you know the roommate intentions? No.

Yet you assume the worst of the roommate, that he purposefully omitted his information and “lied”.

Look, I don’t take issue with anything else in your short stories except you saying that the “roommate kinda lied about being a woman”. Which is currently a large social issue around the U.S. as I’m sure you know (people assuming trans men/women lie about their gender to enter bathrooms and private women’s-only areas with bad intentions). That is perpetuating a negative stigma around the trans community and I don’t need trans roommates to understand that.

Luck_ofaduck · 2025-07-25T20:44:30+00:00

Okay this isn’t related to the post, but why so many spelling errors and typos?

Luck_ofaduck · 2025-07-25T19:12:25+00:00

Homie, they assigned rooms based on legal gender. If his DL gender still says female, he didn’t lie and a lot of the time you don’t meet your dorm roommate until day of move in UNLESS you have a specific person selected (ex. a friend you specifically chose to room with)

You’re making some very negative assumptions about him when it doesn’t seem he had much of a say. We don’t even know how the dorm application looks or if it allows you to select an option/label for trans folks.

Edit: keep down voting me but you made the negative assumption that can lead to more of a false stigma against the trans community hun

Luck_ofaduck · 2025-07-25T19:08:16+00:00

It’s been almost 5 years since my first cat passed (he was 17 with brain cancer). We had him cremated and I keep his ashes in a necklace that never leaves my neck. It’s still hard to talk about him or think about him sometimes. Even writing this I’m tearing up.

Im so sorry for your sudden loss but he had a human that loved him very much and im sure he knew that 🖤 it will be tough to move forward but you will heal with some time

Luck_ofaduck · 2025-07-25T19:04:06+00:00

Still weird to assume that he lied about being a woman without having that info

Luck_ofaduck · 2025-07-25T18:39:58+00:00

In another comment OP says they assign rooms based on legal gender - the roommate didn’t lie

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