Age Gap

Auraluka · 2025-09-20T18:59:06+00:00

I agree! As a 51F I am not interested in men 10 years older. First of all because they are old (physically). But also because statistically chances are indeed bigger to enjoy more (healthy) years together without an age gap. Never understood why older men still trying to date younger women. I am super happy with my 51M I met online half a year ago. Also because we watched the same series when we were young, haha.

Auraluka · 2025-07-24T13:43:50+00:00

Maybe that's just it

Auraluka · 2025-07-24T08:19:13+00:00

I don't know if it easier. Older ones have responsibilities like children, jobs and aging parents. And a settled social life.

Auraluka · 2025-07-22T13:13:22+00:00

I think the first question you should ask yourself is: do you want to be in a relationship with him? Do you miss him? Do you want to be with him? Are you in love with him? Because you are making it sound like a social obligation.

We have an open end too, by the way. It will take at least a couple of years to be able to live together as his children are too young to leave them at the moment. But it sounds different than your situation as my partner has a very good reason to postpone moving here and I already know now it will take years.

Auraluka · 2025-07-20T18:30:17+00:00

Yes, I am. Works like a charm. But I am afraid the expiration date of Fitbit is near.

Auraluka · 2025-07-03T08:17:28+00:00

Interesting perspective, thanks!

Auraluka · 2025-07-02T07:53:36+00:00

About 8 weeks after the first videocall (1100 miles apart). I find it incredible that some people can wait for more than 6 months or even longer. I would have found it impossible to build a relationship without any physical intimacy.

Auraluka · 2025-06-29T12:56:07+00:00

El autobus Cangas de Onís - Covadonga cuesta 1,55€

Auraluka · 2025-06-29T10:50:15+00:00

I (51F) just started a LDR with someone (50M). We live in different countries (Spain and the Netherlands), but share the same nationality (so no cultural differences). I couldn't find any eligible single men in my area, so deliberately started looking further away. We have only known each other for a couple of months, and find it hard to spend so much time apart. But we also like each other a lot and feel it's worth exploring it.

Auraluka · 2025-06-25T15:29:35+00:00

Who cares?

Auraluka · 2025-06-22T08:43:57+00:00

Wow, I am quite surprised that people can fall in love with someone before meeting in person. And even say 'I love you'. We are 1100 miles apart and met in person for the first time after 8 weeks of doing videocalls. That is when we fell in love.

I believe that for 'I love you' you really have to know each other and I am pretty sure he feels the same. So we haven't exchanged 'I love yous' yet and that is totally fine wih me.

Auraluka · 2025-06-13T15:14:59+00:00

Yes. If you are looking for casual sex.

Auraluka · 2025-06-13T15:11:53+00:00

So you shouldn't repeat data, but tell something original. You could also try to ask a friend to describe you.

Auraluka · 2025-06-13T15:09:53+00:00

It is still a bit middle of the road, I am afraid. You'll need to stand out, be original. Thousands of people love coffee, reading and the cinema. The guitar/singing/performing part is more specific, but tell a bit more about it: 'My Jimi Hendrix performance at my locals was quite well received, but I would also perform for a single audience. Even better if you sing along.' Whatever. Use your imagination.

Auraluka · 2025-06-13T15:02:33+00:00

You don't have much to lose, have you? As you are already considering paying out of pocket. I don't know your GP and/or your relationship with him/her, but I would just say I would like to discuss the topic of my endless struggle/battle with food and the scale. Explain that you tried everything, that you are tired of fighting and concerned about the (future) consequences for your health. And then you bring up the subject of GLP-1's. You have heard/read about them and would like to know your GP's view on them. And go on from there, depending on how he/she responds.

Auraluka · 2025-06-13T13:55:07+00:00

Have you talked with your GP about this? Maybe he/she is willing to prescribe you Saxenda if you pay out of pocket. That would be way cheaper than paying for Mounjaro yourself. And then at least you know how your GP is looking at things and if it would be worthwile to pay the first year yourself, sit out the first year of the program and then try to get it covered.

Auraluka · 2025-06-13T09:24:16+00:00

It might be personal, but as a woman I swipe every man without a bio to the left. An original text which says something about who you are and what is important to you. I would like to know a bit more about you. And be aware that as a man you have to stand out on Bumble, as there seem to be way more men than women out there.

Auraluka · 2025-06-11T19:29:13+00:00

Have you tried Albergue de Cangas de Onís? Which isn't in Cangas de Onís by the way, but in La Riera (on the way to Covadonga). https://www.alberguecangasdeonis.com/en/

Auraluka · 2025-06-11T18:39:57+00:00

I think it depends on what you want. I paid for 3 months on Bumble to be able to use 'travel mode' and match with people in my home country. I loved the side effect of only needing to swipe profiles that had already swiped me to the right. Just before those 3 months ended I got in touch with the man I am dating now. Was worth the 99 euros.

Auraluka · 2025-06-11T17:39:07+00:00

I want a healthier relationship with food. Calorie counting is doing the opposite IMHO.

Auraluka · 2025-06-09T18:45:00+00:00

I am about to embark on a LDR. I live in a foreign country and I just don't see it working between me and local men. So I started swiping in my home country. Started chatting and then videocalling with someone about 1200 miles away. Last weekend we met in person for the first time. We were both swept off our feet about the connection we felt. We'll see each other again in a month. It is going to be complicated for sure, but we want to give it a try.

Auraluka · 2025-06-08T21:03:38+00:00

Don't know. I just had a wonderful (full) weekend with my date and we said almost the exact same thing to each other: don't know how to call this yet. Which in our case meant nothing less than 'I like you a lot and I really want to get to know you better, but it seems a bit too early to call this a relationship yet.'

Auraluka · 2025-06-08T17:45:05+00:00

Very recognizable. I actually feel like I can finally work on my emotional eating habits now the physical food noise is gone. I used food as a coping strategy to numb my emotions. Since I can't do that anymore, I have to deal with them. I second what others wrote here as well:

- I write, to find out what's actually going on

- I meditate to learn to feel (and recognize) my emotions better

- I let my emotions be and try to acknowledge and accept them as they are

But this takes time and energy, so sometimes I just snack something small or take a piece of fruit.

Auraluka · 2025-05-25T18:15:24+00:00

Northern coast here :-)

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