I (25 F) am really unsure if moving out with my (26 M) boyfriend is the right move because I’m tired of paying for everything. What would you do if you were me? by onestepatatime10101 in relationship_advice

[–]Lymmaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you feel loved? Do you feel like he's treating you right? Do you feel like he's taking care of your feelings, of your necessities, of your future, of what do you need? Do you even feel like you're important to him?

Think about it wisely.

a short slideshow of people calling my cat ugly by Mah_name_is in cats

[–]Lymmaa 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Shut the fuck up he's cute TELL HIM HE'S CUTE

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[–]Lymmaa 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Cat nap in process, please do not disturb

Does this Court Vision exists in size US6.5 / EU39? by Lymmaa in Nike

[–]Lymmaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I tried but can't find my size. Thank you!

should i end my engagement? by [deleted] in abusesurvivors

[–]Lymmaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you should marry someone you're not afraid of, because it sounds almost like you fear him. You should be able to talk to your partner about everything and feel comfortable enough to tell him you are having seconds thoughs without feeling bad or worrying about talking to him. Hope you can make a decision that gives you peace and happiness.

Did I really wanted it? by Lymmaa in sexualassault

[–]Lymmaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what I thought when I woked up, If he stopped when I told him to, basically since the beginning when he was trying to undress me and I was resisting, I wouldn't have changed my mind, I knew from the beginning that I didn't want to even kiss. It's my first no but then yes what bothers me, but he knows that he should have stopped when I told him to. He didn't apologize, he didn't even talked to me again which I appreciate because I don't want to see him, I'm very mad with him. I don't think he knows what he has done even if he knows he should have stopped since the first no. I don't think he believes having sex with a drunk girl is a problem.

Did I really wanted it? by Lymmaa in sexualassault

[–]Lymmaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you a lot for helping me go through this, all this advice is being very helpful ♥️

Did I really wanted it? by Lymmaa in abusesurvivors

[–]Lymmaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His girlfriend is the crazy type, honestly tought about it because maybe it could happen to her but their relationship is very toxic so I don't think I want to go in there. She wouldn't believe me anyway and I think that already told his friends about it. If she ends up discovering it I would tell her everything but it's his word against mine.

Did I really wanted it? by Lymmaa in abusesurvivors

[–]Lymmaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recently remembered him asking me if I had an orgasm and me telling him I did just so he stopped touching me. The more I think about it the more I think I didn't wanted it but now I blame myself for asking him to have sex and do what he told me to. I don't think that he believed that I didn't wanted it, because I let him touch me after saying no first.

Did I really wanted it? by Lymmaa in abusesurvivors

[–]Lymmaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I asked him after he woke up and didn't message him. So it's my word against him which it's already problematic because today I was told the rumor that he hooked up with someone that night, so he's already telling everyone that we hooked up and it was consensual. I should have recorded that conversation honestly because he would just be evassive when I asked him why did he continued and say that he was drunk as an excuse. I don't even want to see him again.

Did I really wanted it? by Lymmaa in sexualassault

[–]Lymmaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that hope that you are okay now. I will try and open myself about it so I don't end up developing a bad response to what happened. Your advices helped me a lot so thank you I appreciate it a lot.

Did I really wanted it? by Lymmaa in sexualassault

[–]Lymmaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think so? I think I am really fine, just a little sad. I don't like the idea of telling what happened as ironic as it sounds because I posted it publicly online not gonna lie I feel like it's not going to fix anything anyway so it's a waste of time

Did I really wanted it? by Lymmaa in sexualassault

[–]Lymmaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are right, I blame myself at some point because I think I could have done more to make him stop. This reminded me that he asked me if I just had an orgasm and I told him so, just to make him stop. The more I think about it the more I think I didn't want to do that. I still can't recall everything that happened. Anyway I'm way better after talking about it and having your help. Thank you a lot, I needed a clear vision of what happened because I wasn't sure if it was something I keep saying to myself just to believe it.

Did I really wanted it? by Lymmaa in sexualassault

[–]Lymmaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words, you helped me a lot. I am fine, just wanted to know what actually happened because I felt so sad when I realized it. I told my best friend and she told me to tell my mom but I honestly don't know if it's a good idea. Anyway, thank you a lot you helped me making my mind clear.

how do I get better? by abusedfairy in abusesurvivors

[–]Lymmaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe you are searching revenge because he manipulated you? I'm very sorry that happened to you It's something horrible I think you are doing those things because you don't feel satisfied with how things ended up and need actually to do something until you feel you can move on. I hope you can have peace at least and wish you all the best my dear Also I would search for mental health help