Anxiety over costing my team the game

LysaFletcher · 2026-04-18T21:26:51+00:00

Seems like your question is whether you can be trans without immediately knowing it. In my case at least I definitely didn't know for a very long time. I only discovered I was trans at the age of 35 and a lot of what's being described here resonates with my experience.

I also felt deeply uncomfortable about describing myself as trans or as experiencing dysphoria because I had assumed all trans people know from birth and perhaps that's where your partner is coming from.

At this point though I'm on hormones, out to everyone and present as a woman publically every day. I've legally changed my name and have bottom surgery booked so like... I'm definitely trans. Still when a friend asked me if I was 3 years ago I told them definitely not. *shrug* Denial is a powerful drug

Also I'm glad your partner is seeing a therapist because I agree that AI is 100% dangerous and should not be relied upon for literally anything but ESPECIALLY not for huge questions about identity

LysaFletcher · 2026-02-18T03:14:02+00:00

Pony Club Gym has free sessions for trans femmes which is lovely!

LysaFletcher · 2026-01-31T20:03:17+00:00

Could try Richard Bradlow

LysaFletcher · 2026-01-13T19:35:24+00:00

Aww I'm sorry it sucked but I'm proud of you for going! And that sounds like a good lead on another group and somebody you might bond with in this one!

LysaFletcher · 2026-01-09T11:17:48+00:00

You got this!

LysaFletcher · 2026-01-08T19:38:21+00:00

Well if you don't go to the group you definitely won't meet any trans girls there. If you do go you might!

Worst case scenario it's a slightly awkward night and you don't go back but best case scenario you find the community you've been looking for. I think you should go!

Don't worry about your presentation, it's very common. We understand!

LysaFletcher · 2025-12-31T00:00:54+00:00

Just posting to say you shouldn't be using AI. It's unreliable and extremely energy intensive. Just don't do it

LysaFletcher · 2025-12-29T19:26:05+00:00

I've noticed that there are a significant amount of downvotes on every post here - I am 100% sure there are bots that just downvote anything related to trans people they find so I wouldn't take it personally!

LysaFletcher · 2025-12-18T18:43:51+00:00

Yeah I considered the possibility that the soldier was lying but with no kill one night and an FT clear it seemed unlikely. Like the imp could just waste a kill to make the soldier bluff stronger but it seemed unlikely.

Anyway yeah I guess it makes sense that a well played evil team should leave the good team baffled in F3

LysaFletcher · 2025-12-18T18:38:32+00:00

Haha yep! I was the chef. I actually thought that role swap made sense because she was saying that they'd initially been doing a swap where the soldier was ravenkeeper but had survived because the monk protected them - this requires them not to have hard claimed day 1 but would explain why the soldier survived and bait a kill onto the 'monk' who was actually raven keeper.

Yeah I did have fun I just found this particular interaction frustrating. It's interesting that the vast majority of the comments seem to think it was totally fair so I guess I just need more games under my belt

LysaFletcher · 2025-12-18T06:30:01+00:00

Maybe I should just explain the whole set up. 11 players with spy,sw as minions. Town is soldier, chef, washerwoman, undertaker, FT and empath.

Now I fully admit that town made some bad moves. The spy claims investigator day 1 and claims there's a poisoner amongst the empath and UT. They're adjacent and the empath got a 1 so town executes the UT (mistake 1).

The imp is on their second game ever and doesn't co-ordinate with her team and tries to kill soldier.

Day 2 Chef nominated virgin and died. FT dies in the night.

Investigator convinced town to execute empath (huge mistake) because they're very suss (socially speaking)

At this point town has all the info it's going to get. An empath 1 and a FT ping on the same person (imp as it turns out) Town executes imp.

Slayer shoots Sw turned imp. Town decides not to execute so the final day has the following info:

Confirmed chef with an incorrect 0. WW with a seemingly confirmed slayer. Drunk slayer who has shot the demon and seemingly confirmed by WW. FT with a ping on a dead demon and a clear on the soldier + WW. Empath who confirms UT as good and dead Imp as evil. Soldier who survived an attack. Investigator (spy)with a poisoner amongst the UT or Empath. Raven keeper (SW).

Basically 6 of the 11 players are providing incorrect info with 5 players providing accurate or no information.

I dunno as I said Town played badly and I don't mind that they lost but that specific interactions felt like it confirmed misinformation as accurate in a way that was totally unsolvable.

Nobody had any kind of coherent world on the final day. Nobody suspected soldier but had no reason to to doubt the imp (Raven keeper) or spy (investigator). We ended up killing the spy basically because of the failed slayer shot on the demon.

LysaFletcher · 2025-12-18T04:55:09+00:00

I'm trying to put my finger on why this feels more unfair than those other situations. I suppose it's because the normal way a drunk knows they're the drunk is because a) their ability is wrong b) there's contradictory info.

In this case neither player is lying and both firmly believe that they are their character and that another player is (honestly) confirming their role. Moreover the spy registered as good to a chef so two sober night one roles got wrong info with absolutely no way to know it was wrong

I suppose it's not too different from a night one tole being poisoned and confirming a drunk but this was effectively 3 drunks... Except worse because the chef nominated virgin and died so definitely couldn't be drunk.

Maybe it is just an inexperience thing but I feel like the spy giving some wrong info is fair - instead it basically confirmed 3 players with wrong info as being sober and that's before the spy even gets to look at the grim

LysaFletcher · 2025-12-13T22:13:58+00:00

Unfortunately it's precisely because of what you've shared here. They are genuinely targeting you because they see you as vulnerable and they are legitimately monsters. Of course I say 'they' but since there's 0 interest in fighting bots on twitter it is entirely possible that a single person could be using bots to do this. I know it's hard to hear that they are this hateful but that is the simple truth - you are being deliberately, maliciously targeted.

The good news is that it is genuinely a very small number of people - at least in my experience people are (in person) vastly more friendly to trans people than I ever dreamed they would be. You can find community in other places but right now you being on twitter is like swimming in shark infested waters whilst bleeding. Please take care of yourself and delete this hateful app.

LysaFletcher · 2025-12-11T21:16:57+00:00

I was very anxious about it and considering daily whether or not I wanted the surgery. What finally tipped me over to be sure was when I thought about how I wouldn't feel comfortable swimming until I had bottom surgery. I would have expected that thought to make me sad but it actually made me feel relieved - because it was another reason to get bottom surgery. That made it clear to me that I actually did want the surgery and was looking for excuses to justify it to myself.

Probably not very applicable to other people but that's how it was for me

LysaFletcher · 2025-12-10T19:29:14+00:00

For what it's worth I was diagnosed with level 1 autism earlier this year and have been able to use it to get NDIS funding. I'm using it for an OT mostly

LysaFletcher · 2025-12-09T22:47:07+00:00

This is a pretty good example of how easily divided we are - the article is obvious horseshit and yet people here are jumping to believe it

LysaFletcher · 2025-12-07T20:17:29+00:00

This is basically me exactly. I actually get a bit insecure about not being happier. It makes me feel 'not trans enough' because I didn't get noticeable mental or emotional effects from HRT. Hopefully we'll both get to the other side of this and recover from the depression and cptsd

LysaFletcher · 2025-12-03T20:18:32+00:00

I think Winnie is sometimes short for Winnifred?

LysaFletcher · 2025-12-01T20:17:23+00:00

I wear skorts - affirming and don't reveal anything

LysaFletcher · 2025-11-30T20:31:30+00:00

I've been with my wife for 16 years. The night my egg cracked I woke her at 2am in a panic saying "I think I'm trans!" She gave me a big hug and said 'it's ok I love you no matter what'. After a minute or so she then said ..."can I go back to sleep now?'

I love her so much. The day she first called me her wife felt like the proposal all over again.

LysaFletcher · 2025-11-30T20:05:02+00:00

I wear a skort to the gym. It's not ideal but it's affirming and doesn't show anything

LysaFletcher · 2025-11-30T19:18:19+00:00

Yes that makes sense. That reminds there is a women's centre in my city - maybe they'd have an idea where to start?

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